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Saturn In Virgo: Does Your Source Of Information Have Integrity?
Astrology in real life
The other day I had to confront my son. Forever the victim of other people’s undermining I noticed he had taken on a negative attitude towards me and it got to a point I thought I should address it.
Now in theory, no one should be telling my son bad things about me… skewing his reality. But fact is this happens and when the effects grow too large I feel little choice but to shatter the illusion which I do with a Mack Truck sized-club unfortunately for Vid.
I discussed it with the soldier.
“I think I have to confront this at least now and then. If people lie about you and you let it go without putting up a fight, eventually the misinformation stands as fact.”
“It does stand as fact,” he said.
“Yeah, well your whole life is like that which is another reason I did it. People say so many negative things about it is hard for anyone who listens not to have it encroach on their opinion.” I rattled off several acute examples. “People actually believe this stuff about you.”
“Yeah they do.”
“Okay, well that stuff is erroneous, there isn’t a fact in the entire story yet it is completely believed. I don’t really want that to happen to me so every six months or so I have to smash the illusion. I am afraid if I look away any longer than that, the thing will become rooted.”
“It will become rooted.”
“I know, I have your life as witness and it seems you’ve got to set these things straight or at least try to. Because thinking people will figure it out eventually (the truth)… well I don’t believe it works that way anymore. It is probably a very slim minority that figures out anything other than what they’ve been told so if you’ve got people lying to you, I guess you’re just screwed.”
Does what you know have a solid foundation?
9 Responses to “Saturn In Virgo: Does Your Source Of Information Have Integrity?”
I know what it feels like to be lied about, and I know what it feels like to have people who you thought loved you believe those lies and act accordingly. It feels terrible, Kafka-esque, in fact, because you feel like nothing you do or say will change their minds.
At times I have reacted, disputing the lies, and I’m not sure I made any headway. Maybe it was my approach - way too direct. At other times, I didn’t react, just figured that people would see for themselves who was just spreading gossip and who was keeping it real. Didn’t seem to have any effect, either. At least I don’t recall getting feedback that it did.
What I learned, though, is important to me: not to listen to gossip because there’s no way of knowing whether it’s truth or lies. And for sure not to repeat what I hear. Living in a small community, you hear lots of gossip about people and I have learned to just shut it off, because no I don’t know if it has a solid foundation.
And Elsa I know what it is like to have people lie about me to my own children - how awful that feels. Ex in-laws tried to do a number on me to my sons, who politely but firmly asked them to stop and they did. I’m sorry you have had to deal with such a painful business, and Vid too, ‘though I suspect this’ll be a lesson he’ll always remember. Wish you all the best. . .
I tend to be suspicious of everything I hear. I’m always weighing things people tell me to see if they match up energetically.
My older son lives with his dad most of the time. His dad is still pissed off at me 11 years after I left him and talks shit about me on a regular basis. I have to go in and do damage control from time to time. I’ve always believed the kids would see the truth eventually but I think you’re right. I think sometimes we need to be more proactive in getting the stories straightened out.
Nope.
i try to oonly take as credible things i have solid data on. i seem to do al right with that. if for no other reason than i believe my own experience tells me more than other people’s gossip.
i just avoid gossip, for the most part, and it avoids me, and i’m happier that way.
What I know has a solid foundation, usually rooted in my own experience. But, the bad part of that is that it means there are very few things I can really say I KNOW.
Which means I am not of very good use in the world where most people want you to be so SURE of yourself.
Most people will always gravitate toward the people who are sure of themselves. And it seems that most people who are really sure of themselves are missing part of the truth.
I don’t know if that makes any sense.
I think that depends on what you would call a solid foundation. For some people, it’s verifiable facts and figures with a side of photographic evidence. For others, it’s feelings, perceptions, and experiences. Personally, I prefer a combination of the two, and I like to think I get it right most of the time.
Reminds me of a situation in my life. 10 or so years ago I had an uncle threaten to kill my cat. He did steal my car.
No one but my mother and one cousin believed me. I was a bad person in my extended family for years because I just pulled away from the whole dangerous mess.
Three or 4 years ago at thanksgiving he backed me upagainst the wall and threatened me. That christmas he slashed my tires while my car sat in my uncle’s driveway.
My uncle finally “got it” then the whole family sat down and said “why is he doing this?” I said, you guys didn’t want to listen 10 years ago but he’s mentally unstable and threatened physical harm to my cat, his ex-girlfriend etc. etc.
Very frustrating to not exist and to not be believed by most who I tried to tell. They thought I was just some young highstrung girl…
Since then he’s moved onto other family members, to their shock and amazement…
Thankfully I believed me and distanced myself to the best of my ability (that being said, I still don’t attend family gatherings)
Jesus, mudlike, what a horrible situation! It sounds like you handled it pretty well, though, so good on ya. 
I try to only accept hearsay from sources that have proved their unimpeachability because I was gossiped about for a long, long time growing up. That definitely skews your concept of who’s trustworthy, though, so I don’t know for sure whether I’m going about it right.
And, interestingly enough, I remember clearly telling my grandma and aunt that they shouldn’t talk bad about other people and especially shouldn’t talk bad about my mamma in front of me when I was about four. *lol*
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