1 Minute Astrology - Scorpio Amputates But How Would You Prefer Your Lover Leave You?

22 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Scorpio Amputates But How Would You Prefer Your Lover Leave You?”

1. Kundrie says on 11/25/07 at 12:40 pm:
   

   Oh, this relates…I just had the third round of my Neptune transit square Mars-Mercury, which are opposing Neptune in my birth chart. This transit really unveiled what had been hidden - first time I considered “animus projection” to be the reason why all my designated lovers (as in “true love”) vanished and/or refused to get involved sexually with me. Thing is, I didn´t even get mad, i just suffered and tried to transcend… and cling to the astral connection as long as possible. Ain´t that neptunian? Oh, how I victimized myself…Can´t believe it. And it wasn´t even me - I just thought I had to be that way! Now, since Neptune took off the veil, I´m just plain furious, and it feels great. Not specifically, it´s just as if all the fury I hadn´t realized or expressed had been stored somewhere inside waiting to blow up.

   The transit took about a year and three rounds until I sort of figured it out and became aware of MY will and MY expression as in not depending on men or images of men. I love it. This year I was the one actively leaving, twice - and that´s what I prefer. And it´s got nothing to do with not loving somebody, it´s just excerting the right to leave a fruitless situation instead of clinging to the cross and flashing the halo. In fact, I´ve needed men for inspiration, and that I got, so now it´s time to admit I got what I wanted and stop whining.

   I´m still in the process of figuring this transit out, so this is just a snapshot, and though I´d love to tell the whole story, I better leave it at that… (Learning how to leave, ha ha)

2. kashmiri says on 11/25/07 at 2:00 pm:
   

   I want sudden death overtime, like in hockey. I don’t do drag-outs very well. I am a very emotional person, but I hate emotional turmoil in a relationship (I want you; I don’t want you; let’s break up; let’s not). AAAAAGH!
   It drives me CRAZY!
   I had a lover leave me so quickly I threw up, and I’m not kidding. One minute we were planning the future. Ten minutes later he was packign the car.
   I hated it, but I appreciate knowing there’s NO GOING BACK. Onwards and upwards, that’s where my Venus/Saturn/Neptune grand trine like to go.

3. joana says on 11/25/07 at 3:03 pm:
   

   With Venus conjunct Saturn and Pluto..I’d prefer it short and direct, but Venus-Saturn has a tendency to perpetuate the agony.

4. Busted says on 11/25/07 at 4:20 pm:
   

   Yikes,

   I fidn this all really disturbing. I got lotsa Aries and Leo in my chart, independent, need space, adulation, yes — but space too.

   At teh same time, lotsa Pisces and Scorp’ so that separation is rough.

   Has anybody had the experience of amputation from someone whose Pluto aspected your chart in a rough way, and who wasn’t necessarily a Scorpio?

   Or Saturn? What’s more brutal? Saturn severing or Pluto amputation? I mean, fuck, Pluto’s teh god of teh dead, once he’s got you no going back, but Staurn’s the dude who castrated his father because he was afriad of him!

   Any comments on which is worse to deal with?

   Later,
   Busted

5. Zavela says on 11/25/07 at 6:37 pm:
   

   Dear Busted. Don’t take the criticism personally please. There are many good Scorpios, like my father, brother, my husband and millions of others. Did Saturn really castrate his father? However it was we have to accept Saturn for he doesn’t share planet Earth with us.Hope you got my answer.

6. kashmiri says on 11/26/07 at 12:11 am:
   

   Busted-yes, my sister (she has Pluto conjunct her ASC and 8th House Sun/Moon).

   The one that’s worse to deal? Hmmmm, I’d guess Pluto; there’s no planning for Pluto.

