“In For A Penny, In For A Pound” Is This A Good Love Philosophy?

19 Responses to ““In For A Penny, In For A Pound” Is This A Good Love Philosophy?”

1. midara says on 6/3/08 at 1:05 pm:
   

   Yes yes yes! Over the past few years I’ve had a major Saturn transit as well as Neptune transit over my Venus. It’s really taught me the value of commitment and unconditional love. I’ve really thrown myself into my relationship, and I’ve never been happier.

2. Lynn says on 6/3/08 at 1:40 pm:
   

   I am all for unconditional love - but it helps if the object of one’s affection is aware of this! I became aware of this very recently when I felt I had given this incredible gift of love to my husband and was extremely put out when nothing registered on the Richter Scale of his emotions. Feeling confident that I had given nothing less than a completely selfless act of unconditional love he looked puzzled and said that in fact he had interpreted my words as an attack on his manhood! What? Where did that come from?! Thought I. Anyway it meant that we were able to open up channels of communication between the sexes and between lifelong partners which had not been explored before. Wants me want to give more quality than quantity next time!

3. Michele says on 6/3/08 at 5:08 pm:
   

   Funny, that has always been a favorite expression of mine, even though I don’t hear it used much….

   Hmmmm, what if you don’t know if they love you? What then? (still sighing)

4. spinner says on 6/3/08 at 5:49 pm:
   

   An Irish expression for gambling or committing funds to a project? It speaks of committment. Committing to love your partner as much as you possibly can sounds great. I am all for it. With love sometimes it’s a gamble but one I am willing to take.

5. spinner says on 6/3/08 at 5:50 pm:
   

   my ball went into the gutter again

6. spinner says on 6/3/08 at 5:56 pm:
   

   thanks elsa p

7. Elsa says on 6/3/08 at 5:59 pm:
   

   spinner - LOL. I don’t know how that happens. Sometimes I check and there are 10 comments the trash but you seem especially lucky along with Heather M and a few other (Dina comes to mind)… everything they write goes south pretty reliably. I wonder sometimes about your charts..

8. spinner says on 6/3/08 at 6:01 pm:
   

   Could it be my wood burning computer model?

9. Debsy says on 6/3/08 at 6:54 pm:
   

   Now if I can only just find someone else that would agree with that. I don’t understand this take it slow, no commitment type of “love”. It makes no sense.

   Elsa, you are always so refreshing. I love this thought!

10. satori says on 6/3/08 at 7:03 pm:
    

    I’ve always used that expression when someone was talking about whether or not they should have more kids. I kind of felt that since I was already committed to parenting I might as well make it worth my while.

    I recently adopted the IFaPIFaP philosophy in regard to love. I can’t really say why… maybe cos the man is so good… maybe cos I’m ready to grow as a human being. maybe both.

    I know Elsa called it giving someone a “free pass.” I decided to do that cos I believe in his innate goodness. even if I lose my shirt, I’m all in. it seems like the right thing to do

11. Jessica says on 6/3/08 at 7:40 pm:
    

    Oh, and that quote reminds me of John Adams: “The only two creatures of value on this earth are those with the commitment, and those who require the commitment of others.” Like — you’re in, or you’re out.

12. ewinbee says on 6/3/08 at 8:10 pm:
    

    I weigh my investments these days. I used to just chuck my pound around like it was meaningless.

13. satori says on 6/3/08 at 9:09 pm:
    

    ewinbee– my thought is not what the penny/pound are worth, that’s the bet. it’s what are the overall stakes of the game. if the pot’s something unique of great value… you throw in the pound.

14. Michele says on 6/3/08 at 10:37 pm:
    

    wow, lot’s of great comments!

15. saggal says on 6/3/08 at 10:39 pm:
    

    I have heard of it, but not incorporated it, I like it though. I think it will help. Thanks Elsa, you are so awesome.

16. Shannon says on 6/4/08 at 12:58 am:
    

    Absolutely! Either do it, or don’t, but don’t pussy foot about it.

17. shell says on 6/4/08 at 6:23 am:
    

    Yeah, no half assin’. I’m in it to win it!

18. Jilly says on 6/4/08 at 6:50 am:
    

    “I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will
    spue thee out of my mouth.”

    I’m not a Christian but Jesus said not to be lukewarm, which I try not to be, too.

19. wyrdling says on 6/8/08 at 9:25 pm:
    

    well, yes, if you’re going to see if something works, you better put some energy into it. what kind of love requires no energy?

    i guess it depends on how much one values relationship, but i think love itself is something sacred and should be treasured as such….

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