ooooo! jupiter, neptune, uranus, saturn?? in my control, outside control, or no control?

crazy-moon, I think your point of view is fantastic and obviously works great for you! that’s fabulous! I’m uncomfortable reading what you say to Caretaker that her sister’s condition is not a blessing or what she “should” do. it’s certainly an outlook she could consider and an idea for what she might do if she so chose.

I see it the same way as you do, Elsa.

Doing the Libra-examining-all-facets-thing I have been wondering lately, however, if thinking this way is a way to simply make myself feel better.

If everyone chooses their lives (for good or bad) then (for example) I would feel somehow absolved a little if I ended up in a wheelchair or something & my husband had to take care of me a lot.

But I’ve pretty much always believed that everyone chooses their lives and/or has karma to work out.

The Caretaker’s question is difficult to answer.

People who find themselves in Caretaker’s position are there for different reasons. Some feel the simple duty of human decency, others love the company of the disabled person, others are there because there is no-one else to do it and the alternatives are untenable. There are other reasons as well.

As far as being “chosen” to this level of service to the needs of another, if your faith encompasses that notion, then the same faith can sustain your strength within it.

Regarding “Why some and not other?” Why white and not black? Why fat and not thin? why Australian and not American?

I think the question itself is illogical. Pondering things that cannot be changed is far less rewarding than making the very best out of the things we have at your disposal.

I am much keener on the “I am in the position that I am in, what can I do to improve it” line of thinking. It is a direction I endeavor to steer my clients when they come up with that “why me?” question.

There’s so much to say about this subject, but something that a friend of mine wrote gets to the point, I think. Here it is:

CONSIDER THIS
Consider person A, who has had all they want; someone who has been very fortunate and all has gone well. He has had friends and lovers and success, and not a problem has troubled him.

Now consider person B, who has had many problems, but has caved into them, looking at person A with envy, while raging at life, and never facing or trying to deal with his problems.

Now consider person C, who has endured much misfortune, who has endured frustrations, losses, difficulties and disappointments, but who has faced them, understood them, worked with them.

Which one of the above is the happiest, and strongest and why?

Which one of the above you would choose for a friend, and why?

Which one of the above would you choose to help you when loneliness, despair, fear and pain assail you, and why?

With which one would you share your happiness when you have success, and why?

Which one has had the most fulfilling, the most rich life, and why?

Now consider what happiness is.

Now consider the purpose of life.