   Love to the Scorpios

7. agoldenhairedlion says on 11/27/07 at 2:47 pm:
   

   Hi. I’m a libra born on the 21st - have a bit of the scorpio in me, and it seems to come out during break ups just as you said! it takes me forever to finally decide to break up with someone (libra) but once it’s done, it’s done. yes, it seems to me best just to amputate, at least for a while, because that process of adjustment can drag out forever if you try to be friends immediately after ending the romance. you end up still sleeping together and in this strange disentanglement phase where nothing gets resolved (though you hope it will) but you are still holding on, clinging desperately to that feeling that, for whatever reason, can’t work out. I have a venus in libra, too, so love love love is the name of my game, or the game of love is more aptly my game, but i find it hard to tolerate bull shit. when it’s over, it’s over. ive done my share of wishing things were different, but it is best done alone. in time, things heal. but that time alone is crucial!!!!

   it is excellent that you posted something about this, too, because i have a scorpio ex who has pretty much amputated me from his life. we were friends for six years!!! (that’s a good while for me, i’m 25). we were together in the third year, broke up, then after a few years past the wooing started again, but, surprise surprise, i couldn’t commit. the scorpio (10/23) pretty much felt that he and i were soul mates. there was a strong connection there, with our birthday just two days away, to be sure (though perhaps too similar…). but now he has decided that if im not going to be in his life romantically, i cant be in it at all! so im getting the opportunity to take what i dish out.

   what is there to say when you break up with someone? i loved you once, i still love you and in some sense always will. but now, saying those things would simply cause confusion. at the point of a break up, a redefinition of terms must take place, a division of what has become fused into one. i think it is important to remember that that amputation wouldnt be necessary if there weren’t a lot of love present, a powerful force that people sometimes dont know how to deal with except to walk away from it.

   ps: your question was whether or not we could see our venus styles in the way we handle break ups. i guess the venus in libra part of me has been coming out more recently. in the last few years, ive gotten into the habit of trying to get the other person to break up with me when i want to break up with them. when it can be subtly mutual in that sort of way, then you dont need to worry as much about causing unnecessary hurt and pain to another person. of course it still hurts, but at least they arent left thinking, “that bitch left me!” resneting you. they just kind of miss you and wish you were still around. yes, diplomatic and charming, just the way i like it.

8. wyrdling says on 11/28/07 at 8:43 pm:
   

   …as long as they actually tried to be honest about why, a quick close at least allows people the finality which allows them to move forward.
   vaguley drawn out who-knows-what are just endlessly painful to me. i’d rather know and be done with it.

   and, well, that’s what i usually do when i break up. i make my decision, i tell them, and i’m gone.

   every once in awhile things are more complicated though. where there’s, perhaps, a communication gap which could clear things up and i want to leave room for that.

9. Ana says on 11/28/07 at 9:34 pm:
   

   well…I would prefer them not to get involved if they are going to leave! I go out of my way to be sure I want something before I go for it and I appreciate that kind of thought from others too.

   “i think it is important to remember that that amputation wouldnt be necessary if there weren’t a lot of love present, a powerful force that people sometimes dont know how to deal with except to walk away from it.”
   agoldenhairedlion - why would you walk away from love? and what would you being walking towards? a void? how could this be more attractive than love?

   I don’t really understand this amputation concept - I can’t remember doing this to anyone. I have, however, left after repeated bad behavior from others…and I’ve always left a reasonable explanation why (though it should be obvious). I usually prefer to fix it though than to amputate. It’s too easy to just walk away and abandon the situation…and then run head on into the same situation with the next person.

   I have been on the receiving end of this amputation though. And when I’ve asked why, I get the same response as agoldenhairedlion gave. Don’t understand it at all, but I try to put myself in their shoes, and I still talk to these people when they choose to return. People are fascinating and they change all the time I’ve learned to leave room for surprises and to accommodate this stuff as it always fits into a bigger picture - love always comes together when it is real.

10. Ana says on 11/28/07 at 9:42 pm:
    

    then again, it could just be the best bs line anyone could give to leave someone. because, really, who walks away from love?

11. Lexie says on 4/29/08 at 5:54 am:
    

    Haha, I’m such a hypocrite. I do the Scorpio hot-to-colder-than-ice leaving. And it’s because once I’ve reached my limit, I just stop caring. My feelings shut down within seconds, literally. The timing, how they feel, no longer matters to me because they’ve sucked every last bit of caring from me. I don’t relish it; i feel nothing. And THAT’S what gets people all riled up. “We shared all of this and you just don’t care? How can you not care?” I dunno why it happens, but it does. I still never regret time spent with anyone.

