oh thank maude. I thought I was having some sort of peri-menopausal meltdown.

Yeah, like eating three packs of Smarties before you can blink cause you ain’t gettin’ any. Shocks the hell outta me.

should be particularly tough on those who aren’t getting any in Virgo as the midpoint squeezes in on the ever-adventurous Sagittarius and Gemini.

Its gonna look like a lot more fun than it is.

Best stock up on the smarties togi

Yeah. I put a FWB ad in craigslist with very specific parameters. Interviewed the top three over coffee and picked the one I liked best. He was okay. Totally not my usual MO, but the change did me good. I think. Maybe not.

I can’t believe I did this and I shall get myself tested immediately. Not sure if this constitutes temporary insanity or just prolonged loneliness. At any rate, wth am I doing????

Geeze, wish there was a way to tell if it’s just never gonna happen :o(

Mmm, yes, I’m experimenting. Don’t know what’s got into me!

Well…I guess it’s in the water, huh?

If I had someone to shock, they’d be highly surprised at the shockingly sensual side to Cappy.

Since I don’t, I’m afraid I’m offending/scaring my best friend (of the opposite sex), and my dreams are killing me! LOL

Satori: “Thank Maude.” I am totally borrowing that, lol!!!!

Joana, I love your site! No wonder I was always a fan of the “Saturn Return” album by No Doubt….it was speaking to my Venus in Virgo

I love this little community of people, even though I’m like at the bottom of the totem pole of astrological knowledge. I learn so much from all of you.

Kisses

Nothing new for me, that I can tell yet. I have Mars in 1st trine Sun/Uranus in 5th.

Snap– it’ll happen! I went through a LONG period of celibacy this time. it’s darkest before the dawn!

Satori: Thanks for the encouragement. I mean I could certainly go out and get it if I wanted to. I’m just not really like that - it has to mean something for me. It’s just really frustrating with this guy: it’s like driving with someone that’s alternately putting their foot on the gas and then on the brake.

As I said, I don’t have his chart, but he is a Scorpio and I think his Venus is in Capricorn. If it’s true, that probably says it all right there!

Satori, can I ask what some of your (one’s you really feel show you) signs are?

I have much pisces, much 8th house, much aries, capricorn moon in the fifth, and scorpio mars in the third with neptune on the IC. oh yeah, and leo rising, which is actually kind of jarring in relief against the rest.

I must assume you’re wondering why I’m so lascivious– all that pluto and neptune, intensely wanting to merge, but cap moon square venus and it not always going smoothly. I’ve found that consciuosly denying my intense urges (when I’m not finding someone that fits) actually makes for much growth in other areas in the meantime… channeling that energy elsewhere.

Thanks Satori. No I wasn’t so much wondering why you are so lascivious (lol), as I guess wondering at our similarities.

I have Neptune, Pluto, and Venus in the 8th House, so I’m with you on the “intensely wanting to merge” thing, I have some Pisces (my Asc. for starters) and I am a Sun Scorpio w/ Venus and Neptune in Scorpio.

I’m a whole lotta me.

Yowza, Satori! I LOVE this line of yours: “I’ve found that consciuosly denying my intense urges (when I’m not finding someone that fits) actually makes for much growth in other areas in the meantime… channeling that energy elsewhere.”

Thank you for articulating this thing I’ve been experiencing.

ah yes, I have aquarius on the seventh– similarity in that as well. I find that I tend to project my need for freedom onto the other. as in “why isn’t he calling??” when in actuality I’d be all kinds of tweaked if he was calling too much.

my friend told me she was getting tired of this guy texting all the time– I said oh yeah, I hate that. turns out her guy texted 500 fucking times in one day. I broke up with a guy for 5. yikes.

thanks! I call it Conscious Celibacy and it’s very empowering. fucking frustrating, of course, but the benefits are HUGE. I think it may help attract what you’re really looking for as well. I mean you spend all this energy boiling down what you really need and letting the rest fall away. I think you transmit more clearly at that point.

I’m glad it helped you. Venus/Saturn is just flat scared of failure. But when they put in their energy, it’s real. They won’t give up, they’ll work for you, whatever it takes to make it a success. And they last for a long time. That’s Capricorn love! See, it’s not all bad.

I KNOW! unreal. I offered to have a gangsta-style talk with him. “you’re talkin’ to my girl all wrong…”

happy medium. good question– that’s always the question. I have two conflicting bits of advice I follow. I got them both from Elsa P.

1. if someone withdraws, withdraw twice as far yourself.

2. if you trust them they get a free pass. as in– how long does he have of not calling before I get pissed? I decided he’s got a whole year. so far it’s never been more than a few days, so he always comes in under my timeline.

I dunno, it seems to be working for me. that and the occasional call to muh friend to say “I’M ON THE CLOCKTOWER WITH A RIFLE; TALK ME DOWN!”

Oh fuck Satori, that was funny! ROFLMAO!

Some might say that your timeline is a bit generous! Are you really able to not be pissed?

And I totally relate to the “talk me down” thing - I sometimes need my friends to do exactly that, as well ;o)

Yeah, I agree with you about the whole script thing.

For me, I think lots of times it just comes straight from insecurity. (no, I don’t really like to admit that)

Also, I am in a different position with this relationship, than with the last. My long term relationship (17 years) I realized I picked him because he didn’t matter. Course I didn’t get that til after (think he might have done the same with me). This guy really does matter. Even though I think the relationship does not have great odds, it still matters. A lot. So that’s where the insecurity comes in. Because it matters so much to me.

in regard to rewriting the script I tend to try to look for reactions I have which seem to be knee-jerk responses. they almost always point to a pre-programmed script that really has nothing to do with what my natural reaction would be. is that me or is that my mother talking? someone coined the term “poisonous pedagogy” for the programming we’ve received that is not in our best interests. learning to know yourself is the best tool for rooting out unhealthy patterns of behavior.

Hmmm….Satori, I don’t know what this says about me, but I actually have to ask the definition of Celibacy!

No, just kidding, but Conscious Celibacy . . . I don’t know if I’m misinterpreting this, but you’re basically just waiting for the right one to come along, saving yourself so to speak, that it?