Who Do You Love? Do You Have an Organic Attraction to a Physical Type? Poll
Astrology in Real Life…
I have this “imprint” thing on my mind (again) so I am pulling up this old blog for the newcomers so we can get back on this subject because I have drawn new conclusions from this…
My sister had a theory she shared with me about 20 years ago. She felt we all had a “blueprint” around what we were looking for in relationship. Dark eyes, dark hair, or whatever.
“You’re sitting on a plane with whomever, and your type walks by,” my sister explained. “And you look at him, you can’t help it. It’s the guy you are always going to notice, who is going to notice you…”
And personally, I know I have a blueprint. I have a very distinct prototype and this is blatantly obvious to anyone who knows me.
For example, my friend Stevie, was looking at my photo albums a couple years ago. She has a Scorpio Moon.
“You better not show these to the AMF, she said. “Or if you do, you better make sure you’ve been together awhile. Because everyone in here looks just like him.”
“Yeah, I know. I like the same kind of men,” I said.
“I see that but I don’t think he needs to. I don’t think he’d be too happy if he saw these pictures,” she said.
I laughed. “Well he ought to be happy. He’s my type! What does he want me to do? Be sitting on a plane with him and have some other man turn my head? If someone like him walked by, what would I do? I would look right at him. I would wish I were with him. I’d be yearning.”
She understood but this did not stop her from making this offer: “Okay. But if you guys decide to move in together, you can always store these pictures at my house,” she said.
Because that’s Stevie. She’s always looking out for all concerned. Not just me, but the AMF as well. She’s very sensitive, see. And protective. She is Moon, Venus, Neptune conjunct in Scorpio, sensitive / protective and she wants to take no chance on people being hurt!
But anyway, I have noticed my daughter has a very strong preference for a certain type boy. Her prototype is the similar to mine, but with much darker skin. She goes for a thin build, short dark hair and mixed race, and every time a boy like this crosses her path, I see her go weak in the knees. It’s almost comical.
So what about you?
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71 Responses to “Who Do You Love? Do You Have an Organic Attraction to a Physical Type? Poll”
I don’t have a wide variety of relationships to look back on, but the primary ones are all charactized more by the fact that they are completely different physical types than anything they have in common.
BUT - I am attracted to extremely intelligent men. And usually those with a poetic/faniciful streak.
The physical characteristics I like best are intangible ones like a man’s scent or his voice. For the most part, though, I am repelled by overly tall, lanky men.
I do have a physical type (square, muscular, dark hair, pretty eyes) but I haven’t always dated people who fit that description. I did marry a guy who fits it though.
Always gone for green-eyed guys, with any shade of blonde hair (usually it’s ash blonde), the sorta tallish northern european looks. Now my father has green eyes but he’s also short with brown hair, so that can’t be all of it.
My current guy has medium brown hair and fair skin BUT the most intense, gorgeous green eyes I have EVER seen! He’s not nordic but hispanic which is a novelty for me. His nickname is actually “Greeneyes” and he has Scorpio rising so you can just imagine what those eyes are capable of. It’s the absolute first thing people notice about him. Talk about weak in the knees!
I have a preference for dark skin, eyes and hair (the Sophia Loren type). WOohoo!!
Variety. Definitely like to mix it up. All cultures appeal to the many buttons in me that like to be pushed. Don’t get me wrong, I’m a one man woman, committed…. but I can find attraction in myriad of types. Plenty of women I think fall into the HOT category as well. If I like a ‘look’ or a ‘personality’, sizzle just happens.
i like a combination of physical and other traits…
although i never thought about it or broke it down before, almost every man i’ve ever dated has been tall-6 feet or more. and solid-not overly muscular, not overly skinny. broad shoulders and all that jazz.
other than that, sense of humor and intelligence are the other big things. the first guy that could keep up with me in the brains department, i married. 
I tend towards tall Cancer types - all rounded. Doesn’t matter what they look like otherwise. Also, they have to be smart and a little bit sarcastic.
Goddess is my alter ego on this one.
