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Pluto Moon Transit - Mine: To Quote Marlon Brando In Apocalypse Now, “The Horror”
Astrology in real life
I am going to Back To School Night with my son tonight which means I am going to run smack into people who know my daughter and have strong feelings about her… and about me for that matter.
I mention this other mother a lot because I relate to her. One of her children (he was 11, I think) was killed while demonstrating auto-erotic technique to his younger brother (about 9). It was just the most horrifying thing. Where should she cast her eyes when she takes her surviving son to school? What comments will she have to field and respond to? Or will she just be ignored?
Will she be ignored because no one knows what to say or will she be ignored because others don’t want to ‘catch it”?
What I realize today is that it is easy to see why people move when and if something like this happens to their family because you know what?
I am tired of being the (most) beleaguered mother in the city school system. I am tired of being sighed at. I am tired of being judged and glared at and when you get right down to it, I am tired of sympathy which doesn’t mean a damned thing. Here is what I have to say:
Sympathy doesn’t mean a damn thing. You have to doooooooooooooooo something. Sympathy is for the sympathizer, this is what I have figured out.
Anyway, tonight I am going. People will be triggered, it’s the story of my life.
17 Responses to “Pluto Moon Transit - Mine: To Quote Marlon Brando In Apocalypse Now, “The Horror””
What would you like for them/us to do? Tell us what would be useful for you, something we could DO to help you out. You’ve helped us out, perhaps we can do the same.
I know how you feel being judged for being who you are. Just shrug and get on with it is what I do.. try and stay positive. They’re the ones with the problem after all..
Oh, Ana I don’t know what to say. I didn’t really mean the people who read my blog but really, it is the practical things that help. For example my daughter raised $30,000 in hospital bills in the course of TWO months. That was my end, what I owed AFTER the insurance paid. I am single parent and sympathy doesn’t help something like that at all. Taking up a collection does.
Watching your other kid helps, cutting the neglected grass helps. Kindness helps. Getting my back for me helps. Defending me helps. Squelching gossip helps. You get the idea.
When someone is in trouble you help them not talk about them (my opinion)
I’ll tell you what. If someone says to me, “I feel so sorry for him/her,” my first question is going to be, “So what are you going to do then?”
Oh and satori, I don’t try to gauge their reactions. I am so shut down to that by now it’s not funny. You’d have to hit me with a brick for me to notice your reaction.
geez, yeah. I’d rather have someone take out my garbage and roll the can to the street than tell me they’re sorry. that’s real relief.
I try not to hit you with a brick. that’s my contribution. 
I agree on that when a family or private issue becomes public it really helps to move to another place, because you don’t want to carry other people’s panic or confusion forever. The own burden is way enough to carry. And I guess with Capricorn rising, a Pluto transit to the Moon affects and transforms the way you see and are seen by people and the way you relate to them, on a deeper level. Wishing you strength and Light for tonight!
That’s a good point - actually doing something. The practicalities of life are automatically neglected when something bigger comes along. When my dad was in the hospital, we got lots of flowers. But it was the friend who brought us sandwiches at lunch and ran some errands for us that really made the difference. She also helped us get rid of the flowers when they were no longer all that pretty. (The thoughts (flowers) were lovely, don’t get me wrong.)
point well taken.
when my husband was left by his first wife, with an empty bank account and two kids, lots of people offered sympathy. he appreciated it, but you know…
as his friend, i came over and spent an evening helping him fold a huge pile of kids clothes one night. he ended up marrying me.
I hate offering up words of sympathy, too. When the wife of my husband’s friend was diagnosed with cancer, I made her a huge lasagna. She didn’t have to worry about feeding her kids & hubby the day after her chemo treatments when she felt her worst. No huge effort on my part but I hope it gave her some relief.
It doesn’t take a lot, you know, to really do something helpful. I think the two of them know that we mean it when we say, “anything you need, please call us”. Because for me, it’s so much easier to DO something than not.
I can remember when I was first married (the first time) and my husband was out doing something stupid for 10 days (in our only car and we lived out in the boonies). A friend of his stopped by and brought me pepsi, bread, and some sliced ham or something. Because he knew I was stuck and it meant so much to me that someone cared enough to think I’d need food. That gesture stuck with me; I think it’s one of the nicest things anyone’s ever done for me.
I’m hoping for the best. Hope you update later on how it went.
I am back. Mixed bag. Very ultra disturbing but Pluto Moon type stuff you can’t speak. One of my daughter’s friends was there,,, so were her parents. I was not expecting this since she’d be high school and this is elementary and middle. But there is a younger brother (in Vid’s class) so big surprise and not good.
OTOH this is a killer school that I had to take my son out of due family hardship 2 years ago. That he gets to go back is a big deal and very moving to me. He ran into his best friend in 1st and 2nd grade who was just so happy to see him. They are in the same class so this was very good.
There was some other stuff but I dunno. Life is moving and there is a sense of him being in the right place so this is heartening. “back” in the right place that is after two years in the dirt.
Also the campus is brand new… my daughter started the virgin year of this school which was an experiment in the district. It makes me feel good the experiment worked and now they get their own campus… 9 years later. I was part of what made the school a success, see. So I dunno.
Some things were very hard but I just don’t know how to ’splain them right now. school starts tomorrow and hell, I just don’t know. OUr life is not normal and we just have no way to make it that way.
Well, thanks for sharing this, Elsa. For giving some insight into what I/we can do to help when we encounter this in our lives. Hopefully, I’ll have the opportunity to do this for someone . . . if I were in the area, I’d start a fundraiser. Wish I could now-
“I just don’t know. OUr life is not normal and we just have no way to make it that way.”
Normalcy is the highly overrated intellectual convolution that has the feeble minded in fervent pursuit of mediocrity.
To hell with normal. We do the best we can with what we have in the moment.
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to me the tough thing would be not knowing if I was interpreting people’s reactions correctly. are they ignoring me or do they just not know who am. are they giving me a dirty look or are they wondering if they left the stove on. ugh.
wishing you clarity.