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The Shadow Side Of Aquarius
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Heather writes on Astrology Today:
“I’d like to hear more about the shadow side of Aquarius–particularly if other astrologers don’t talk about it. I am a Aquarius, and I know a good handful more (in whom I can see the shadow–but thanks to a 7th house sun, I can only see myself via another…or so I’ve found. Show me my shadow?”
Yes, this has long been a bone I have to pick. Keep in mind I am a home-schooled astrologer. I never talked to another astrologer (besides my sister) until I was in my late 20’s and moved to the city.
When I got there it was the first time I was able to compare my thoughts to theirs, where “theirs” means the collective and what I found by and large was worship when it came to Uranus. Astrology is ruled by Uranus, the group was ruled by Uranus, Uranus is weird, wonderful, quirky, humanitarian and blah, blah, blah.
I keep my mouth shut at these meetings and conferences always because of the attention factor but what I was thinking at the time was how about the KKK? That’s a humanitarian group! How about NAMBLA? Progressive enough for you?
My thoughts begin and run along these lines. Both those groups are individuals, promoting social chance and liberate humanity you know.
23 Responses to “The Shadow Side Of Aquarius”
I find them very controlling. Or when someone has a mercury/uranus opp with merc in aqu or aries! I seem to have trouble with that combination: aquarius/aries folks with hard natal aspects.
But of course this is just my experience. I am a cancer sun with three planets in the 11th and an unaspected uranus
I’ve had a few aquarians in my life and have, in general, gotten on well with them. There is, however, one that stands out in my mind.
He used to be part of a larger group of friends that I spent much time with. Over the course of years we came to have an odd but interesting friendship - he dated three of my girlfriends over time. But he lied to me. A large-ish lie. One that damaged our friendship and one of my other friendships. I called him on his lying (darned taurean memory quoted him pretty much perfectly) At the time I confronted him he turned bright red in the face, admitted to lying, and then proceeded to tell me how stupid I was for believing his lie (which I hadn’t - it just took me a week to gather evidence as it were).
That just blew my mind. You can lie to me but you blame me for the damage because ….
All I can say is WOW. Years later all I know if him is that he keeps tenuous contact with one of the ex-girlfriends in my group of friends and from time to time I hear that he’s still alive. Which somehow surprises me.
I get along well with Aquarius, especially Aquarius Moon.
I like all the “lousy” Moons, must be because I have one myself. 
::snickers::
Who don’t you get along with Elsa?
My sister is a double Leo with aqua moon. We do better now but were not close growing up. I found her self centered/cold/detatched and she found me… I don’t even know. Probably too emotional 
Her north node is cancer, not surprising to me.
I like aqua moon in guys a bit better–
Ha ha, I have Aquarius Moon, and I am lousy, ha ha
Toni’s list is about right, lol. We are interesting though.
I’ve noticed that sometimes aquarius focuses on the humanitarian, progressive etc… but detatches from or can’t see the humanity of the individual.
I have noticed the same as kvk101….the aquarians I know seem to focus more on a global realm, but have a difficult time with one on one relatiionships….I have had a number of Aquarian friends, in fact, one of my best friends is 5 planet Aquarian, Sun, Moon, Asc, Merc, ?, she is as cool as a cucumber and the one I seek when I need advice because she gives it to me plain, simple, to the point, detached, straight shooter…..I love that about her!
The downside is that she is so detached…..she rarely tells me when things are bothering her and when she does it is in a very detached way that I am left wondering if it was her we were talking about. She can appear arrogant, but I think it is more of a shyness or insecurity. I have noticed and I think it is odd given that she is an aquarian, that she tends to stay “on the fence” on alot of things…meaning, she is not one that I would call if I needed anybody to stand up for me. She is not a fighter or assertive when it comes to basic things.
I have noticed that I attract Aquarian men….must be my Leo Rising, and I think they are sweet, but the ones I have met seem kind of goofy.
funny thing about aquarius, I can’t really pin them down. Everyone one of them is different. yeah, some are cold and detached, some are just hiding it well. My mom is aquarius and she is very emotional,warm and loving, but she has pisces moon, in fact she has stellium in pisces. I, on the other hand, act like a true aquarian. Detached, sensitive to the world issues, not so much for the individual, got my little quirkiness, and I’m triple water. But thats my Uranus asc, and Venus and Merc aquarius.
I either like them very much and get them from the start, cause of their direct approach and extravagances. or I dislike them completely if they are too controlling and self-important. I can’t be indifferent.
My Mom and my oldest friend in the world are aquarians. My mom is bipolar. I think I read that aqua’s are more apt to be mentally unbalanced than any other sign? Don’t quote me on that though. I don’t want all the aquas on the board screaming at me. Odd thing is she is ALL air and fire. I mean how can you not be stir fried? Thank god her daughter turned out to be uber earth huh. I am such a downer for her wild fancies.
HAHAHA and that list is of BAD things???? I have an Aquarius Moon, but it goes well with my husbands Aquarius Mars.