I like brawny guys with deep voices and stunning intellects. Anything else is gravy! Lately I’ve been paying more attention to bald guys, but I think that’s because my SO is bald.
I think men in general are yummy, but the ones that grab me come in two types. I like them all around six feet tall, though. I also like men who aren’t too thin, because I adore somewhat soft men I can cuddle with. I can handle a some tummy, but not excessive tummy. 
The first type has the northern European look–light skin, light eyes, light hair. Oh, and with “playful” eyes, if that makes sense.
The second type has dark hair and eyes and slightly tan skin. I’m dating a German/Hungarian mutt and he’s absolutely yummy.
Oh, and abs… and arms… SEE WHAT YOU DID, ELSA?! Why’d you have to start talking about men?! Haha.. Me and my Scorp. rising… (BTW, yesterday was AMAZING for me concerning the Scorp. stellium…)
You’d be hard pressed to find a pattern of physical appearances in ~my~ photo albums. I have eclectic tastes when it comes to physiques.
Aquarius Asc (Uranus rules my chart)
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Uranus as my first planet (what I look for) in the 7H (relationship/partner)
Variety, diversity, ‘explore and try everything’ (and yes, I’ve been around the block!)
One thing I *do* need is (nothing to do with physical appearance) lots of elbow room (aka freedom - a Uranus/Aquarius thing) and *all* my past partners have afforded me that.
Marly’s mention of what ~repels~ her makes me think/realize…
that I am (generally, but not always) *repelled* by both men and women of “magazine cover” look… those cookie-cutter blondes or hunks who are indistinguishable from each other…
and I see that that is my Aq/Ur at play again.
Most people can’t understand my attractions. The less diplomatic friends (one in particular) have repeatedly said (in disgust) “You find ~that~ sexy??”. And they’ll point out some physical flaw, and I’ll go, “So??? What’s that got to do with anything?”
I have dated ‘head turners’ (that gets tedious, it really does) and what some people might have considered ‘dogs’ — and every flavor in between.
Yep. Definitely Uranus/Aq. Had never really realized the extent of it until now.
I don’t have a physical type. I thought I did for a while, but it turns out I was wrong. Depending on various factors in my life, I’ve either gone for very tall men or rather short ones. Slender bodies, pudgy bodies, long flowing locks, thinning hair, blue/brown/hazel/green eyes, with glasses and without…
BUT! They’ve all been geeks in one way or another. Lately, the preference seems to be for gamer geeks with prominant Aries and Pisces. *shrugs* HellifIknow!
I TOTALLY have a very specific type that i like and one that I don’t like!
I DON’t like too tall, thin, blond men 
(saturn in the 7th has brought me one of those though, he is handsome but not my type at all. other then that he is the male version of a Stepford Wife, will saturn drive me to commit to him?…we’ll see. )
What I do love is kinda compact, dark men! black eyes, the arab type, see? usually they have dark thick eyebrows and black eyes, I like fuzzy masculine men.
I hate the metrossexual type.
I identify alot with what my fellow Aquarius rising Strawberry said. There is a connection between our 7th house and the type of people we like, I have a preference for leo rising man.
OK this may be a bit odd … but I have a certain type men I like and a certain type women I like. I am more likely to be attracted to a man outside the “type” than a woman outside the type … but I tend to be attracted to things beyond the physical type. Still, though, you make a good point, and a tall, broad-shouldered bear of a man with a bit of a belly will turn my head every. single. time. (and if he’s dark, even better … LOL!) Just like a petite girl with hips on the wide side and a nice ass gets my attention consistently.
Bald men, light eyes, broad shoulders, thick neck…I stop talking (no small feat ;-)) whenever someone like that walks by!
smiling eyes and strong bone structure. strong noses or finely shaped noses. interesting hair: long, none, unusual. a look of conspiratorial smugness. mmmm.
Tall, very tall. I’m almost 5′2 and my current and last boyfriend are both 6′4.
