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Open Question: Dating Or Marrying Your Astro-Twin - Good Idea Or No?
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Dear Elsa,
I am dating a man who’s birthday is the same day, same month and same year as mine. Is this a good match? How often does this happen?
Cancer Woman
Dear Woman,
It does not happen very often although I see people born within a week of each other fairly frequently and it is hard to say if it is a good match or not.
For me, it would be a terrible match because I want someone odd and unusual and would be bored to tears dating someone so similar to myself. However this tendency is shown my chart and another person may take a lot of comfort being paired with someone very much like themselves.
I would say that traditional astrology would be against the idea, the premise being there is little challenge or opportunity for growth but this really doesn’t hold up in reality because if you are a difficult challenging person and so is he… well then you’re going to have plenty of difficulty and challenge.
Based on all this, it would have to be judged on a case to case basis but really the only judgment that matters is yours.
Are you happy? That right there is the best barometer.
Anyone else have experience or an opinion about dating your astro-twin?
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11 Responses to “Open Question: Dating Or Marrying Your Astro-Twin - Good Idea Or No?”
My friend dated a guy with the same birthday/year for a couple of years. They were both Leos. She was the egomanical, dramatic, high maintenance kind and he was oddly a very shy and quiet Leo. They were very different (sorry I don’t know anything else about their charts), but still it didn’t work out well and ended on a bad note. It could be a different experience for someone else though.
I laughed out loud because as soon as I saw the title I thought “Cancer” and that was before I scrolled down. I have a theory that the sign that most gravitates toward like is Cancer. First, I know more Cancer-Cancer married couples than any other (5). Second, the guy I’m dating is a Cancer and knows 7 astro-twins. He’s never dated any of them, but he’s friends with a number of them. In contrast, I’ve never run across anyone in my life born on the same day and year as me!
Jessica - interesting, because I’ve seen more Scorpio-Scorpio pairings than any other sign.
Nina
I think it would depend on the individuals. Perhaps some astro-twins can make something like that work, especially if there’s some Gemini involved. (Twins! Hee!)
But I know it wouldn’t work for me. I can’t even imagine pairing with someone who also has a Cap Moon. *shudder*
You know, I suppose I should add… My fiance and I are both Aries, with birthdays three days apart. BUT… He’s also 10 years older than me. 
Vastly different charts, and it works beautifully.
Wow! Well my theory has not been scientifically tested… these are just the same-sign couples in my sphere!
Inadvertently briefly dated several over the years, same month and day as me, but the year varied. Always same result though–I found them very, very, very predictable, and that was SO boring. But, I am an Aries…
But Danielle, that means they were Aries, too, no? I am an Aries and was married to an Aries and have many Aries friends, I must say I have yet to meet a predictable, boring one yet
I know a couple who have the same birthday, but they were born different years. I see two Cancers being happy and cozy and comfortable for a long time. But that’s a very broad idea. I agree with Elsa, it would probably have to be analyzed on a case by case basis, but if Cancer Woman is feels good about it, then why not?
My ex’s birthday is the day before mine but he was a year younger so not my astro twin… but we had very similar charts. I found the things that irritated me about him are the things that I do myself. It was kind of like looking in the mirror and having my faults pointed out daily. Not good.
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but luckily there’s a challenge, just enough for personal growth and shift in perspective coupled with lots of mutual understanding, smiles, hugs and empathy. we’re telepathic and strong people. they aren’t born at the same time so ascendants will be different as will be the moon, that’s just enough to keep the magic. check to see if venus is sextile and whether mars and venus conjunct for it not to get boring but add love and sex 