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Getting Married: “You can’t see me, goodbye.”
Astrology in real life
“I told my blog that I felt the same way about going to my wedding as Dora feels about taking a bath,” I told the solider last night on the phone.
He laughed. “Well that’s true. She hates baths. Hates them! She looks at me like I’m killing her when I give her a bath.”
“Yeah, I know the feeling,”I said.
“Yeah, I put her in there and she acts just like I am killing her. She stands in there and she doesn’t move a muscle. She just stands there as if I’m killing her dead and this is what you’ll probably do too. You’ll look at me like you’re dying. You’ll look at me like I am putting hot water on your fur and I am mean bastard.”
“Yep, that’s probably pretty accurate. I’m glad you understand this.”
“Me too. If I’d have understood it when we were kids I’d have carried you off and married your ass and we could have been married our whole lives.”
I shook my head. When we were kids he wanted a big Catholic wedding. Seeing as I had never been in a Catholic church in my life… well the idea was beyond overwhelming. Never mind 100 or 200 people staring at me while the whole planet swirls and I try not to pass out. I don’t like being the center of attention quite as much as you may think.
Putting me through something like that would be akin to pointing at a box and telling a claustrophobic to get in it. They are just not going to do it if there is any alternative
I told him when we were kids but he didn’t listen. The Mercury opposition did us in. I told him but he knew better. He knew everything but as always I wasn’t kidding. I wasn’t kidding then and I am not kidding now. Being married is fine. Getting married is a day of horror. You’ve just got to listen to what people tell you or else things like this happen. We wound up spending our lives apart due this.
That’s me in the picture, jumping from a cliff. I used to do that all the time. If getting meant you had to jump from a cliff or even jump from a plane, I’d have done it. But asking me to get dressed up and have a room full of people stare at me while my emotion swirls is just too much. And try explaining this when you’re 18 years old. “But I don’t want to be a bride…”
The soldier is Catholic. There are expectations for getting married and the expectations were way, way beyond this girl from the desert. I am from the middle of nowhere.
Again, it’s like telling that short woman in the store to reach up and get the coat she can’t reach. Easy for me to reach the coat. Impossible for her. So she says, “I can’t reach that coat.” I say, “Yes you can.” And she says, “You can’t see me, goodbye.”
Venus Neptune. The soldier and I both have it and this story I know this story reads like a fable. I hope someone is spared by reading it.
He was expecting a wedding like you see in the Godfather. I could not give him one so surely I am not worthy, see? I cannot deliver what he wants so I’ve no choice but to let him go find someone who can. I mean I really saw no choice at all. We both got our hearts crushed.
19 Responses to “Getting Married: “You can’t see me, goodbye.””
OUCH! Any heavy Neptune transits coming up? Maybe that would be a sufficient drug? I’m sorry you both had your hearts crushed, that sucks to a point that is really beyond the pale.
Little Miss that is seriously funny!
This post made me remember what my partner described as his version of hell (which wasn’t really the same thing at all) opening a gift with the whole room pointing and ooohing and aaahing.
You’ve certainly spared me. When I was little, all of my friends would talk about their future weddings and such, and I could only contribute so much. I can’t imagine standing in front of a group of people and saying vows. I’ve always thought a big after party would be fun, but the ceremony itself frightens the bejeezus out of me. Previous to reading your thoughts, I seriously thought I was the only one! Mainly because we are bombarded with wedding stuff in the US.
I remember hearing someone talk about a wedding with horror: “they got married in a tacky place you just walk into. and they walked down the aisle to… well you won’t believe this… Cowboy by Kid Rock.”
were I to get married people would be talking about my wedding in horror. seriously.
I can see myself walking down the aisle to Clem Snide covering “my milkshake brings all the boys to my yard.” unfortunately I can’t see the groom. oh wait, I can, yes, he’s running…
Dolce and Elsa, you weren’t the only ones!
I’ve always been the little girl that dreamed of wedding dresses: other womens’ wedding dresses, that is 
I’ve always dreamed of designing them but never being in them and getting married. I tried and tried again. While many of my little girlfriends had detailed descriptions on what they want for their wedding, I never had a set description. I would joke about having an S&M themed wedding just to scare people off (I really don’t want that… that stuff scares me but I used leather in my designs A LOT when I was in fashion school).
What I found relatable were elopement stories. I like the idea of a couple’s secret getaway, exchanging their vows in a faraway place, enjoying each other’s company and then returning to their own worlds, married. To me, I’ve always seen weddings as a “family” affair and it isn’t always about the couple. But I’m sure it isn’t always so as 90% of my female friends have dreamt of their weddings at least ONCE!
I don’t understand weddings either- all that intense attention and all those family members saying “i told her so- she made her mother happy finally”- Barf, barf and BARF…But I love the parties after weddings- especially all the good free food! I am a Cancer, after all lol.
Lunalie - Thanks! And I get the elopement thing too. In a way, that’s the only thing I think I could do without freaking out.
lol@sonah22…i can totally relate. the last wedding i went to was crammed with seafood (chinese wedding) people are super happy when their gills are stuffed…well this taurus is anyway
Elsa I can relate to not being the center of attention. The thought of that scares the poop out of me,lol. My husband and I got married at the court house 15 min and even those 15 were akward feeling,lol. Short and sweet, and I even saw other couples in sweat pants that is the beauty of the court house. I am sure our parents weren’t thrilled with it oh well tough shit.
Good luck Elsa! My wedding day is a blur, thankfully LOL.
A friend of mine got married when she was 21, and even though it was a fairly small wedding in her college’s Catholic chapel, I heard her say as she walked down the aisle, “There’s too many people here, Dad.”
My dream wedding is five minutes in a judge’s office at lunch hour with the minimum number of legally required witnesses and everybody present wearing a Hawaiian shirt, preferably including the judge.
I have always thought weddings were weird freak shows. Love your comment satori! My wedding song would be Pretty Vacant by the Sex Pistols.
awwwwwwwwwwww, all I can see is that little Dora standing there shivering and acting like she is being killed. soldier is right, she’s manipulative. but all in the best kinda way, just like my hound, who knows how to chatter his teeth to show me he’s cold and wants a sweater on!
Becca!! LMAO!!
My husband and I got married during his lunch hour 
We picked up some Wendy’s and went our seperate ways.
I say it’s the formula for success…hehe.
And congrats Elsa!
…maybe a little puff of some reefer will suffice?
Oy, I did the big church wedding thing. If I ever get married again - which is dubious at this point - I’m going to Vegas or something. (Cuz, you know, that’s my playground away from home!) Any man who I’d consider marrying would be fine with this.
Weddings…I have a Silk Duponi off white gown sitting in a bag next to a box of all the items for my hope chest. The dress and contents are 15+ years old.
Never worn, the tags still on it. Never altered.
The guest book never used, the cake top still in the box. Did the fast wedding. Justice of the peace. Divorced long ago…
Most men have no desire to have fancy weddings.
I should get rid of these items for some reason I don’t..Funny they call it a hope chest.
I call it a dilusional chest…LOL
Catholic weddings give me the heebie-jeebies…I can’t help but think of what Michael Lutin said about ‘em in SunShines. Specifically, that people with my node should do them because we NEED to be forced to be married and stick to our word and Catholics don’t let you out of it. Eeek!
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