1 Minute Astrology - Single Parenting Sucks!

11 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Single Parenting Sucks!”

1. omie says on 6/4/08 at 5:32 pm:
   

   oh you said it! I am a single parent of three children myself, and grew up in a single parent household. The good news is I know myself, plenty of adversity to test myself on, but it is not what I want for my children. You just need more, more than one, I agree completely.

2. Dina says on 6/4/08 at 6:04 pm:
   

   Aw, Elsa, double parenting is hard, single parenting I can’t imagine. Ironically, today I picked up a free poster in the movie theater of a movie called The Year My Parents Went on Vacation. (not meant to be offensive, I just thought it was a coincidence with the parenting crisis/Pluto in Capricorn thing)
   http://media.movieweb.com/galleries/5939/posters/poster1.jpg
   I was going to give it to my professor as an ironic joke, but I’m kind of worried it would be offensive. He told our class about how his parents had to leave him a year in Vienna and come to America without him. He said that this helps him understand the abandoned children in Dickens.

3. Dina says on 6/4/08 at 6:06 pm:
   

   Whoa, the plot of that movie is weirdly similar to my professor’s experience.

4. Debsy says on 6/4/08 at 7:04 pm:
   

   I am a single parent of two teenagers and it is very hard. Some days I didn’t get home from work till 8pm and they weren’t fed and you feel terrible. I was working 60+ at my job and I ended up with a nervous breakdown.
   That’s the stress of it. It does take 2 or 3 or4.
   We used to have extended families that helped.
   Now we are lucky if the microwave helps

5. spinner says on 6/4/08 at 8:57 pm:
   

   I agree with you 100% Elsa. Debsy- I can cruise at 55 hours a week but above 60 is where I start breaking down and I am an empty nester. I worked hard when I was younger and my children were at home and some of that was excrutiating but mostly it was good, ok or fine. There were two of us. I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be working this hard whilst being a single parent. Power to you!

6. PixieDust says on 6/4/08 at 9:18 pm:
   

   Well, I agree it sucks for me as the beleaguered Mom, but as long as I’m kicking and it’s just my son, I think it’s Ok for him. He does see his dad on the weekends but I do the hard work. I deal with the crap, and the maintenence. And I understand him deep down, while his father is practically clueless.
   In this case, I think it’s very fortunate that he’s more with me, getting what he needs, than being misunderstood by his father. The three of us together is a bad dynamic; everyone is agitated, I feel my ex is jealous of my attention going to our son ( I’d even say that as much as he loves him, he resents him) and you can imagine how I can’t wait to go our separate ways. So single parenting is kind of the lesser evil I can live with better.
   It is grueling, though, no doubt about it.

7. Jessica says on 6/5/08 at 12:05 am:
   

   Maybe one way to think of Sun-Saturn is that they are born with the capacity to be their own parent? There is loss there, but also self-sufficiency? I’m Saturn square Sun, so I know a little bit about this. Jeez, I am understanding more and more how huge the Soldier is for Vid. I had a single mom myself and I always convinced myself that was enough. (not)

   I totally agree with you about a single parent not being enough. I just am afraid to, because I AM only one person. My son has contact with his father, and I would never take that away, but I am afraid of that contact too. It needs something to offset it somewhere, another different male role model. I am a fan of the blended family and do not have one to offer my son yet… is there a reflection of the “extra” parental figures in your chart somewhere? all Saturn?

8. Skye says on 6/5/08 at 10:33 am:
   

   Brilliant Video once again Elsa and Im glad it was brought up.

   I agree single parenting is hard and you need two or more although two effecient parents & what I mean by that is that to have one sick, abusive or depressed parent out of two is to an extent like being a single parent. Im not a single parent but my mum was/is to us 4 kids including me and someone is going to get neglected unfortunately and thats the truth of it. I have Sun-Saturn conjunct in the 8th myself square my moon and I basically became a the second parent being the eldest. In fact 3 out us 4 kids have Saturn moon apsects. We all had to become self-sufficient at some point because two us became very ill. I commend any parent who does this on their own especially in dire circumstances.

   In fact just last week a was talking to woman in my piano class who is mother of two kids one who is autistic and she was saying hard it is even when you have two parents but how blessed she felt to at least have a husband supporting her. I just commend parents in general who really try the best they can. I believe its the hardest job in the world

   Great video Elsa cant wait for the next one on this topic

9. Jana says on 6/5/08 at 4:47 pm:
   

   I agree completely. I would take it either further. Historically, families included the mix of extended relatives and more close knit communities that could step in and support those in crisis. I get in trouble with my single parent friends when I point this out.

10. Elsa says on 6/5/08 at 4:51 pm:
    

    “I get in trouble with my single parent friends when I point this out.”

    Jana - that is probably because the single parent is inundated as it is - There life is completely taken over and now it’s as if they have done something wrong. How often is the absent parent confronted? Hmm…

    You really can’t blame them for their sensitivity. Single parents are maxed out almost across the board. Think about it. Do the job of two (as if this is possible) plus do your job.

11. wyrdling says on 6/9/08 at 7:14 am:
    

    yes.
    but finding someone you can trust to get your back is challenging.
    my dad told me the challenges explode even in two parent households when there’s three children… though eventually they get old enough they start helping out.

    but yeah. i left my family so that my son could have other adults _in the house_. (grandma next door and getting frailer was not the same.) i just couldn’t keep it all going on my own.

    and thekid has saturn in cancer (and moon and venus) and i keep feeling i can’t help but fail him on some level of what he needs… because i have to work, i don’t have a choice.

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