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1 Minute Astrology - Compassion And Sympathy: Who Garners Yours, Who Does Not And Why
Astrology in real life…
My sister and I in a controlled experiment…
Who do you feel sorry for (or not feel sorry for) and why?
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Nobody feels sorry for me. Scorpio rising, cappy moon square Saturn. School of hard knocks, baby. And people think I probably did something to deserve it.
Ooh, Stephanie, I can feel you.
((Stephanie))
I tend to not feel so sorry for fire signs, specially leos. I guess because they look like they are faking emotions and they’re not good at it. I also don’t feel sorry for people who almost consciently attract problems to themselves, because i figure they need them and there’s no point in me wasting my energy feeling bad for them. I used to feel bad for too many people but as time goes by that is changing.
I was such a sponge for the pain of the earth and humanity that these energies really froze me up and did not allow me to access my true path. When you start understanding the metaphysical meaning of difficult situations it actually becomes an interesting riddle to solve and it all starts to make sense. Life actually really, and I mean REALLY FORCED me to detach myself from being a constant “healer” because I was destroying myself with all the (unconscious to a large degree) sorrow I was feeling and absorbing. So who do I feel sorry for? For myself for taking such a long time to figure this out! Deeeeep lesson for me.
I don’t think that people feel sorry for me — they may sympathize with things I’ve been through, but I don’t think they get a sense of vulnerability from me that would draw out the tendency to want to coddle me or express that kind of “feel sorry” emotion. I tend to get more of a “You’re doing so well in dealing with xxx situation!” regardless of whether I feel I am or not.
As far as who I feel sorry for…I tend to feel sorry for people who seem to try really hard and still get kicked in the teeth by life, the ones who struggle to make it through each day. They’re the people who are working so hard at making through that they don’t say much about it because they’re too busy living it.
I tend not to feel as sorry for people who actively and repeatedly seek sympathy or demand that people give them a break because they’ve had this or that issue in their life, but refuse to do anything to change their circumstances or the way they respond to them.
I don’t know the astrology behind all that, but there you go.
I feel deeply for people who reach old age who lament for the past or to be somewhere else.
I feel sorry for people who deal with chronic pain, any way you slice it.
As for who I don’t feel sorry for…no one. I even feel sorry for the people who have hurt me, because they’ve lost me even though I still love them.
[Late. Oh, well.]
I tend to be a pretty good white knight, and I only get intermittent bouts of sympathy. Mostly people can’t deal with it, or they try and pretend it away. I expect that’s Venus oppo Saturn.
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[’This doesn’t bother me greatly.’]
I don’t know if anyone feels compassion for me or not. I don’t look for signs of that or ask anyone if they feel that for me. However, I do know I can’t stop feeling compassion for other people (friends-loved ones-strangers), even when some of those individuals often enough don’t deserve it at the time that I am in compassion mode. I still feel compelled to give it and offer to help in any way that I can. I’m a soother I guess and a caretaker by nature. I’m emotional (of course) and sensitive to other’s feelings/vibes. Which isn’t so great in my book when I feel like I can’t take a break from giving a damn so much that it hurts. From being overwhelmed or drained after having to be around them for long periods of time. It’s almost like some of their personalities, their voices and actions rub me the wrong way. Because most of them are so damn negative or spiteful-ish. I just wanna run out of the location and keep away from them to my own neutral (stress free) corner.
And sometimes my hubby says how cranky or out of sorts I’m being. He asks what’s wrong with me. He tries to hug me and I tell him not to not yet. That I can’t handle to be touched or crowded right now or whatever. Like, all I wanna do is find a cave somewhere or a far away place from EVERYONE and hide in it for a while. WELL! So *HE* thinks it’s social anxiety or something. Fine. Maybe. But I don’t know for sure if that’s it cuz usually my gut tells me something. All I know is that my physical self reacts badly in a way that shows/feels like negative symptoms (headaches, body aches, bad tummy) with emotions in extreme highs or extreme lows.
The only time the results are different is when I’m around calm, happy, good tempered people who aren’t hyper or selfish. THEY (the *positive* people) make me feel warm inside and relaxed around them. I mean, what the hell is up with that? Am I going insane or what?
Carielle explained it better than I think I ever could: I feel sorry for the people who try so damned hard and still get kicked around but never say boo about it because they’re too busy living and trying to make it out. *sigh*
I also don’t get a lot of sympathy but I don’t really need any, either. I feel much better about life when people ignore any difficulties I’m having and treat me like normal consequently I don’t show it when I’m having problems. Funny enough, the people that do notice and try to comfort ~always~ give me food: “Poor thing! Have a cookie.” (I have Cancer rising.
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Stephanie! I am also Scorpio rising, Cappy moon square Saturn!
I don’t know if people ever feel sorry for me?? I guess I never paid attention. I tend to keep on truckin, with a smile on my face regardless of what I am feeling on the inside. I think I appear strong enough to handle myself, so people can’t really see an apparent reason to feel sorry for me.
I feel sorry for people in third world countries who don’t have enough food, vaccines, and the such. I feel sorry for people suffering from the loss of someone, since that’s something we have no control over.
For the most part though, I am extremely hard on myself when it comes to how I handle situations. I try not to sweat the petty stuff. When the big stuff occurs I try to find the lesson hidden beneath, then I move on. Basically, my motto would be “Life is what you make of it.”
So, I kinda project that expectation on to other people, and get aggitated when people sulk in their misery for loong periods of time. At the same time, I am compassionate in the sense that I hope the person finds the strength to move forward. So no, I am not quick to feel sorry for people. Moon in Capricorn maybe?
But I am still very compassionate in my heart! Someone tell me, does that make sense? It sounds contradictory doesn’t it?
