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Open Question: Is Aries Abusive?
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Dear Elsa,
This is a question about Aries in a person’s chart and fighting.  Do you  find this placement in men who are abusive and where would that be in the chart??? Just a question I didn’t want to  post it on the blog, I don’t want to offend (Libra mars).  Just curious.
Libra Mars
Libra, absolutely not. Aries energy is like any other energy, it is neutral until directed. Anytime someone acts heroically, this is Aries energy. For example, it is Aries that runs into a burning building to rescue the trapped. Aries is brave!
When you’re talking abuse you are most likely looking at Mars perverted. People who are motivated (Mars) to hurt others are generally frustrated. They feel impotent and try to compensate by hurting others. Gay bashing is a good example of this. People who takes shots at me on this blog - same thing. But plain Aries..?
When I see Aries in a chart, I assume I am dealing with a hero until proven otherwise.  Remember this guy:
Man Is Rescued by Stranger on Subway Tracks Some guy started convulsing, fell onto the subway tracks. 50 year old, Wesley Autrey instantly jumped onto the tracks (Aries is impulsive) and lay on top the man to keep him down as the train passed over their bodies. As far as I am concerned, this is quintessential Aries energy.
Remember Mars /Aries is the God of War. He is confident and full of bravado. He know he is bigger, stronger, etc and would not use his prowess against a woman as this is cowardly, a trait which is anathema to Aries.
What is your experience with Aries?
Pictured - Mars and Venus United by Love, Paolo Veronese, 1528-1588, Oil on canvas, 205,7 x 161 cm, c. 1570, Metropolitan Museum of Art, New York
15 Responses to “Open Question: Is Aries Abusive?”
I do seem to attract Aries - they are overpresented among my friends (although all Cardinal signs would be that) and even live with a quadruple one. What all my Aries friends have in common is that they are quite straightforward and even blunt at times, but they completely miss the malice that usually makes people abusive, either verbally or physically.
Everybody has Aries in the chart somewhere so I don’t quite understand the question. Do you mean lots of planets in Aries, or something like that? Mars is supposed to function very well in Aries, it’s Mars own sign.
I have noticed that people with certain type of Mars energy seem to go on the offensive very easily and quickly, but I am not talking physical violence.
My father was physically abusive, violent in terms of yelling in the home, hitting and all that stuff. He didn’t have anything in Aries, but he had a stellium in Scorpio, which is a different type of Mars energy.
I had a brief relationship with an Aries male, years and years ago. I saw him snap once, about something ridiculous, and he kind of scared me a little, so I walked away. My husband has Aries rising, but most definitely has no violent tendencies. Funny all the other Aries that have been in my life, and still are, are women not men. They run the gamut, from projecting meekness, confident assertiveness, to all-out abrasiveness (but not violent).
I have an Aries moon, but the times I’ve felt violent have nothing to do with Aries or with my sister’s Aries moon (she’s the only one I’ve been violent with- as kids). It was My mars in Scorpio on the 3rd/4th cusp- which is what I attribute anger to. Water mars can be deeply angry cus they aren’t as good at expressing anger because growing up their expressions of anger are often misunderstood or scare the crap out of people! Aries is anything but abusive. And their “fighting” is actually a challenge, and they do it for fun sometimes- which is part of the reason they forget fights a lot of the time- they’re amusing for some reason.
The next child in my family is the first son. He is an aries. Ed is one of the few people that I trust with my life. He is rock solid. He is also ridiculously competitive. In a family of quick wits, he has a dorky sense of humor. He is loyal.
On the other hand, beware of the insecure aries male, I had an aries boss. He was threaten by competence.
I think Aries energy is very competative, especially when it comes to wanting to be the leader in any situation. I have nicknamed a couple of my Aries friends the name “Bossy.” My mom has Aries moon and when she worked, her nickname in the workplace was “Sarge.”
Eh, Aries doesn’t bother me. Abusive behavior usually has to do with some kind of harsh Mars aspect that the person isn’t dealing with well, it’s not necessarily an “Aries” thing.
I’ve done charts of people that were emotionally abusive (for research purposes only–to find out what “made them tick). No aspects stood out, but I found that these people were very very frustrated. They had very hard Saturn aspects, didn’t know how to redirect the energy, and turned into tyrants.
It has nothing to do with Aries at all. I’m Aries rising, and my son has an Aries moon. Tempers fly, but vanish just as quickly. Aries, I’ve found, is very live and let live, besides the temper.
Since there are so many components that make up a birth chart… planets in signs, aspects, and houses, including progressed planets in aspect and in houses, along with transits, it would be hard to pin down the effects of just one sign in the multidimensional natal, and progressed chart. When it comes down to it a planet in a sign is always watered down or enhanced by an aspect to another planet, so there really is no way to tell the effects of just one planet in a sign. It would be wiser to study the individual charts in depth.
Hmmm my experience with Aries hasnt been abusive. I think any sign can be a abusive. I really agree energy is neutral til directed. My brother is a triple Aries (Sun, Moon & Mercury) and he is the very sweet & a perfect gentlemen. He though like an aries has a hot temper if you get into an argument with him and he gets quite heated but he is also the first to apologize and forget. He is also very brave and chivalrious.
Try dealing with an Aries Rising and Pisces SUn. Passive Aggressiveness is the theme here. Playing head games can be a form of abuse, also dishonesty, being self absorbed and selfish. there are lots of ways of being abusive that won’t get you in trouble with the law. I have extra sensitive sensors on high alert for any form of abuse- subtle or obvious. Frankly, I find it’s a rare to find a person who isn’t indulging in some form of abuse. They call them Saints and they aren’t down here groveling in the mix with the rest of us. I’m trying not to be jaded about humanity but it seems like people where a lot kinder in the past then they are now.
Reading this post actually made me laugh: mainly because I am a double Aries (Sun and Ascendant) and I don’t think I am anywhere near abusive or aggressive. In fact, I have been told that I *should* be more aggressive/assertive and I should stand my ground more! At times I wonder if I’m even an Aries -_-… It’s all that 12th house sun energy, I’m assuming.
However, I do have a Mars in a fire sign (Leo) with a hard aspect with Uranus (in Scorpio), making me very susceptible to violent tempers. And it has happened, but never to the point of abuse. And usually, this happens when I’m very pent up or when everything I’ve bottled up (Thanks to the Moon in Cancer) has overflowed. Knowing this now that I’m older, I keep lines of communication open in my relationships just so I do not have these outbursts.
Throughout my life, however, there were notable acts of Aries-ness. What comes to mind is how I moved to another country to pursue my career, experience the metropolitan city life and establish my identity away from my family (this is hard, being Moon in cancer). I guess you can say that takes some courage to do that but as I always say… Can’t just anyone do that easily? 
Hey Loon. My big tomcat is called Sarge for the same reason. Ha.
My father is a Cancer born July 21st, 1958. He was both physically and emotionally abusive towards me for years. I guess the stress of being completely blind, low income and a single parent with physical ailments was too much for him. Now I’m almost 25 years old and I hardly speak to or see my father. And that’s sad because we only live less than 2 miles away from each other.
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