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Venus Square Pluto and Relationship Triangles
Astrology in real life
I favor interactions that are one on one and tend to shun everything else. Liz Greene states that triangular relationships cannot be avoided and I agree. I mean, if you and your man discuss his ex-lover (or yours) that’s a triangle. When I consult with a client about their man, that’s a triangle too. But as far as for outright competing for a man against another woman or other blatant forms of 3-way relationships, I do avoid them like the plague.
I have very good boundaries in relationship but besides that I just really like the alchemical process that can only occur in a vacuum so I tend to run with similar types. But since Venus went turned retrograde in square aspect to Pluto, I have found myself involved in so many triangles, I cant even track them.
Betrayal and double cross have been a theme over these last weeks and while I expect a reprieve when Venus leaves Aries for Pisces, I doubt these things are resolved until sometime in May. It’s really a marvel because no one is really innocent.
Do you favor relationship triangles? Have you found yourself triangulating in relationship more than usual? How are you coping?
14 Responses to “Venus Square Pluto and Relationship Triangles”
OMG-I woke up and read this- you are speaking my language!-
I just found out for certain that my ex-(I know I am not supposed to say exok..father of my child) whom I am involved in a custody/visitation basically war with-has a live in girlfriend and she has a son(same age as mine)-I am in a state of shock at the moment.Not only has he not come forward with this fact-he is stating in emails to me all this bullshit-excuse my language-but I can tell she is behind them-
It is all killing me right now-the father never wanted much to do with him- and know all of a sudden he is acting out. Though- all I asked him was to spend a little time with his own son ALONE-so that my sone can get used to his dad again and establish some trust-he wont do it. My little one is only 4. I consulted with Elsa not to long ago- and she helped me so much ;-)-but with this new factor that I just found out-I feel myself slipping back. The father of my son is a Aries Sun-and I am wondering if some of his actions/aggressive/attacking is going to go into remission- I wish he find another battle/challenge. I know his motivations are not pure to do what is in his son’s best interest-that is the hard part!
I was thinking about this last night. I have two sets of triangle relationships that are wonderful and I spent some time with one last night. These are two women that I work with and we have formed a very strong, deep bond over the last 9-10 years…we get along great….I am the Cap, one is a Scorpio and the other is Cancer.
The other really great triangle relationship that I have is with my two best friends from childhood. We chat, text, email almost everyday, one lives in France (Scor/Leo), the other lives in Honduras (Cap/Sag), and we all get together once a year and have been doing this for over 20 years.
The caustic triangle relationship that has once again erupted its ugly head in the last couple of weeks is the one with my sisters. And that one has always been that way…very painful. I am the oldest and so the one that took care of my mother as she died from ovarian cancer, my grandparents after that and still caring for my grandmother (93) who lived with me after my mother died, but recently had to move her to an assisted living place after a stroke. They are Libra/Aquar and Virgo/Aries. I guess I took over the mother role and it is hard for them to view me as a sister.
Whereas, in my other two triangle relationships, the emotional bond is more balanced and I am viewed as a sister.
Elsa, this is such great “therapy” for me….you have hit on a few really good topics that hit home at the right time. It has made me think and muddle through….so I thank you. Is this what you are referring to….when you say triangular relationships?
((denamaria))
i have always been in triangle relationships, since i was very small and in between my mother and grandmother trying to stop them from fighting.
i realized around the time of my SR that this was a pattern i was willing to break.
still, it comes up. 2 friends from school (myself, a fantastic double gemini gal and an aquarian sun, capricorn guy) and i have a BLAST every time we hang out. i really appreciate when you make new friends and it works out so well.
not particularly… as far as i know.
but i’ve similar energy natally and i burned myself pretty good over the years and maybe i’ve learned a lesson or two…
but the female student dramas are exploding.
I’m comfortable with triangles, but I grew up an only child and that’s what I’m oriented towards on some level (just me and the parents all my life). As long as all parties involved are acting sanely, it’s all good.
But yeah, stupid soap drama “he must decide” triangles are just irritating.
sounds like good old competition to me with a (un)healthy splash of mars/venus aspect. i have mars in sextile to sun/venus/mercury and can’t help but compete for attention. sigh…
whew! Thanks Kashmiri….it sure is wonderful when it does!
Ah triangles the subject of the consult I just had with Elsa! I seem to have a triangle pattern since childhood. Not sure why. Is it a Pluto thing? Romantic triangles cause me unhappiness but they present themselves to me ALL the time. I recently said no to one–
In terms of friendships, I have a packed 11th house and love groups of friends, including three’s.
I avoid triangles like the plague. But they do seem to occur with me in the middle. The only way I’ve found to cope is to not rise to any bait and simply remove myself from the triangle. Lately, I’ve been laying really low and avoiding a situation like this. I don’t know that they can ever be resolved. I used to try, being peacemaker etc, but that usually blew up in my face. No idea if there’s an answer on this….anyone?
That said, I do have friendships in groups of 3. We all do fine. I avoid gossiping and negativity and give them the benefit of the doubt if one starts veering that way.
Grrr.. ex trying to turn the screws on me through our son because he’s mad about my getting remarried (don’t have a date even) and trying to intimidate me through custody. The change for our son would be night and day as far as school, friends, house and neighborhood. We ‘re talking moving an hour away. Unbelieveble. All of the sudden remembering parental rights, thinking that by accepting a move he makes it possible for my BF to marry me and not wanting to allow that to happen.
Insane.
My marriage has been troubled with at least two triangle relationships - between my husband and I and the mutual friend who introduced us, and then we had a roommate during our first three months of marriage. This is probably the first time where I’ve been able to say “Wait a minute, nope, this is not going to keep happening.” and I’ve radically changed the dynamics of these two situations to eliminate the unhealthy “meddling” that was happening. With my marriage, it came down to boundaries, and strengthening the bond between my husband and I as the number one priority.
In lower stakes relationships, I have yet to master the delicacies of appropriate boundaries and disclosure in relationships that happen three ways. I’ve introduced girlfriends to each other, then they spin off with their own great relationship - which should be great, but I’ve struggled with feelings of loyalty, jealousy, and such.
Hopefully I’ll keep improving my interpersonal skills and have better balance.
This did not go thru last night, so let me try again…
I have ALWAYS found myself in triangular relationships, despite the fact that I prefer one-on-one close connections with people (Pisces Sun/Scorpio Moon). Not crazy about groups, either- too energy sensitive and empathic for that! As an only child until age 7, I was a in a triangle with my parents (so I can relate with Jennifer) until my sister came along, but we didn’t really do anything as the 4 of us, so that created 2 new triangles between me, my sister, and one of my parents. This dynamic became tragic and ridiculous (the one between me, my Mom, and my Dad), when I was 10-11 (and developing breasts, pre-puberty) and all of the sudden I was “the other woman” to my mother. Her jealousy about how close I was with Dad completely drove him away and even turned him against me by the time I hit puberty a few years later. That mess, I’m sure, set me up for sexual and emotional abuse from boys/men from age 13 on… My father is a Scorpio, and I still have a weakness for Scorpio men, although I always end up getting emotionally devastated for one reason or another. Talk about history repeating itself!!! Argh…
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