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Advice From Double Capricorn, Henry Regarding Vicious Women (And Their Male Counterparts)
Astrology in real life
Regarding “How To Spot A Vicious Woman“, kashmiri wrote:
“As for your question as to the percentage of women being vicious, I couldn’t say. I’ve been blessed with what I’ve got and an innate inclination to see it a mile away, and keep it to a smile and nod.”
kashmiri, I can spot them instantly as well and here is my best tip: If you meet a woman and she is bad mouthing, gossiping, taking nasty actions against another person, you can be pretty sure you’ll be next and even if you’re not who’d want to be around someone like that?
And men? Well if he’s trashing his ex girlfriend, it’s a good bet that when you’re his ex-girlfriend, he’ll be trashing you in the similar fashion.
I have found Henry’s advice inordinately helpful on this front. He taught you should approach all people with the assumption they are good people because most of them are. But once they prove themselves “disagreeable” (his word), he advised you get away from them as soon as you can and since I used an astrology blogger as an example on the last blog, I’ll do the same here.
About a year ago I left a comment on a piece by another astrology blogger that intrigued me. The blogger came back with a insulting and caustic remark that made it clear they did not like me at all. Whoops!
Per Henry, seeing I was in enemy territory and it was not a blogger but a rabid bear, I clicked off and have never clicked back since.
Turns out if you live like this and you can avoid most problems with vicious people.
When you see a bear do you turn away or try to turn the bear into a mouse?
13 Responses to “Advice From Double Capricorn, Henry Regarding Vicious Women (And Their Male Counterparts)”
That is one ugly bear! If vicious folks only knew they looked like that..
I have encountered the bear in some of my bosses, and in some of my exes. I found out the hard way that trying to turn the bear into a mouse only made me a bear, too.
Funny Elsa, I too have thought that exact same thing about men. One of the reasons why the man I love says nothing but kind things about his ex girlfriends.
(He has Venus conjunct Moon in Scorpio and this is a great expression of that configuration I think).
I had a strange experience with a very vitriolic stranger. We were introduced by someone we knew mutually…the mutual friend said “You’re from the same place” (Canada) but my attempt to be friendly was rebuffed so strongly, it was just weird.
The mutual friend just smiled benignly at me, and it dawned on:
Yes we were from the same place. And now that I could see she was “disagreeable” as Henry says, I took my leave.
Later I heard her tell someone she didn’t dance until she was in her 30s and for that I felt really sad, because I find so much joy in dancing. It truly hurt to meet such a miserable soul but whatcha gonna doooo? Not a dang thing. Meaning: I see a bear and I high tail it out of there.
“It truly hurt to meet such a miserable soul but whatcha gonna doooo? ”
This is where the bear gets me, sometimes I just can’t look away from the “wreak”. I need to learn to run the other way. I need to focus my compassion towards those who won’t hack me to pieces.
“I found out the hard way that trying to turn the bear into a mouse only made me a bear, too.” I can relate to that! But there are white bears and grey and black bears, so you can try carefully to be a bear to these people, empowered,but without becoming one of them.
And you may never turn them into mice, but downshifting them to say…squirrels is possible.
(sag-sag speaking here)
“I need to focus my compassion towards those who won’t hack me to pieces.”
Yup, you got that right 
I’m also very good at recognizing these people and not letting them get close enough to care/notice that I’m avoiding them. I attribute this to my sun in practical Capricorn in the 6th house of overall well-bing trine my Moon in reserved Taurus in my 11th house of friendship.
i am reserved around someone who is badmouthing others, but i also don’t know what their interaction was, so i try to reserve judgement to some degree. for example, my husband didn’t have sweet things to say about his exwife. after getting to know his her better and seeing her in action manipulating her kids or making up abuse allegations, for example…well…i didn’t have much positive to say about her, either. she is a vicious woman.
when someone is getting joy out of another’s difficulty is one of the main hallmarks for me. i see that, i run as fast as i can the other way.
My nickname in high school was “the bear” because I looked like a teddy bear, supposedly. I look like me and I never enjoyed being likened to an inanimate object, even a cute cuddly one.
Well, I knew and was even friends with a lot of nasty grizzlies when I was younger (4th grade through college actually).
I wish that I had known then what I know now. I am still not so good at avoiding the grizzlies but I am much more adept at surviving an attack (now that I am conscious that I am even being attacked!)
Funny thing is, if you saw me defending myself against a grizzly, nevermind, thanks Neptune 
..but i can’t walk away from students like that. which leads me into a new quandary. avoidance has worked well in the past, but now….
Sometimes I poke the bear. But I’ve no interest in making the bear a mouse or a friend after its swiped at me. Life’s too short.
The only vicious people I’m around are family. Can’t do much about that — smile, smile, nod, leave.
It is PEOPLE period that are vicious. In my experience it is inside 95% of human beings, they try to hide and pretend they are all good or nice people, don’t be fooled and approach everyone like they are vicious assholes and expect that then if you recieve goodness and kindness it will surprize you and feel good.
I have little hope and faith in people, they will always let you down and it’s all very self serving.
The best thing you can do with a true vicious person is smack them around the head with a stick and maybe that will teach them not to be such a cunt.
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It depends on if I can walk away, and what the costs of walking away are. If it’s just a social situation, I just walk away. I’m a loner by nature and my social circle is small. No need to expand it in THAT direction.
It gets thorny, though, when the bear is your boss, or a family member, or a member of a group you really want to be in. Then there is more to lose. I *really really* hate being in those situations. I usually manage to walk away eventually in those situations too. But it takes longer and takes more energy and is generally just freaking annoying.