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Astrology, Mars, Psychological Games and Manipulation In Relationship: Do You Do It? POLL
Astrology in Real Life…
Last night I was talking to a pal who was copping to being what she called “game-y” in relationships, when she was younger. She described how she manipulated men by coming on strong and then backing off to keep them their energy on her. You know. They’d be obsessing trying to figure out what she was up too and I was listening to this, completely enthralled because I would be the polar opposite of this.
No man ever has to wonder where he stands with me. I have no problem telling a man I want to screw him at the my first opportunity or otherwise tell him, “I will never have sex with you in a million years, so just forget about it.” and there is no in between!
Now my Mars is conjunct Mercury in the (blunt) 9th house, so there you go. But my friend has an Aquarius Mars in the 8th house and this is one way to express it. Aquarius is detached, Mars wants to get what it wants and the 8th house is up to speed when it comes to psychological games.
And what’s your Mars look like?
33 Responses to “Astrology, Mars, Psychological Games and Manipulation In Relationship: Do You Do It? POLL”
No, I don’t have the time or the patience for game playing. It’s boring. While I couldn’t be as blunt like Elsa (ah, if only sometimes!), I do tend to state what I do and don’t want most of the time. Mercury is inconjunct the Moon and Mars so sometimes communications can get out of whack, but it’s never done on purpose.
Mars conj sun and merc in fifth house leo, all sextile my saturn in gemini. No game playing, just the truth as blunt as it be.
Never in relationships. In flirting YES FUN, in ‘real’ relationships no way, what’s the point? 4th house mars in libra conjunct venus in scorp
Stellium in Gemini in the 7th house. I can’t imagine the point of a relationship where I couldn’t play. It’s all in fun though and generally serves everyone’s highest good. I don’t play games that are destructive to my partner(s).
Oh, I forgot: My Mars is in Sag in the fifth house and it forms a grand trine with my Leo Sun and my Aries Midheaven. And I do consider myself blunt but like I said, just recently I’ve discovered that I’m a lot sneakier than I thought.
12th house Mars in Capricorn. I voted for “not sure.”
now Elsa please ! you sure seemed to be playing a mixed message game with that salesman - enjoying his energy ( his mars - his pursuit) on one level - but pushing him away on another. no in between there at all in that exchange ?
No, Don. I told that guy I was never going to touch him, as in. “I am never going to fuckin’ touch you, do you understand?”
And I said this loudly, in public, with full force and further, I believe I also called him a pig!
Now I did tell him later, when he did not go away and I discovered the astro-twin thing, that I was going to study him, seeing as he was handy … “like mistletoe on oak”, but that is wildly different from going on a date or leading him to believe I ever would.
And as for being energized by him, I definitely was! But that has nothing to do with being unclear about my intentions. Activated? Yes. Going to fuck you? Hell no….
And Don, I am actually describing something very different in the post. I am talking about a person who fawns all over you and then becomes aloof when you advance, throwing you off guard in the process.
OH. I don’t think I do that then.
Mars/Merc conj in Libra in 8H.
No, I don’t play (that kind of) games with people.
Mars in Aries in 3rd.
I have no times for games. I have fires to light, people! There’s work to do!
I voted for Not sure. Mars in aqua in 7th. well, i do ‘play’. sometimes its because when i am interested in the person, they catch on and act crude….i like subtlety. They act like they have just won a major conquest or something. puts me off. and then i go cold.
the other is when i am genuinely interested and a bit insecure. tht’s when my venus sq saturn gets activated. i am in the throes of love. i am tortured, dont want to be hurt. so back off when i think i hv gone too far ahead. in the process it looks like i am acting cold. i dunno. then finally, i may be quite sure of myself AND the other person, and just do tht to add a bit of ‘fun’. but in this case i make sure tht the other person is clear about my intentions ALL THE TIME.
i guess i *cud* wield power that way. its not like the thought never crossed my mind. but i never wud.
i don’t really want to play but my instinct is to “protect the self.” mars in cancer doesn’t want to get hurt so it pretends it could care less (and ends up hurt anyway). gemini ascendant w/neptune conjunct DC appears disinterested and aloof but secretly burns with desire and jealousy. i attract them and push them away right when i want it the most. sigh…
Mars in the twelth. If i play games, it usually backfires on my, and i end up more busted up then the other guy.
