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40 Years Old And Never Bothered To Decorate Her House: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I grew up in a family of 6 kids, big house, great holidays, etc. My situation is this: as an adult, I have never had a pulled-together house. I am in my 40’s and this has held true through 2 marriages and my current stint as a single parent. It isn’t simply varying periods of disorganization or disinterest in decorating, but having the bare minimum of both furniture (some castoffs) and functional objects. Money is not the problem.
Every house I’ve lived in looks like I just moved in. I can truly say that I don’t know anyone who is like this; some newlyweds and college kids are better off! I’m almost afraid of having a house that is too “established” and settled. None of the places I’ve lived since leaving home felt like a place I wanted to put down roots, although I’ve lived in the same city for the past 18 years!
Am I very kooky? How can I pull my house together so I can have people over and dinner parties and all the rest? What is going on with this?
Homeless
United States
Dear Homeless,
You are asking the wrong person because I live just like you. And I just knew when I was plugging in your data I was going to see a Jupiter Moon contact and sure enough, there it is! I’ve got the same and I can tell you exactly what is going on. We only feel at home when we are moving! “Papa was a rolling stone… wherever he laid his hat was his home…”
I can tell you unequivocally I feel more at home at the gym then I do my own house. I feel more at home in a hotel room I plan to stay in for one night, etc. I feel more at home in the car and consequently, I don’t invest in making a home “homey” though I feel similar to you and think I should.
As to how to address this, I have had little luck. I traded astrology with an interior decorator once and while she did wonders with my house, it did not take me long to revert back to form. I have tried and tried and hope to try some more in the (Jupiter-ruled) future while I have simultaneously come to the conclusion, this is just how I am.
As for children growing up this way… well they probably do suffer but they are also paid. At least they get to walk on the carpet, yes? At least their friends can come over and let their hair down. At least they have a hell of a lot of fun with a Jupiter Moon mom so…
Other people may have ideas. I hope they do but as far as I am concerned this song below is the Jupiter Moon (Sagittarius Moon) anthem…
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15 Responses to “40 Years Old And Never Bothered To Decorate Her House: Astrology-Based Advice”
I have moon sextile jupiter and even a sextile doesn’t help… I hired a professional organizer because my issue was clutter,. Getting that help was the best money I ever spent because I was going crazy from the disorder but KNEW (from prior countless hours) that therapy would not help. I knew I needed professional help but that it was not a therapy issue, rather a skill I never learned and now I have some much needed order and after that the decorating sort of fell into place. There is an article on the internet called 7 essential stations every house should have and it’s a good one. I’ll try to find the link or just try googling it.
I have a Sadge moon, which I think is the same as a Jupiter aspect, and I have always, always loved to move. For the first 10 years of my adult life, I switched apartments every two years. That is, until I bought an apartment, and while I love that apartment, I miss moving terribly and have resorted to living away for stretches of time (I am freelance right now and am able to do that; incidentally, that switch came about right when I bought my apt…)
At the same time, I am a Taurus, so my house is not at all empty but chock full, eclectic and cozy. And yet the wandering minstrel in me is never happier than when on the road, in hotels, traveling the earth..
I have moon in gemini opposite jupiter in sag and same problem. I never have a ‘home’ (but I have two now)…it’s odd to me to invest in anything more than what I consider ’simple’. I would prefer to acquire household items through travel or exhibit gifts from friends/family than to go to a store and purchase things with no meaning to me. I can’t stand clutter or dust collectors and therefore lean towards a minimalist design bent. I’m the neutral queen (but cannot stand beige).
Oh, but when I am home I do need it to be relaxing, calming and tranquil.
Gem 4H cusp (with venus there)
I love to decorate. But we keep our apartment in mostly neutral colors. That way I can change my mind and change it up without getting a new couch. Colors are really important to me.
De-lurking here and off topic.
