I believe this to be true. I consider myself a humanist and it’s never crossed my mind that just because someone has a dick they are not capable of having a rich emotional life.

I read the other thread with interest, and found it really humourous. Because I find men confounding as well a lot of the time.
I think for me it’s been to my benefit to admit that and I’m sure other people feel the same way.

I’m not sure why but I’ve always had male friends as close friends and have had many male friends confide in me the pain of a broken heart so there you go.

But I think that as humans we fill different roles in each others’ lives…not every person can fill every role. I’m sure some of my male friends come to me for a beer and to shoot the shit ONLY and that is a way to make them feel better, as well.

Now as for my SO, the person I’m sharing my life with, he confounds me on a daily basis but I chalk that up to his Cap Sun/Scorpio Moon/Gemini ASC oddballness with a Mars/Mercury conjunction in Sagittarius that mixes with my 12th House Neptune.
I’m always going to find him a little weird I think, but he thinks I’m a total weirdo so we keep each other amused.

I think a lot of women believe a man is capable of being on his own, moreso than a woman. And society gives that impression as well. On top of that, a lot of women feel validated by having a long term relationship. In fact, society thinks women NEED a relationship more than a man needs one. Men can be validated that way, but also by being strong and independent, successful or just by having lots of sex. (Generalizations, I know) Anyway, if a woman loses the relationship, she might be considered vulnerable, a victim. A man may be considered free. Perhaps that’s the thinking that leads to women not knowing how badly men feel after losing a relationship.

i saw a lot of this working in detox. there were lots of men there, and lots of broken relationships, not surprisingly. and it really hit me in the face how hard it hit these guys.

i also have seen a few relationships dissentegrate while being friends with the guy during it, and it was clear they feel every bit as much pain as the woman does, probably with far fewer outlets for support. My husband says that guys often will say, “Gee, that really sucks,” to their friends and then try to distract them in such circumstances.

I learned this phenomenon the hard way.
I do feel like men do not have enough of a support system. Perhaps it’s why they often run into the arms of another woman…we are good at listening, supporting, encouraging….people outside of ourselves/personal circle, of course. It’s easy to sympathize with a man who is not our own.
I think we do forget how powerful we are, how hurtful we can be. I’m guilty of this. I know when I’ve had a sharp tongue (and I mean shaaaarp) it was just my ego feeling challenged or ignored (Leo sun). I would get a really poker-faced, mean, hurtful demeanor (Scorpio ASC), I would criticize (Virgo venus), and this was my stupid way of dealing with my insecurites and depression (Cancer mars). I kept trying to get a rise out of my significant other (trying to see if he even cared), and he pretty much held it all in until it was too late for us. I’m so glad those days are over, and I learned the hard way just how hurtful we can be, and how much we don’t even have a clue about it.