I tell myself that I have one type but I seem to notice a lot of people who don’t fit it, though usually with lanky muscle. I say I usually usually like men with medium length dark hair and sometimes, I think, large intelligent, attractive eyes. I think I don’t usually go for blondes but I have noticed them. Sometimes all a man I like has to do to get me not attracted to them is shave his head or grow long hair. I don’t like men with shaved heads usually or with that much facial hair when it doesn’t look artful enough. I thought I don’t like hairy men but I have been and am attracted to men with chest hair. I’ve got a thing for Aquarians, that’s for certain.
I really don’t see a pattern with mine, but it could be there.
(psst! that new banner KICKS TOTAL ASS! :D)
Guys who go off the IQ scale (on the high end :-)), with too much energy. Strong physically though - I do not like small skinny guys, or wiry guys in general. I like a lot of men, all nationalities all colours - but the overactive geniuses are the ones who stick.
The banner on the xanga site, by the way, with the girl on the motorcycle reminds me of the graffitti art of Banksy and Blek Le Rat. It’s good!
I have a preference alright. But I never seem to get it. I’m almost 5′10″, average build, brown hair/brown eyes.
Tall dark and handsome, that’s what I like. Athletic but not overly muscular. I’m not attracted to blondes or skinny, lanky men.
My high school sweetheart was dirty blonde with aqua blue eyes. Skinny, a little taller than me.
My ex-husband was a redhead in youth and turned brown/auburn with age, but his goatee was still red. He had hazel eyes. Same height and average/stocky build.
The guy I dated after my divorce had dark hair and blue eyes, my height. Slim/athletic build.
And the guy I’m seeing now has light brown hair and a red goatee (I know, similiar to the ex-husbans) except he has blue-grey eyes. AND he’s shorter than me!! Go figure. Man, he’s a hottie. He has an average to slight build.
So variety obviously doesn’t bother me. I just know the tall, dark and handsome turns my head first. But it’s the rest of the package that reels me in
I just wanna feel like a “girl”, dammit! I wish I was a petite little thing. I’m starting to think that really tall guys go for the opposite end of the spectrum.. the short stacks. Who knows?
“Most people can’t understand my attractions. The less diplomatic friends (one in particular) have repeatedly said (in disgust) “You find ~that~ sexy??”. And they’ll point out some physical flaw, and I’ll go, “So??? What’s that got to do with anything?”
I can see where you’re coming from, Strawberry Fields!! If I love a guy, I love his flaws too. I’m not being romantic, I mean, I will love his gap-toothed smile, or his hairy back (yup, I’m not even kidding) of his bald spot or his big nose.
My repulsion for tall skinny men comes from a bad relationship and it’s visceral: I’ve turned white and flustered when encountering this physical type in close settings.
I have a slight weakness for real blond
Dyed Blond i find slutty… although that’s a prejudice…
For first appearances and not have talked to someone, off course you mark the looks… I prefer thin, light hair (sometimes red)
After having talked, i like bold, energetic women who don’t have a shame to talk about anything
Andi always had a weakness for girls with something (light)green on, but no darkgreen
scorpio rising here and i LURRRVE other scorpio risings: dark, moody, intense. the occasional blonde or redhead will get me too, but not as often. i’m a sucker for L - O - N - G hair on a guy. last ex i nearly broke my heart over had pisces rising though, with the most beautiful eyes in the world: large, brown, compassionate. a girl could lose her soul in eyes like those, i know i nearly did, ha…
I find myself attracted to thin, average height, olive skin, dark haired guys. I liked many Asians growing up, my husband is filipino (but is often mistaked for a hispanic). There’s something about those quiet, mysterious looking Asian guys. I also love latin men, but my dad and a few I dated ruined that for me 
When I was an adolescent, I also really liked black boys. Okay, now that I think about it….anyone is my type..lol. Lets see…..A Pisces guy really broke my heart. I broke a few Libra hearts. I had an intense relationship with a Scorpio (love/hate relationship)….and that was about it until I met my match…an Aquarius. I never had the chance to date another Leo, but I suppose that would’ve been a disaster anyways!