    If someone were to break up with me, I’d like a nice, long, handwritten note listing reasons why the relationship has ended, and a very final closing. This way, I get all their reasons (retarded or not, at least I can accept them), and a clear goodbye.

12. Gem says on 4/29/08 at 9:13 am:
    

    I always like a good talk/argument at the end to air it out so there is nothing left to discuss or resolve. I started questioning ‘how i give love’ a few years ago after a negative relationship ended. I’ve worked really hard on leaving no harm to those I am with and that means being humble and taking deep breaths. I like feeling at peace.

    Then…have really good and wild good bye sex. I just move on after that. I don’t believe in pining…there are billions of us here and the right one will be with me forever. Just a feeling.

13. Des says on 4/29/08 at 9:47 am:
    

    Once i have been hurt to a certain point there is simply no way i’m going to pretend to be goo goo for someone. I think the old scorpio intuition can somtimes get obbscured when we are in love with someone. When we “amputate” it is claiming back all that we are without puting up with any more bull shit. Love is blind in many ways, i have been totally mistreated in relationships, and there just comes a point where my pride can’t take it anymore. I feel that saying that this is brutal to leave when you are fed up is another for of abuse and manipulation. I am not the one to be dragged through the dirt over and over and still get up with roses on the front door step.

14. satori says on 4/29/08 at 10:17 am:
    

    yes, yes, Des! for people to complain about the amputation seems odd since they ignored the injury, the infection, the gangrene and OH MY now you have to amputate??

    I guess I just admitted to amputating. it’s how I work too. that’s my mars. but I’ve been dumped too and I don’t think there’s ANY good way to be dumped. pick your poison.

15. Amber says on 4/29/08 at 10:33 am:
    

    To start with, I’d prefer to leave them. If not, then I’d still like to agree on leaving (I’ve got Libra), but then LEAVE. And don’t come back for anything.

16. Jana says on 4/29/08 at 2:48 pm:
    

    I might cry, but I want it quick and unequivocal. Capricorn Sun, Venus, Mars , Mercury trine Pluto and sextile Neptune.

17. Lis says on 4/29/08 at 5:23 pm:
    

    Be honest and to the point with me, then make a clean break.

    I’ve had a few guys simply disappear on me. One even moved, wouldn’t give me his new address, but wanted to stay in the relationship! Nuh-uh.

    I have Neptune in the 7th, which explains this vanishing into thin air thing.

    I don’t like this at all. Tell me the truth. I’ll respect that. I may be hurt, but I’ll move on.

18. copperweaver says on 4/29/08 at 6:06 pm:
    

    I would prefer freezing or amputation with honest mature goodbye if possible. I have remained friends with most of my ex’s but only after a period of freeze or amputation on my part. As a Scorpio, I need that space and time to heal. I have to come back to myself and the only way I can do that is completely removing the other peroson from my reality for however long it takes for me let go of the old relationship and any resentment I might have. Then I formulate a new/different way of relating to or loving the person. That usually take six months to a year and half in my experience…

19. Kesh says on 5/1/08 at 1:57 pm:
    

    I can’t judge them for that approach because I do the same thing. I am a Taurus with sun, moon, + mercury opposite pluto (8th house)/saturn in scorpio (9th), ascendant square both. Sometimes it gets to be too much really. And my venus is square my neptune also. I find that people project the weirdest things on to me, and I to them at times. I have my limits.

    I usually find that with Mars in Gemini, a good way is to do it by letter, deleting a webpage or deactivating an SN. I have a nasty habit of letting people use me as a therapist for free. Maybe I should just get my Ph.D and get it over with because then I could at least be compensated for my troubles!

20. althera says on 9/3/08 at 11:11 pm:
    

    Tell me truth - something I can really learn from. Then exit stage left. No matter how many encores I call for.

21. llama says on 9/4/08 at 5:32 am:
    

    Quickly and permanently. I’m a no looking back kind of gal.

22. llama says on 9/4/08 at 5:33 am:
    

    Well, not in terms of self-reflection. I do that a LOT. But in terms of contact. I’m here, or I’m not here. Period.

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