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Saturn In Virgo: The Responsibility Of The Blog Writer vs The Blog Reader
Astrology in real life
From email:
I feel like I write a million words and if you read them eventually you will come across one that offends you.
What kills me is I am supposed to decide what might potentially provoke one of thousands of people rather than the other person maybe cutting me some slack or giving me the benefit of the doubt?
I have no idea where the piles of crap I can step in might be because I don’t know the triggers of thousands of people but I do think the onus is on the reader at least as much as it is on me to try to think before they move to react to control or squash.
I mean, if I am really a harsh bitch (and I am sure some think I am) - they are reading the wrong blog.
If I am not a harsh bitch and prove it day in and day out then maybe it is the reader who ought to get a grip.
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I would add it would be really nice if people could decide if they like me… or not. If not, then go, go, go, go, go in droves. I work hard here, I can’t do any better and you are not a hostage. Have people completely forgotten they can vote with their feet?
Vote with your feet or vote with your tip but please think twice before mailing me to tell me I suck because I sure as hell wouldn’t do it to you.
13 Responses to “Saturn In Virgo: The Responsibility Of The Blog Writer vs The Blog Reader”
I’m surprised people still do this. As long as I’ve been reading here — since 07, but much more consistently this year, it’s been an issue. A shame you have to put up with it.
I am not putting up with it, I am writing post like this. And they may seem harsh and people may not like them but I think this is extremely important.
I CAN’T write this blog and not piss someone off somewhere. If everyone who has a bad day writes me to complain of my insensitivity and I have to try to be sensitive to them, it will not take long before I am unable to write at all.
But more importantly (since I won’t let that happen) is that people who do this sort of thing realize what they are doing. They are coming back stage and criticizing a performer and no one asked for this service.
How much of that is the performer supposed to put up with? Seriously! An hour if bitching? 2? 10 minutes? I am sick of defending myself. My defense is the 6800 posts on this blog. If that won’t do it, nothing will.
I was at a convention this weekend, and there was an actress on stage. One of the attendee’s asked a question and she explained that she didn’t want to answer - she’d been answering the question for ten years she’d explained this artistic decision time and again and she felt enough people had heard it . . and then the question replied “You haven’t explained it to meeeeeee”
Like he was owed the explanation? Uh. No. And people clapped, backing the guy up. And I was all ‘Wtf!!!!!’ And then she hit herself in the face with the mike a few times (and bucked up and answered the question) and I had nothing but sympathy. Because Really?
I think we need to grasp the idea that it isn’t about ‘you’ where ‘you’ is any particular individual and the ‘about’ is everyone else’s time/energy/decisions/direction. It is to a limited degree about ‘you’, but its a very small, very limited degree.
Hi Elsa!
I hear you! I think the topper is when someone swears up and down you’re a great astrologer–until you say something they don’t like, or better yet, they have you look at their chart and suddenly, you don’t know what you’re talking about! The ‘you’ve got insights on everyone but me’ is, I think, the close relative of the ‘I’m offended’ reader–both are handing you something that speaks of them, not the astrologer! It’s impossible not to offend someone–so keep being who you are (like I have to tell you, you are an original!) and know that you meant no offense. And of course, hope that they have the sense not to come back. (BTW, love your analogy of this reader in essence going backstage to criticize a performer–a totally unasked for service, indeed!)
That reminds me of that wise saying, “You can please some people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time” and I would add, “and some people not at any time”.
You just have to do what you have to do and keep truckin!
Ultimately I feel that what people say about you has more to do about THEM then about you, whether it is positive or negative stuff. So one who focuses on their negative reaction is really reflecting on him/herself, instead of moving on to something he/she does appreciate. (Is it their shadows having the upper hand?) No maybe about getting a grip here.
These who don’t see you as you are don’t use their brains or have none !
It’s just jealousy cause you’re good, unselfish, loving, intelligent, discerning, happy and shows it !
They’re not happy, clear and clean with themselves and unconsciously want you to be the same?!
I read you for 5 years, you’ve never been unking, vicious, mean…ect…you give all you can.
Even when you have been through very hard times.
I think, for the most part, you want people to be happy and just help!
I love and appreciate your energy very much !
ps : from France
Seriously, you should have this blog permanently in the top right corner of the page. Trolls are warned and you won’t have to write a gazillion posts with the same message. Read this and leave Elsa in peace.
It’s funny, people in general expect to be accepted for who they are and complain when they aren’t. Then they go and attack others, essentially doing the exact thing they get upset about in their own lives.
I love this blog. On occasion there has been a post I haven’t agreed with, but I didn’t think it necessary to start haranguing you because there’s a thing or two I can’t relate to or whatever. You’re not meant to be a cookie cutter version of whatever I want.
One of the things I like best about you Elsa is that you are accepting of the differences in people. I think that’s a part of why you are so successful, in addition to the fact that you’re basically providing a constant service - much of it for free!
So you are more than right, vote with your feet, take what is given so generously or take a friggin hike!
Put them on mute Elsa!
it just disturbs me how low the standard of civility in discourse has become.
maybe saturn in libra will help?
I hope Saturn in Libra will straighten things out!
I realize that my first comment may not come across very well. Not sure how to make it clearer… I should have just zipped it!
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PS - I wrote the forecasts for the week ahead and Saturn in Virgo is now squaring Venus in Gemini. That means people are going to be inclined to control / criticize other people’s speech / art / taste.
Arrrgh