Whether or not her case has validity is irrelevant to my point. She thinks she ought to be desired and the fact she is not desired *obviously* means, blah, blah blah… there is something wrong with the OTHER, not her.

And it’s humorous. Because the projection takes place and it makes her look so stupid, I’ve no idea if her intellect is towering or not. She is not smart enough to conceive of not only the fact, but the *likelihood that her date would have a very different story to tell.

And re: the Spanish secretary one of her men, left her for… she assumes her values (Caucasian and educated) are common to all but fact is (speaking as an Italian woman) there are legions of men (and women) who go for what Bob Dylan calls, a “dark rhythm” in her soul. And I can tell you first hand if this is what you want… well this is what you want.

But she assumes the man left because he was intimidated by HER. HER!!!! Get it? It is about HER! The Spanish woman is only attractive because she is inferior. ::smiles:: Gah.

Looks like Kate is totally out of touch with her heart and emotional center and got REALLY stuck in her analyzer.

No one is ever going to find a mate, man or woman if you don’t have a sense of yourself as a human being first. Anyone who keeps defining themself and the people around them by their roles certainly doesn’t know themself as a person.

I am a very competitive and smart woman, (obviously lacking in modesty) who has never had a problem “finding” a man. My husband couldn’t care less than I outshine him in the money earning department. He knows who he is and he “ain’t” no beta male.

Caring and loving each other for their strengths, and supporting them in their weaknesses is whats makes a relationship, not the role you play. This is obviously what Kate Mulvey is missing.

@dreamsAreality–
BAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!

Fantastic! Bang on Elsa.. the simple fact that she doesn’t once consider that he may have just thought she was rude to start talking in another language right in front of her date and is excluding him but instead is more concentrated on the fact that ‘look at me I can speak another language aren’t I smart?’ that she completely misses the truth of the situation. At the same time all I can feel is empathy (pisces moon) that she is missing the mark when it comes to reading others (+self) and must over compensate with her ‘intelligence’ to boost her self esteem.

Nitpick… Even though I have no planets in Virgo :), I would like to point out that “beta male” does not mean what everybody seems to think it means.

Biologically speaking, in a group, the beta male is simply the second-in-command… he is subservient only to the alpha male, not to other males (or females for that matter). In fact, he would *be* the alpha male if there wasn’t a male stronger than him around. Think of it as a vice president or as a king-in-waiting.

This Kate person is using the term like it means “a passive, servile male”, which is not the case. I guess it’s easily confused with “Type A” and “Type B” personalities, which do indicate active vs passive behaviors.

“Anyone who leaves us for someone else is not the right one for us, no matter what rational explanations we use to cover up our defeat.”

Conny - Agreed.

If I was a lesbian or a straight male, I’d go for the latina too. They’re just freakin’ pretty.