Thanks Elsa for the video. Love the Temps. Such bad hair, bad clothes and bad dancing during those days. But some very good music. You left me groovin’ 
I love to decorate too. Colors, wood furniture, soft fabrics, plants, all the possibilities! But I also love to move, change surroundings every once in a while. Every few years I pick up my roots and move to a new spot and call it home. But it is tedious, each time I move I have to pack up even more stuff than the last time. But then as soon as I get to the new spot I look forward to making it warm and cozy again 
I have moon/jupiter and moon/venus in constant competition.
I’ve got this moon jupiter thing too, but for me it translates to the city that I live in. I keep searching for the place that feels like home. Maybe I should look into astrocartography. Or maybe I will always look for that space.
I definitely feel at home when I am traveling.
I don’t know where my moon is, but it must be near Jupiter because I’ve been living out of a suitcase for . . . oh, seven years. Yikes! I’ve moved around so much . . . and all to places that were just a “short stay” -
But I’m gearing up to ground soon. I picked the spot (the State and Country! :)) now I just need to pick a home and someone to share it with
And maybe I’ll plant some flowers.
I feel almost “relieved” when I am in hotel rooms, like I have all the stuff I need contained in my bag, I can make do with what I have, that there is so little to bother yet my needs are taken care of (clean soft bed, clean bathroom with lots of towels and cute samples of stuff). I am also the master of the bare minimum purse with single/travel size emergency items (like individually wrapped dental floss that weighs nothing but makes me feel prepared!). I despise heavy luggage. Maybe having a very bare decorating style would help this person and you too Elsa–like simple furniture and maybe good stuff on the walls or artwork for visual interest.
Did anyone else notice the couple in front of the stage to the right vogueing? Trés cool!
I have unaspected Jupiter rising in Cancer, but Venus-Mars-Pluto in Libra in the 4th.
I like my home to be simple and elegant with no gewgaws and tchotchkes (dust-catchers, as Gem said). Big, solid furniture pieces (antique if I can swing it) in neutral colors, with vibrantly painted walls filled with art that speaks to me is my ideal! Unfortunately, in practice there’s always one room that seems to collect clutter and I’ve never managed to fully unpack in either of my own homes; I think that’s Pluto talking, all the things “hiding” in boxes and tupperware.
Sag moon here, and this is totally my song! I’ve sung it for years.
Another Taurus with Sag moon… I got sick of moving locations (for a few years I was doing it twice a year), so I refuse to move out of my current apartment even though I really should by now. But I had a flood years ago that destroyed many things, including my wall decor. After moving in, I still haven’t redecorated yet. I have random stuff all over the place. I do NOT make a house a home…however that’s done. I have no clue and no interest in doing it.
My bf is a Cancer with Moon trine Jupiter. He likes things austere and is really funny about drawers and shelves. His philosophy is more shelves=more stuff. More stuff=bad. No matter that we cook a lot and have more kitchen appliances than we have places to store them. He doesn’t get that. I have to be very careful about bringing up shelving. It’s a delicate subject!! I am very much the nester and shelf hanger and decorator in our house.
I relate! I Sooooooo relate! Never feel at home. Never feel happier than packing my stuff and removing pictures from the wall to hear that echoing sound of an empty house. Never happier when driving to another state or flying to another country or the first night in a new motel room.
Heres my data, Jupiter in Cancer (conjunct Uranus in Cancer within 1 degree). But I think there is something else that contributes. I have Sagit, on the 10th house cusp (MC) AND the 9 house cusp, which means traveling around (but not locally) and getting out in the world for career stuff, travelling, or whatever. I have the SN on the IC in Gemini and it Gemini is also rules the third house with mars. I kinda hate driving around locally (doing errands and all that crap). I find myself thinking, I just want to keep driving. But (here’s the Gemini) I often do live in two places at once.
the most times I’ve moved in one year? Something like 47, but it was a very weird year.
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And my kids walk on the carpet here. We’re the house all the neighborhood kids hang out at sometimes even when our kids are away.