She writes:

“Yeah, I do in fact find it validating rather than upsetting that you think this is an actual difficult challenge - nice affirmation that I haven’t been struggling for no good reason.

About turning my talents to other pursuits…well this is where I’m starting to notice how everything connects to everything else. Because I think part of this concentration is that, in fact, not much of the rest of my life has been working out. To go into the details would be a book but I’ve had a crazy-difficult life in many ways, so I think partly I’ve capitalized on the one area where I do consistently ’succeed’, in an odd way. That’s another question: so, given that my Jupiter is conjunct the desc., ruling my Sun & Sag stellium, do you have suggestions for other 7th house outlets besides romantic partnership where I could use this energy?

I really think this is actually a significant factor, but not sure how/where to redirect. I’ve thought about counseling/consulting, where I would have a lot of one-on-one interactions that would be short-term…you see any other possibilities?”

You probably have more “partnerships” then you realize. For example I am partnered on this blog… satori is a “partner” of mine as in she is a “running buddy” so identifying situations like this and naming them might help.

Basically you have to start somewhere and when you nail this one corner down it will lead to other discoveries.

“On the open relationships idea - well, I’m not inherently opposed and have thought about it, but the main obstacle is that I have really jealous tendencies. Taurus desc = my partner is *mine*, dammit. Lol…and Saturn in Leo wants all the romantic attention on me, I think. Not to mention Juno in Scorpio. I’ve long been consciously aware that this is a hypocritical stance on my part. Nonetheless, I just don’t think I could deal emotionally. I may be wrong, I haven’t actually tried it. No one’s been willing to take me up on it yet…”

It doesn’t sound like it’s something you want to try. This is t just my impression and fact is if it actually suited you, you’d probably already have at least experimented.

On the Venus in Aqu./Uranus front, I agree that I will always have these tendencies for sudden attractions and it can be instead about whether or not to act on them - however, it also can (& does) mean a simultaneous sudden turning off of my feelings towards the current partner. It’s pretty much textbook Venus/Uranus. I don’t know what to do with that at all. It’s like something besides my personal will decides that it’s just time for this relationship to be over…and even if I want otherwise, my feelings are gone. Not my feelings towards them as a friend, but romantic ones.

Now here comes the meat and my best idea. You are describing Venus Uranus for sure. But keep in mind it is just energy and it can manifest any number of ways. Friendship is very big to Venus in Aquarius and you might be able to commit to a friendship. You might decide that stable friendships are what you value the most which does suit your chart.

If this is true you might opt to start experimenting which is also a strong Venus / Uranus theme but rather than experiment with an open relationship, you can experiment with commitment which in your case would be a revolution in your relationship life… also textbook to your chart. So let me tell you how this new STORY (all Sagittarius are living a story) might go:

You get in a relationship, you get bored. In the past (10 years ago) you would have cheated, in the more recent past you would do your maneuver, exit the relationship, getting yourself free but  you devastate the partner. From there it is, repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat and repeat. Er… are you bored yet?

If you are bored, you can stay and see what happens. We don’t really know what would happen if you can contain your impulse to split because you have never experimented with this. Franky, I’d say that you  have lacked the maturity but the Saturn transit is here to fix that. You’ve been humbled now (by despair) so you are ready to try something new.

I don’t think you will ever get rid of your freedom urges but you can come to realize that acting on them brings you pain. You could compare this to alcoholism or even my love of ice cream. I will always like ice cream but if I eat it, I am going to crash. So what you become here, is the hero in your own story. The person who had a fatal flaw but opted out.

Just to make sure we’re clear here I am saying that you habitually out during Chapter one. I am suggesting you experiment by staying in a relationship into Chapter 2 or 3 and guessing that this might hold some appeal for you.

“That is true that I want it all, and I’m trying to be more realistic. That’s part of my restless wanting, that I find new desirable qualities in a new person that the old one doesn’t have…which of course will always happen, because no one has everything. In light of that, though, if I choose a regular monogamous life, can you say what kind of partner I might work best with to decrease that feeling?”

You want someone mature and non clingy but it is not up to them to decrease your feeling. In fact that would be impossible because “that feeling” is all over your chart. It originates and exists in you and is your problem to deal with.

The tack to take here is the humble one (remember you are INFLATED). The partner you are looking for is the one who will put up with you. Because obviously you are an enormous pain in the ass (as am I and most of the others out there).  You are looking for someone you will accept but what is really necessary is you find someone who will accept you.

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