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Astrology And Happiness: Here Are Some Tricks - Try Denial
Catch up on this series - Can Happiness Be Taught Or Trained?
There are some less obvious ways happy people stay happy. Many of us use denial. Denial has a bad rap which I see as ridiculous. People could not survive without this mechanism and denial takes many forms.
Now the soldier and I have difficult lives and always have. You’re just going to have to take my word for that but regardless of that we are both very happy people. As been reported on this blog before, he can be completely content in a foxhole in the middle of a war, or sleeping on a rock. As for myself, back when I was a homeless teenager, I had distinct awareness I was happier than most and by far.
We both have an endless ways and means to access good feelings but one of the things we both do is focus on the nuance or to pull the Virgo side (Pisces and Virgo are inseparable whether you like it or not)… we might focus on a detail.
In my case, I like feeling of the sun on my skin. I just like this feeling and I can at will, focus on this sensation and very effectively block anything and everything else out.
So I am sitting a bus bench, I’m homeless and not sure what I am going to do. I’ve got more than a few problems I’d say and if I were to dwell on them I suppose I would spiral down.
But instead I feel the sun warming my skin. I mean I really feeeeel the sensation on my shoulder and smile spreads ‘cross my face. “Man I feel good,” I think. And I do. I feel the entire glory of this universe right there on my arm and it makes suffering absolutely impossible.
I cop to being very advanced at this but…
Do you ever access good feelings via denial?
20 Responses to “Astrology And Happiness: Here Are Some Tricks - Try Denial”
Well, I remember telling my mom once that I was looking forward to my kids moving out so I can pretend they aren’t doing anything stupid.
She said it doesn’t work. I thought that was kinda killjoy of her.
Yeah, Lupa. You reek of this ability. I saw my daughter today. She has Saturn in Pisces and Jupiter in Sadge trine a 9th house Moon. She’s ain’t goin’ down, ever!
It’s only recently that I’ve begun to appreciate my Pisces Saturn, thanks largely to what I’ve learned here. Mine isn’t an easy chart but it’s got some pretty profound magic. I’ll keep it. 
Love to my fellow Gem, Mosta!
This is what I found myself doing last semester, when I had that brief period where my depression almost took me over… and then I started compulsively baking pie.
It’s literally impossible to be unhappy with your hands full of strawberries and sugar.
Yeah, I love denial.
I love it so much I deny it is denial.
Reality is in the eye of the beholder. . .
(sun on skin,
rain on skin,
something Bob Marley,
a cocktail. . .
they all work for me)
i don’t call that denial, i call that a gift of finding beauty.
letting go of what’s out of your control, and controlling what is….
why you mention ’soldier’ very often? what’s it suppose to mean? help me understand
Yes, and it is a fairly new thing for me (within the last 2 years). It’s fantastic.
Lots of love to Mosta!
Now, Lupa, I’m going to have to go and research what my Saturn in Pisces means…..
I seem to have an excellent memory for events (?). (Well, if there is a favorite guy involved, LOL) I can run things that happened over and over in my brain, and clue in to more and more things, almost like I’m there again…. Is this anything to do with Saturn in Pisces?
I guess I do use this to tune out sometimes - tv works good for that, too.
P.S. Love the feeling of the sun on my skin
Snapdragon, I would assume memory and brain stuff would be associated with Mercury and I have an unreliable memory. My Gemini mind is too busy to keep up with all the details all of the time. My 12th house Scorpio moon gets credit for all the knowledge that gets dumped into my subconscious to be accessed when I need it. If I’m lucky.
Saturn in Pisces would have more to do with your reality shifting than with the way your brain works, IMO.
the sun on my skin works for me, big time!!! I am a complete sunshine junky. I don’t think of that as denial though, it is just enjoying life as it is. (taurus rising) A song works for me too, right song at the right time:instant happiness. Beware the wrong song at the wrong time too, though, I always have to turn off the music if I am fighting with someone…. I don’t want to ruin my song!
(laughing at myself)
I have Venus in Virgo square Neptune. Oh, I can be completely in denial about things, especially my love life. I don’t know how to handle certain situations any other way. I think I’m just not well-enough equiped to face reality about certain things just yet. I’m overly sensitive, so I just slap on my smile and turn the other cheek.
Bleh.
actually, before i saw the video of you talking about the soldier’s use of denial while he was away from his first wife, i hadn’t really thought about this angle of denial as healthy. i always felt kind of guilty and annoyed with myself when i realized i was doing this in the past.
i did plenty of denial regarding my weight issues for many years. 100 extra pounds isn’t just “plump” man.
thinking about it, i’m also aware that i sometimes do this before taking on a significant project. i totally “erase” a lot of the work required in my head before i start. otherwise, it would be overwhelming. but once i’m in, my scorpio mars keeps me going.
interesting hearing from the other sat. in pisces folks…i think i’m finally coming to terms more with my pisces, which i have long had a tendency to project…go figure.
I really like this topic. I can relate especially to the sun on my skin. When I was really sick last year just sitting in the sun made my day and listening to music. Just tuning out and listening to music works for me everytime.
My denial goes to such lengths, it’s not even funny…for instance, I can’t remember the majority of my childhood. Oh, sure…if I REALLY wanted to, I could dredge up memories, but I DON’T want to, so I don’t. Childhood? What’s that?? Sun doesn’t do it for me, but smells do (although, the sun has a smell! did you know that? 
hehe)…Food smells, beach smells, flower smells…scent & food make me happy. I can forget everything else exists w/a bunch of lilac or hyacinth in my face Oooooh, or LEMONS!! Lemons are wonderful to smell….
how about some shiny chickens?!!!!! LOL Don’t know if you caught that joke, but SOME people will :o)
Skye, I second that. Sometimes I will actually wake up in the morning and realize that I had a song going through my head all night. Also I can bike pretty hard (push through) if I just have that rock going in my ear.
someone just sent me this:
http://www.livescience.com/health/060227_happiness_keys.html
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Oh definitely. I completely get the sun on the skin thing.
I suppose I would have to credit my Saturn in Pisces for the ability.