For the most part though, I’m not into the typical muscle-man-hot-guy (Vin Diesel-types)…I like them skinny, deep, and FUNNY.
I also think that 98% of females are just beautiful, no matter what their sign or physical attributes are.
I am very specific about this: geeky white boy intellectual. Tall, thin, pasty, preppy, and always very boyish. He needs to carry himself like an overgrown boy as well, so someone who conveys a combination of naivite and cockyness with occasional streaks of brilliance. And once I talk to them, they’d better have a PhD or other advanced degree or its a no go.
good looking helps, but isn’t necessary. it’s usually something more about character that draws me.
. er. well. really, it’s a strong pluto signature that gets my attention, apparently 
or uranus. i have a weakness for wise fools. (or would that be more neptune than uranus?)
I like brawny guys with deep voices and stunning intellects. Anything else is gravy! Lately I’ve been paying more attention to bald guys, but I think that’s because my SO is bald.
Looks like I’m SaDiablo’s alter ego. I’ve got a bald, tall, brawny, funky-glasses-wearing, chest-hair-having, bass-playing, Cancer-type man.
I really, really like this topic of “imprint.” I love the physical qualities my man has, but the type goes beyond what’s apparent. I don’t think I’ve ever dated anyone who looked like this guy before, but even my former SO said about him, “he’s your TYPE.”
My impression when I first saw him (and every time I see him) is that he’s my caveman. Not that he looks Cro-Magnon, but that his whole look sets off pinball machine lights and sounds in my head like I finally found the person that matches my subconscious old-brain baby duckling imprint. He is just IT for me– I never want to look at anything else.
Dark hair, eyes. Men: stocky - pudgy is even OK.
And I have a thing about forearms. LOL. I always notice nice muscular forearms.
When I was dating, the person had to have manners and reasonable grooming and not be dumb.
I am a Taurus and I really. Really. Like Scorpios. Yes, I have loved a Leo and a Cappy and even really really loved a Virgo. But I love love love Scorpios. Please. I get it. The next Scorpio you give me, if he adores me more than anyone else in the world, is successful, loves words, adventure, travel, creativity, fun, peace and quiet, the beauty of life, and precious things like animals and art, I am there 100%.
I haven’t really identified a physical type. I like guys who are smarter than me. And I do know that movie-star handsome guys immediately make me want to run in the other direction.
To follow Elsa’s paramaters
and be a bit physical about it….
I have Mars in Sagittarius, so to me, physical is:
Charisma
and hair
and sometimes eyes
Case closed
I definitely have physical types. Though it takes more than that to keep me interested. But there are people whose looks make my eyes all googley if they walk by.
Smart and witty is a prerequisite, automatically. I don’t even look othersie, no matter the Scorp or the charisma. Well, Scorp, maybe….
Yesterday I was reminded (thanks to youtube) that Anthony Keidis from the Red Hot Chili Peppers embodies everything that I find attractive. He’s beautiful!
But i also think that a male form of Bjork would be PERFECT for me.
(I’m a scorpio with an aquarius moon).
I like dark hair and blue eyes. The whole Irish thing. Conservative on the outside, but with devilish eyes. However, it all comes down to mental chemistry. If the chemistry is there, I really don’t care about looks.
I’m not attracted to tall and skinny.
Other than that, I’m pretty much omnivorous. Personality matters most!
Sun in Virgo/8th; Moon in Taurus/5th; Mars conjunct Pluto in Libra; Gemini desc. w Mercury in Libra/8th.
1) Jaw-line-the stronger the better.
2) Broad shoulders
3) Broody, Creative
4) Dark Hair
5) Usually Taurus and Aries. Current sweetie is double Aries.
Think David Boreanaz (Angel) and George Clooney.
Somehow I always hone in on anorexic or used-to-be women with some Capricorn. She’s very feminine (mini-skirt), often secretive, kind of dominating in a discreet way, and the more neurotic the better. And oh how I wish I could change that about me!
