Years ago I was told that meant that he wants to fuck. But I could be wrong.

It doesn’t matter what it means to him as long as it means nothing to you. There appears to be nothing obscene, profane or vulgar about the behavior. let him have his fun, that is, unless someone is being aroused by the action.

well…. i even wiki-ed this under a couple of things and gestures give ’social significance’ of this sort of non-verbal communication but no direct reference to this one sign i could find. not that i don’t already know what it means but checked the urban dictionary/encyclopedia on wiki to see if it was illustrated. *grin*
i went and did it to the hubby… who of course immediately perked up…. ‘oooo, we doin’ the nasty?!!’ cause of course, everyone knows it is the universal ‘do the nasty’ with me sign. but i was double-checking… for accuracy.

All comments on Boy George and furniture rearranging aside, I weigh in on the side of “bizarre but ineffective sexual innuendo.” I like how Stevie researched this, too *big grin*

Question is … whether it is, or whether it’s not, what now? I like M’s idea myself, but I’m that way. C’s idea is cool, too, and still I”m not sure if it would work.

In all the ways I’ve ever been hit on, I don’t think I’ve actually ever seen someone use that sign since, oh middle school, maybe high school. Kind of strange on his part.

The MIDDLE FINGER people.

When I want to secretly tell people F.O I scratch my nose with my middle finger. But I teach English to Armani Suits, so what do you expect?

Quite funny indeed.
He seems to be an undercover gay guy, looking for other undercover gay men around.
If I had the guts or the naivity to make it sound honest, I would take Ronda’s approach, it’s nice and distant at the same time, it would leave him disarmed and hopefully he would quit trying to hook up with the your men. Or you could have one of your men play his game and see how far he goes but that could be too cruel. how much does he diserve it? is he dating your friend or is he just a housemate? It’s up to you.

I think the problem is with the fiance. See, someone does something that disturbs me, I tell that person to fuck off, I don’t tell my fiance for help. What’s that about? I mean, I don’t get it. Everyone is acting like this creepy little guy has soooo much power and no one else can do anything. No, creepy little guy knows EXACTLY what he’s doing and fiance knows too and it’s all a matter of telling him, Yo, stop.

Make believe, for instance, that creepy little guy were a woman. Imagine if she were to do that to your fiance. Wouldn’t you want him to tell the woman, Yo, babe, don’t go there? What would you say if your fiance said, Gee, honey, this woman is coming on to me and I just don’t know what to do. Please help me.

So, fiance and creepy little guy are on the same page, if you ask me.

I’ve heard that means a person is gay.

Ok guys, I’m the one that emailed this question. Jamie and Marly, you kill me!!! True enough, Marly, my Dude should have said something IMMEDIATELY, you’re absolutely correct. Jamie, I’m hearing you say I,m in the dark maybe??? Come on!!! I’ve never even heard of this shit happening before!!!! My brother almost hit him!!! Yeah, it does sound like a mind game kinda thing. Too bizarre. He moved in with my friend and her 2 daughters 3 months ago. They havent even known each other for a year!!! More comments, anyone???

Hey there, Rose. No, I was not saying so much that you are in the dark as this “Boy George” lovin’, furniture arranging, clothes hog NEEDS to “come out of the closet”.
I have to tell you that if a female friend did this to my man she’d be missin’ a digit….or two. My advice is to not wait for “Boy George” lover to come out of his bedroom closet and declare his sexual orientation. This is what I’d do…….
As he’s fingerin’ other people’s property quickly (but graciously) escort him to the FRONT door.
Good Luck!

jamie

PS Shannon ..this person has been married for 13 years maybe he is still in high school LOL

Whoa that’s freaky! It made me laugh but if I were in those shoes I’d be annoyed. If someone continuously did that to me I would not touch him anymore, or when he did it again, loudly say, “WHY DO YOU KEEP RUBBING MY PALM WITH YOUR FINGER???”

Anyone touched by this person should totally and unembarassedly pull his/her hand back like they’ve been electrocuted and say “Eww..” like “you are completely disgusting and I seriously don’t care what it “means” but you are doing something weird and inappropriate and I am having none of it.”

No mercy. Humiliate the hell out of him. I am too fair to be taken advantage of pschcologically/socially, so pull that sh*t at your own risk.

Next time he does it, your guy should just ask him in front of everyone, “Why are you tickling my hand with your middle finger?” If he denies it point out that he has done the same to him on three occasions. Weather he is bi or not, he needs to know this behavior makes others uncomfortable. Confronting him is the best way to get him to stop and realize that his behavior is immature and inappropriate, no matter what meaning is behind it.
Your female friend may already know about and have accepted his sexuality. I wouldn’t make an issue of it with her. If she wants to express her concerns to you, lend an ear, but let her make her own choices.

Sounds as if he is a “down low” brother,lololol.

I wonder how that all worked itself out.

Why not call him out on it and see what he says?

We did that on the playground when I was a kid.
We innocently referred to it as “The French Handshake.”
It meant that we liked someone and would love to have sex with them.
Unfortunately at the time, none of us really knew the actual mechanics of sex.
We just thought we were acting grown-up.
I looked up the definition in The Urban Dictionary and it was described as “An act of shaking someone’s hand with the right hand and squeezing their balls with the left.”
We sure weren’t doing that!

Australia: I wonder if you have something there, about the Freemason handshake. My husband’s friend is a Mason, and I don’t usually hang out with them when they go out, but the few times I did he has scratched the inside of my wrist while shaking hands. We were out with a group, though, and I watched to see if he did it to anyone else and he didn’t. Creeped out, I told my husband and asked what he thought, but he said that his friend is probably just messing with my head. He has done it 3 times, and I just act like I don’t notice.

My husband and I were out with a group of our friends two nights ago. We all grew up in the 60’s and 70’s. I was taught that the meaning to that kind of handshake was “lets have sex”. My husband did that to one of the women as we were leaving the bar. I happened to be right behind and saw her jump up, say “oh, I know what you want” and then she ran over to my husband and grabbed him in the ass. I was so shocked that I went over to her and said “what did he do to make you do that?” She grabbed my hand and rubbed her middle finger over my palm. When We drove home, I confronted my husband. He tried to bullshit me by saying that his Grandfather who he respected taught him that and it meant to “raze” someone. He claimed that he was doing this to men as well. I looked it up online and the Mason’s do this handshake from brother to brother but only if they are challenging each other. I called my husband’s mother who is in her 70’s, she said “what a creep”. She also told me that the grandfather was a terrible womanizer. I am sick of my husband. He is always pulling some kind of bullshit around women and then trying to make me think he is innocent (or that I am dumb). The fiance is not gay, he is an asshole! You can only take so much from them. Your friend will get like me and get sick of it after a while and start calling him to the carpet. Don’t worry, friends can’t stop friends from sleeping with and marring assholes, only assholes take care of this problem in the end. It is called divorce!