not those kinds of games, but games. it became an odd kind of a challenge. the subconscious played all kinds of nasty tricks on me and i’m much happier being direct and working more in tune with the subconscious stuff than hiding my intentions.
and i’ve learned to turn around and walk away when someone starts throwing that stuff at me. it’s not work the effort or the emotional teacup tempests to play those games.
my mars is in pisces in the seventh. square neptune. a little of a headache to work with. if i know something i’ll be clear, but trying to explain anything before my gut has sent up a neon sign? near impossible.
it’s usually pretty obvious when i’m attracted to someone and when i’m not. at least after i’ve picked up a good sense of their energy. i’m picky about that because the wrong stuff throws my system heavily off kilter.
I can’t be game-y in relationships. I’m a no-nonsense girl. I’m either in a serious relationship or single and happy. There is no in-between for me.
So you can imagine, when I find a guy I like, he damn well will know and he will ALWAYS knows where he stands with me. In my relationships, my significant others always knew where I stood. There is no playing games… I’ve been played so many times (by manipulative men) before and it wasn’t fun… So I’m not bound to do that.
Oh and.. Mars in Leo in 5th.
Mars conjunct pluto (libra) and sun (virgo)eleventh house square 2nd house moon (capricorn). I definitely did this when I was younger consciously and subconsciously. I don’t think I do it anymore but I am sure it happens when I am not aware of it from time to time because emotionally I feel as though I have to fight to survive. There is an inbuilt lack of ease with myself emotionally.
i think my mars emerges as a force when love is already present,not in the chase…mars in cancer in the 10th… defends, protects, feeds, fuels, and worries a lot…too sensitive and emotional for fawny games…
Taurus Mars opposite Scorpio Neptune-ASC conjunction. I never intend to play games, since I think of myself as a straight shooter, but I must be without realizing it. I’ve had several men accuse me of manipulation, so objectively it would seem I am doing it even if I don’t feel like that’s what I’m doing. Or maybe this is just more of the endless projection I get having a near exact Neptune-ASC conjunction…. Who knows.
mars in aquarius in 2nd
i’m like a combination of u and ur friend, Elsa. Sometimes i play games if i’m feeling insecure, other times i throw myself completely out there. It all depends on if i recognize my own insecurity. When i do, i try to cope with it rationally.
oops. voted last year, too.
pisces. 7th.
i discovered after awhile that i usually ended up making things worse for myself, so i quit.
I am too straight forward for games. I can’t play them, I have tried,lol. My Mars is in Libra the 6th house square my Venus Cancer in 2nd house.
Not at all - I hate head-games. Mars in 7th, in Taurus.
Sometimes I play games, but they’re not intentionally done. I don’t see it until I have to sit back and question my motives and why I’m doing and saying things. Then I have to back track.
Sun (Pisces), Venus (Pisces), Mars (Aries) all conjunct in the 9th.
hahahha I voted never but I’d attribute it to uranus sextile my mars in integrity I mean capricorn . .
I’m on you and getting nailed or bored and off like a shot waiting around to play games isn’t going to work for me
I voted “sometimes.”
Ignoring the times when my game-playing is intentional:
Sometimes I suddenly withdraw because I used flirtatious body language without meaning to, and I need to backpedal. (I know about said flirtatious behavior because my friends have repeatedly commented on it when I thought I was acting normal.)
If I relax again, I’ll often drop back into flirtatious behavior and have to backpedal again.
I suspect that it comes across as game-playing. :S
aries moon/mars.. in short, no.
I think I do the opposite. I have guys who pursue me while I try to stay detached but when I turn around and respond to their advances they retreat. It’s very frustrating.
1st house Taurus Mars… square Aquarius Mercury.
Von - me too. The more detached I am the more they want in, until I respond of course. I attract those who want a challenge I guess. To be fair though, I think I do this myself sometimes (out of fear) but I never retreat too far, just enough to observe at a distance. I like to check them out you know. I agree it is frustrating.
10th house Aries Venus/Mars opposed Saturn in Libra, square Cap moon in 7th.
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