Oh yes, she tends to have an oval-shaped or diamond-shaped face and wide mouth, wears bright red lipstick and medium-long nose. WTF is wrong with me???!!!
Hmm dark hair, slim to athletic build, 6 foot. Kind eyes and engaging smile. Although I seem to attract more blonde/red haired men so I’ve been opening my horizon.
I always, and still do, like tallish dark-haired guys. The hairier, the better (Mars in Leo). I also dig intelligence (Mercury in Virgo, 5th house). I dated a lot of smart, engaging, gamer geek types, but didn’t marry one, strangely enough. Hubby is short and stocky, with curly hair, IS intelligent, but hides behind a “basic guy’s guy” mask. Don’t quite understand it, but I guess it was meant to be.
I either go for:
(a) tall, dark hair, blue eyes, thin, nice lips and cheekbones
(b) tall, brown hair, hazel eyes, thin, nice lips and cheekbones.
I call them “the alpha mode and the beta model.”
It’s downright ridiculous how I focus on this.
I’ve dated every type but I always fall for intense blue eyes and full lips. Average body, hairless.
Recently I’ve been thinking about dating a cute ginger because I wanna make cute mixed babies! Mars in Aquarius here!
Athletic and quiet. Intense. Dark. I’m the only person I know who isn’t bothered to admit the men I’ve been interested bear resemblance to my father.
I don’t think my dad is perfect (we once went on a 6 week holiday and lived in each other’s pockets 24/7, so trust me…it’s not that). But I’ve never met a more appealing personality. It must be because my NN aspects his Sun?
Grace: nothing’s wrong with that. The gal you described sounds like a live-wire, and that certainly has it’s appeal
Yeah, it does Kashmiri. szzap szzip!! (that’s supposed to be a live-wire).
Any male posts? I definitely like the Elsa P look. My wife looks quite similar. Her mother is from Ireland and their appearance is referred to as black irish or spanish irish. A mediterranean influence from generations ago.
Truthfully, I am attracted to a variety of types. Not too worry though as mentioned on previous posts, I am very faithful and loyal.
Dark wavy hair, dark eyes, tanned skin. Usually of Asian or Hispanic descent. If any of you are familiar with Mark Dacascos (Brotherhood of the Wolf - the guy that plays the Native American), that’s EXACTLY the look that gets me weak in the knees… except… taller - probably about 5′10 - 6′2
I have no idea. In shape I guess. Intelligence is good too. I prefer taller than me. Nice face, smile.
I guess I haven’t met “my type” yet… I mean, anyone can look at a pretty guy and say he’s their type… Maybe I don’t have a type. That’s too bad. It’d be good to know what I’m supposed to be looking for.
Not that I never meet anyone attractive- they just run the gamut, I guess.
Looking back at past relationships, I don’t seem to have a specific physical type. But wit and intelligence and the ability to balance my somewhat anxious nature are strong points of attraction for me.
Thinking about it, I feel that I’m most attracted to tall, older men with nice hands, long fingers and a little meat on their bones. But a talented, witty man who looks completely different is just as likely to attract me. Oh yeah, I also really love beards/scruffiness for some reason.
My mars in sag rules my imprint with a dash of Scorpio rising. It’s the sporty, rugged, hard-working, physical man. Lots of scruff, not too done up. Love wild, curly hair. I have a thing for intense, neanderthal looking men with muscular haunches. My last one had that forehead overhang thing that drove me wild. The one thing is that they have to be very, very male - step into a room and own it. I have a lot of male/mars energy so many men are just not strong/rough enough for me. They have to be the type who will throw you up against a wall….
I’ve often wished I didn’t have a ‘type’ (and I always have) so I would not limit myself. At least now it’s just blue eyes…I’ve always loved them and my long-term relationship was with a woman with blonde hair and big, beautiful blue eyes. Makes me melt every time…
At least now brunettes, redheads can turn my head, but it’s those eyes. And I tend to like taller then me, though even petite body shapes can get my attention…basically I do think I’m hard-wired for a woman who isn’t like me (I’m 5′4″, brunette, brown eyes, shapely - not big at all, but not petite). There just has to be something innate that I’m a woman and I want a woman not like myself physically.
