I didn’t make this to make people feel bad. I made this to pass on Paul’s message.

“Why didn’t I give him the couch?” he said. “I could have just givin him the motherfuckin’ couch but nooooooo. I just can’t believe what an asshole I was and I’d still be an asshole if not for Henry.”

You know, Henry did sit. On a stool! A hard surface. If you could have met Henry you’d laugh your ass off at the idea of his sinking into a couch.

My father (late degree Libra with Taurus Moon) is also a very big believer in this philosophy, and I think it is important.
I think it’s about trust, and about kindness. And hello? About empowerment. How the fuck could I *know* what someone else wants? Sure I can infer or guess or intuit, but those non-verbal clues may be part of the other person’s decision making process.

Fabulous! I feel like we make the greatest impact with our lives when we are truly ourselves. Like Henry not wanting to be someone else’s version of himself.

May we all have the courage to be our true selves!

Jamie, please don’t worry about it. “Offended” is not how I feel. I just feel sad. I get weary saying things people either can’t or don’t hear and I just don’t know what I can do about it.

But this is not personal to you. It happens around me almost constantly so it is surely me, not you with the problem.

I did not miss the pain in the video, Elsa. Just that I don’t like to talk about pain. It pains me.
I think I need to just say what I know to be true but I’m afraid to for fear of facing my own vulnerability.

Of course it is personal to me. I absolutely believe in you and what you can do for this planet, Elsa, and I have made it one of my missions to spread the word about your site.
It was all that I knew how to do and I have done it since coming here.

I’m a sales person by trade (and at heart) so I absolutely love to sell things ….of value. You are uber valuable, Elsa, to this f’d up species called “human being”. So very valuable that I tell total strangers to go to your site. Now this is a very difficult feat in itself because most people look at you like your crazy when you talk to them and even more when you talk about Astrology….but wtf….I’m not here to please.
I think I’m here to pass on messages and “link” people….at least that is what my Libra ASC loves to do.

So, I’ll keep on linking people to you, Elsa, any way that you need. I believe in you and I don’t think that will ever change.

“Oh and jamie - a link can go anywhere. They help your google page rank.. help you get more exposure and grow, basically”

Ok. I still don’t know how to do it though. I know that they help you get traffic coming to your site ,but, how is this done?? I am sooooo lost here.

Anyone?

That’s good, jamie and I think besides people thinking I am crazy, they go crazy around me. For example, I had those two cocker spaniels and they imagined I had two sons I neglected. It is as if people look at me and reality swirls.

“I had those two cocker spaniels and they imagined I had two sons I neglected”

Now, I’m gonna weary you here again, Elsa, because I’m not clear on the “two cocker spaniels” having the ability to make a judgement….or is that just a metaphor for Biotches? If it is then LMAO!

I actually had my mom call social services on me for getting 50 bucks a week (sporadically albeit) from the father of my 4 children ( if you have a water moon never, ever hook up with a person who has a water moon=many,many children)[side note;bc does not work with this combo!] while receiving 243.00 a month in food stamps. Now I’m not proud that I receieved public assistance or took the money from him but it was necessary for the survival of my children. I guess my mom was my “cocker spaniel”.

For the record I was going to college full time and working part time while going through this. I’m not one to take charity so that hurt me a lot to do it.

OMG! Speaking of “cockers” I had one that I adopted actually bite my lip in half….how’s that for gratitude!!

Ha! That made me laugh about you being dangerous. I just had this imagine of that robot on ‘Lost in Space’ flailing it’s arms saying, “danger, danger Will Robinson!” Ok…it passed.

If I’m readin’ you wrong again then I think maybe I’ll take a little break until the fog lifts.

OMG! I need to go away for awhile. How off could I be? Good story though. Thanks for elucidating!

Thank you, Dreams! You are a reality!
Gonna edit myself here….at least try.

Used to take classes from a res Astrologer at Friends Communities. While there I told everyone to mosey on over here. Can’t remember if I put up her link cos I didn’t know you could do that.

Anyway, don’t have a web page or blog so I’ll take your advice. Thank you, thank you for taking the time to educate me!

nah… goddess I know you linked me when I first started up. You’re one of the first and I have always appreciated it because I am aware it can be embarrassing to know me.

It isn’t in real life but in online life, yes. Because I piss off people constantly and though they typically don’t stay that way it is much safer to take a neutral position!!

I should be more of a politician - maybe next life.

um, no…i wouldn’t consider it “embarrassing” to be cyber-associated with ya, elsa. i’d ask if you were kidding, but i know you’re not. your directness in saying what you think regardless of outside static it is exactly why i was drawn to your writing to begin with.

and beyond the various ideas and insights i’ve picked up along the way, it’s actually helped me get much more in touch with my own big mouth.(some would not thank you for that, but i’m happy about it.) i’ve become a lot more open myself over the last few years, and some of that is a direct result of watching what you do. you can’t weild that kind of power if you’re worrying about who you’re going to offend.

I’m just catching up on videos. I loved the Henry story.

I’ll try to cover all the bases and see what I can do.

Have you ever thought about going to one of the local newspapers and pitching the idea of doing a Dear Elsa column? You could take advice questions on anything/everything and it could be astro or not, whatever they wanted or needed.. Your blog could be your resume in the matter. It would be 1. a job you could do from home and 2. a huge advertisement for your site, which could be listed along with each article. You would be so good at it..

I’d forgotten how much I love this story!
Elsa, is there somewhere on here to find copyable html buttons for links to your blog? I swear I’m seriously asking… it’s not like one of those infomercials where the gal asks, “Jim-Bob, this is such a great value! but how can someone like me ever find the time to put together a collection like this…” *snort*

I just feel bad that I never gave you your juicer either. I’m just so damned lazy and don’t know html.

when you say “hold one” I’m assuming you mean “hold on”. however, on second thought, and knowing you, maybe you do mean “hold one.” I wish. I guess I could go get my fake one.

I know for me one rationalization I thought was: I never get much traffic on my site… everyone on my site (all ten?) already knows about ElsaElsa. but I guess we forget that every little bit is a drop in the bucket, but if there are enough sources the bucket fills.

geez, I totally do sound like an informercial.
Satori “only 19.95″ Popeil

“I was desperate beyond belief which I guess might be the problem.”

That made me think of something Elsa. I flashed on my own recent desperate times, and how I couldn’t find work to save my soul. The more desperate I became, the more people avoided me, like I might be contagious or something. Maybe there’s something about our survival issues that (on a largely unconscience level) triggers the same fear in people: “I don’t want what you have, so I’ll keep my distance.” For a while there, the only people who were calling me were bill collectors. Smile.

“Anyway, whatever the reason, I am still here.”
I liked that the best of all. You GO, Elsa!

And thanks for the story about your Grampa and his friend Paul. I really needed to hear that, and had to wince at all the couches I imposed on people thinking I knew best. Lessons that make you see yourself are the best ones I think.

I’m cracking up because my 2.5 year old is withholding her poop currently, and I just want her to GO TO THE BATHROOM and I’m utterly fixated [control] on making this happen before her colon bursts, but to some extent I’m trying to control the uncontrollable…with a laxative as my back-up weapon.