“Lousy” moons, unite!!!!
my dad is aquarius and was a psychiatric nurse all his working life pretty much. Ancient astrology books say these folk have an affinity with the insane by the way . He was adored by his patients but felt I believe anyway, stifled by the intimacy of family life and the emotional demands of a wife and five children so our life wasn’t traditional or cosy . He was so strong willed and yes detached but he expected academic excellence and he was fierce with my sisters and brother, very much so. I was a quick learner but we were all scared of his anger. Uranus after all was an utter despot remember! I’m writing this because at 83 he is now our inspiration. He’s connected and encouraging and like so many Aquarians, gives superb advice. He’s my hero now and he’s loving and still so adventurous, travelling around the art galleries of Europe. Always way ahead with technology, loves life and is proud of his family despite the early years. I notice often that Aquarian women seem to struggle with that strong masculine drive either within or without, especially in the work arena , but they’re also great friends for life.
LOL @ the list, sexually freaky isn’t such a bad thing LOL
I feel very deeply and so do some of my best friends who also happen to be Aquarians, the thing is, I think that a lot of time we may appear unemotional because we give more importance to reason and logic and ideals, etc etc etc. I have plenty of emotions but I KNOW that emotions are many times irrational, so knowing that, why let them control me/my life?
With the arrogance thing, I really think this is a misconception, too. Like with me, I think that people mistake my not giving a fuck what anyone else thinks about me and my zero desire to try and impress anyone for arrogance when it is just that the idea of doing those things is just utterly unproductive to me.
I tend to attract Aquarius b/c of my Aquarius rising…I don’t know why, but I never get along w/female Aquarius, but get along extremely well w/male ones. (Same thing goes for Libras, btw.) In fact, have had relationships w/3 Aquarian men w/Moon in Cancer (talk about a combination! lol).
Had to laugh at that list above b/c I’ve BTDT w/all of them at some point in my own life…LOL!!
the most harmful side of the shadow of Aquarius is being attached to their way of thinking, needing to be right at all cost, and identifying so powerfully with the need to be unique and different, at the cost of isolating themselves and deteriorating their physical health, they would rather die than change. And yes I have seen Aquarians chosing death over changing their lifestyle more than once.
With saturn/jupiter in Aquarius, I have had love/hate relationships with several Aquarians. I loved their detached analysis of things, but had trouble when they embraced purposefully contrary ideas/beliefs because they wanted to be different and go against the grain.
it’s weird, but peer pressure really seems to be a hugely aquarian thing. freakishly rigid social norms. the more “liberated” or “cool” or special” a group seems to think they are, the more likely they are to have weird cliquish unwritten rules.. the nasty cliquly teenage drama queens think they’re special… and it’s the same thing as leo except leo gives energy rather than cutting themselves off from everybody else the way aquarius does.
and yeah. aryan nation thinks they’re on a racial holy war to free themselves of the “wrong people”. very aquarian. just like the depts of nasty the bush haters went… (ok, for note, i couldn’t stand the guy, either, but, really a lot of people went waaay beyond common sense and compassion with it.)
and, i think, that’s the thing- there’s no inherent compassion in uranus. or aquarius. thus neptune/pisces comes next…
oh, gah, i feel sick now.
disclaimer: aquarius moon. trine pluto. with an extremely loose saturn opposition in leo. everything said above is pure perception/opinion.
Most of my female friends were either Sun or Moon Aquarians. (I’m a Leo with a Libra Moon.) They were fun to be around. The guys? Not so much. I dated quite a few of them in the distant past. A lot of them had Sun square Neptune. They also had hard Saturn or Pluto aspects. Made ‘em arrogant, stubborn, cut-off, and cold. Mostly cold.
Normally, I’m not attracted to guys like that, but when I was dating ‘em, Pluto was squaring my Sun (and their Suns!), amplifying the cold.
Once I learned my hard-earned Plutonian lessons, I passed on the Aquarians. I haven’t dated one in 17 years.
I love the Aquarians (Uranus rising/Juno in Aqua), but I’m aware they’re not good for me. And it stinks, because they are such fun to be around. On the other hand, they do tend to drift out of your life, and god help you if you’re in love with one because they won’t feel it for you in the same way at all, magically get over you one day and then want to be friends, and they like that better. I admire the attitude, but that can only be pulled off if you don’t have too many feelings, and they usually don’t.
…add “socially awkward” to the list. I can think of quite a few things I have said to break the ice that have made people literally walk away from me or instantly hate me. This is mainly other women though, I tend to rub them the wrong way. It must be the masculine energy. I am trying to work on this though!
I can be a little out there in group settings, as I have Sag. Neptune in the 11th house, but I have a good heart.
I am a Sun Leo/Aquarius rising/Moon Libra and I can also be extraordinarily arrogant at times - it is a trait all of these signs share. Again, with the masculine energy. I am also quite the rabble-rouser in the workplace (MC Scorpio conjunct Uranus). It is never about people and gossip because I don’t talk to many people where I work anyway (there is another thing, I am too cool and aloof). It is usually about outdated or unfair policy and I have had to write several letters to “corporate headquarters” to get things done. I have learned that people don’t like that,
even people who agree with your point of view and would benefit. I say that I am the “quality control” expert at all of my jobs (Saturn in Virgo).
I don’t know, people have strong feelings about me - you either love me to pieces or you hate my guts. There is never anything in between.
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Aquarius’s bad side is:
Arrogant
Sexually freaky
Weird (in a bad way)
Stubborn
Immature
Mentally insane
Cold and unfeeling
Offensive
Grotesque
Overly Rebellious
Always needs drama
Always goes against everyone because of their arrogance.
Anything else?