And now I see that I love to have fun with Aquarians (they’re always so bright) yet I want other water women - Scorpios and Cancer in particular. I’m tired of swimming up stream with a woman who is not emotionally and intellectually a match.
My Gemini Mars: Lean, smart, snarky, hair can be whatever but I do lean blond-ish, charming, and young. God forbid something happens to my husband because then I’ll be just another cougar on the dating scene. Ooh, and razor sharp cheekbones. Oh! And light eyes. The prettier the better. I married a Gemini Rising.
Someone above me mentioned Angel (David Boreanaz)? Well then, I gotta mention Spike. Soooo my physical type.
Going by looks alone? Athletic, but not muscle-bound. Mars in Sag, but I’ve never even dated a Sag… Bookish but not nerdy, fair-skinned with dark hair and glasses, or blonde, but not pretty boys like Brad Pitt. Denis Leary is more like it. Above all, I have to sense that they’re intelligent and fun, and usually I can tell that before they even open their mouths. Something about the expression in their eyes or the way they carry themselves, I guess???
Oh, this is easy - foreigners. Married one - any kind of accent, combined with an exotic look, I am done in.
Earthy - got to be very physical and comfortable handling a woman. I don’t think that’s a look - a quality perhaps. I see it in the way someone moves.
hmmmm
I’ve dated all different kinds (part. as a teenager) but since I’ve been an adult, I do think I have a type, though I think chemistry overrules all in the end.
*at least 6 feet tall
*fair skin
*definitely not skinny, but not the body builder type either… thicker than average… usu. quite strong with an interest in martial arts
*hair on the shorter side
*dark ash blonde/light brown hair with green or blue eyes
The guy I am quite smitten with fits all these characteristics except he has darker hair and brown eyes…he is of german ancestry though as the last few have been, as well.
I don’t know about a type so much - but for some reason I keep pulling Scorpios and it is getting a bit ridiculous because it never, ever works out!
I picked the last choice, but I’m not sure. I like smart men. Sometimes they have a look, sometimes they don’t. I guess, I’d have to say like Johnny Depp with glasses. Geeks or freaks. Also I like goth looking guys. But really if they’re not smart I’m not interested no matter how they look. Then again if a guy is wearing eyeliner, I’m happy.
My husband is a geek, although he argues he’s not a geek but a freak. The only other person I was ever seriously interested in, was a musician. They have nothing in common between the two of them. Well, except they are both intellegent.
I have had three relationships and they have all been with asians. I am a fair skinned brunette with blue eyes - yet have always been attracted to dark brown eyed men. -
My friends reckon it’s a past life thing
Togi and I have the same likes it seems….I love a rugged man…has no problem with hard laborious work, tall, intense…intelligent…nice big square hands with clean nails, not manicured, just clean….clean, white teeth…I notice teeth and mouth first…a full kissable mouth. Bravery is an instant attraction
Oh heck yes I have a relatively specific type. I like ‘em big, tall (over 6′) and hairy because I’m big, tall and hairy. They say you end up with someone as equally attractive as you are. Don’t like blondes and I hate beefy, muscular guys. I like the teddy-bear type though a nice pair of arms is never discounted. Guys who are unattractive to most girls are attractive to me. It must be the Pisces, that whole lonesome puppy thing. However, put most guys in a fine suit and I melt like grilled cheese in July on the equator. Yeehaw.
My sister caught up on this and her type is TALL. I didn’t realize because he men are different colors, however they are all just about 6′4″ as are both her sons…
This is funny to me. I like smaller, shorter dark haired men.
I had smaller boyfriends earlier in life and then most recent where 6′3″, 6,6″ and 6′4″.
I never thought I would go for tall men but they just turned up!
Apparently I have two types.
One is solid with dark hair and a round, smiling face.
One is taller and thinner with a long face, big eyes, and big hands.
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