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Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra With Mars Involved: Unconventional Warfare
Astrology in real life
Reporting this on the chance it helps others trying to maintain their relationships… most of you know the soldier and I tend to fight and when we do, it’s no joke. We just can and do explode with what (in hindsight) seems to be very little provocation but once it happens, we really do get into it.
We try to control this tendency with very limited success but we did land on something a few nights ago that seemed to work.
In the midst of a fight… well the soldier was going to take a bath. He figured we’d be at it all night - Fighting that is, so he may as well take a bath and he invited me to take a bath with him and continue the fight. I guess he figured (rightly) if he left the fight to bathe, I would be even madder so he decided this was the best option.
It left me (as an angry women) to either get in the tub and fight with him, or refuse to and y’all ought to know by now I will never not be sporting so we both stripped down and got in the tub.
And while we did continue to fight, it was very much toned down because think about it. You have two naked people scrunched in a tub - How mad can you be?
Have you ever applied unconventional means to alter or effect a pattern in your relationship?
10 Responses to “Mercury in Aries vs Mercury in Libra With Mars Involved: Unconventional Warfare”
Wow, I have done that bath thing with my SO. I don’t know if he likes it when I suggest that but he goes along with it. And other ways of being physically close while fighting. (we both have Mars in a fire sign).
I think fighting is a Mars thing, first house. However, the first house is next to the 12th So, what could help is to turn to the 12th house, as you rightly said on a video. It’s like the spinning dancer, we can make it spin counterclockwise (1st>2nd) or clockwise (1st>12th). At the moment I realize that my partner and I are one, I feel like fighting against myself, and I also realize that I can stop it at any time. Water puts out fire. That’s perhaps a reason why the tub works so well too.
Spinning the fight towards the 2nd house could be throwing or smashing dinnerware or other valuables around me, what do you think?
Wow, my ex used to fight dirty. He could and would say whatever it took to win the fight (he told me so). Unfortunately for him, he was always the one that had to come back and apologize. The thing is, I think that your supposed to fight in order to accomplish something, you know - come to some sort of an understanding.
Anyway, I loved all these posts, and I’ll try to keep them in mind if I ever have a SO to fight with!
I have friends who have two of those funny groucho glasses stashed in their living room. When they first got together they promised if one of them was mad they had to put the glasses on before one of them could confront the other. The the other had to put on the other pair before they could fight. It must be real hard to fight in funny glasses - you just can’t help but laugh. It’s worked for 10 years so far. He’s a Leo and she’s an Aries - lots of fire there.
I love the Groucho glasses trick. I am so stealing that one, if I ever get together with anybody.
My anger can get kind of huge and overwhelming (mars sq pluto) and I find disruption a very useful tool (Perhaps because Uranus sextiles mars?) anyhow. I find if I jolt the routine often I can disrupt the anger when it stops being reasonable and starts to be out of control.
thats the way, soothe the inner child and give him and her a different way to discuss things. I like it; Bath Therapy for Couples.
Baths do tend to reduce stress, well they do for me. Seems pointless to get all coiled up when the feeling is fine. I guess baths are antithetical to fightin?
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I love this. I would do this stuff but unfortunately the guys I dated for years were just too enraged to really even be able to participate. Thank god they’re no longer around!
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Ex-fiance and I used to have one really good thing we did, and not just during fights… whenever one or the other of us was feeling unloved or insecure or in pain, that one would turn to the other and say, “Love me.” And that was a sacred request. It had to be obeyed, no matter what. He’d say that to me, and I’d have to tell him I loved him, and hug him and kiss him, even if I was mad as hell.
It was really great for those times when I was acting like a bitch only because I was being insecure. And it could break a fight right in half.
I heard of another guy who used to have a t-shirt with enormous block letters on it saying “I LOVE YOU”, and every time he and his girlfriend got into it, he’d go and put it on. Derailed everything.
I bet a clown nose would work well, too.