I feel sorry for everybody.
“I feel sorry for everybody”
Yeah, good point.
Orphans, abandonded little ones and children without proper medical care…such a sad state of affairs.
On the other hand, religious fundis get no compassion- esp. if they are caught red handed engaging in activities they had explicitly lectured against. That’s vile!
~SS
I guess I’m a little of a show off, leo rising. I hide all problems. They surface themself somehow. So I guess that pisses people off and why I get no compassion. I’m very grand and I don’t need the compassion. I don’t give a damn!! I’m going to keep on trucking and make it anyways.
I feel sorry for any and everyone. Like someone wrote above said it best even the ones that have crossed me bcuz it’s their lost. I feel most compassion like others for the one that keepstrying and not only are they not making it but have no slack to fall back on.
Aries moon folk don’t draw much compassion, I’m guessing. That would be me.
On the other hand, we’re really good at giving everyone the impression we got our act together when it just ain’t so. Maybe we project “I don’t need your help, thanks. Just fine on my own.” The Aries confidence vibe, you know…
I don’t feel sorry for my SO just compassion and empathy. I do feel that many people that know him as a friend and co-worker do not give him kudos or appreciation when he deserves it. He is an amazing, competent, strong and brilliant individual. Maybe as he is a pisces he just gives and gives where few seem to appreciate it at the level it is given and the quality it is given. I vote for pisces.
And of course all signs that are having a really tough time. I wish you well.
Oh and he doesn’t get it as neptune opposes his asc and his mc. His sat is conjunct his asc/moon. We have the moon/sat conj in common. And saturn squares my asc. He has loner typed all over his chart with the sweetest facade ever.
Elsa, that is really interesting about you and your sister. She throws out a different hologram, huh?
Viv, that makes total sense about Leo folks (and I have ended up with more than one Leo partner). I have trouble feeling sorry for Leos because they can dredge up way more than enough self-pity and melodrama, I won’t add to it!
Also that’s funny you mention that fake crying, my last ex did that I called him on it! I am like “Dude. I cannot believe this, you are fake crying!” And immediately he stopped. LOL. He said no one ever called him on it before.
Well, I can imagine he’s right, because he has one of those mothers who is like the mother with the penny rocking horse out in front of the grocery store that you talked about Elsa. The one who totally was manipulated by her kid, and therefore selfish to the world.
And by the way I looked at one of those the other day, [thanks to reading that very interesting piece on spoiled brats, my words], and the cost, nowadays and on the East coast of the US is FIFTY cents - isn’t that tragic?
SaDiablo, that is funny “have a cookie.” That would drive me nuts. I almost can’t stand it when someone says - “Are you OK?” It makes me so mad! I probably almost repel pity because I so don’t want it. I am an emotional loner.
I also don’t feel sorry for drunks and the predicaments they bring on themselves, not to mention the self pity partys they throw while drunk - drunk dialing and so forth. This is probably because I cannot drink myself. So I am worse than the stereotypical former smoker who doesn’t dig being in the smoke path anymore (which is also true of me.)
Actually, there is a considerable list of people I don’t feel sorry for but probably should.
I do feel a lot of compassion for people like my mother, people who are solidly stuck in the illusion that life is so Real, because every little thing seems to come as such a rude awakening, and every little thing is so big.
I feel compassion for hungry poor people, whether they live in my country (the US), a 3rd world country, or any country, especially if they are not enlightened, (and of course most are not). And for people who are ill and tired and depressed (so long as it is not self-induced by being a boozer. Wow, I feel like such a stickler on this. Atypical Pisces rising?).
And I feel compassion for people who, all they can do to get by is work and work and work to get by, if it happens to be work that they detest or are totally bored with.
Day to day, people who COME ACROSS as modest and humble people are most easy to feel compassion for, but as shown by your post, it is not something that people can control (unless they are far better acters than my Leo ex).
Shell and Stephanie; We need to go for a beer. I am a Scorpio rising and Cappy moon.
Neptune must be very strong in my chart as I am deeply affected by poverty, injustice, abuse or neglect. I run an animal rescue charity and have been immersed in life and death issues surrounding the elderly and mentally ill from a young age.
I tend to absorb the pain and despair in any surroundings and my energy is tuned into that frequency so much that I can’t pretend it isn’t there. I don’t seek it out. It always finds me though.
I don’t tend to have much sympathy for anyone…A lot of people see me as cold-hearted because of this. Except children. If a child cries, I’m all over the motherly role. Anyone else, I figure they can handle it. The ones that really get no pity from me are the people who cause their own drama and problems, and are too stupid to do anything about them except whine. I’d say that I’ve led a rough life and it probably led to this shell of an exterior, but it probably wasn’t any worse than anyone else’s, and certainly nothing at all compared to people from war-torn, impoverished nations.
My sister and I kind of had the same opposition - except that mine has no clue that where someone always jumped into take care of her, when I was in a similar circumstance no one did that for me.
I do not know what this is in our charts … I do know that physically we are opposites. She is tiny and birdlike; I am tall and large bodied. When I was little I figured it must be good to be small, because then people want to take care of you help you, and hold you, protect you more.
A classic example of this is that we both ended up with eating disorders. I went through mine first - for what was essentially obsessive-compulsive over eating. No one felt sorry for me. It was all my fault - “just” eat less, “just” be disciplined - never mind that it was not garden-variety overeating but fueled by all of the same control issues and mind monsters as anorexia.
But when my sister later developed anorexia, the world stopped. Where as I had asked to go to a treatment center and was denied, my parents spent 10s of thousands of dollars sending her to one of the best in the country. Everyone stopped to ask how she felt, how this could have happened. They marveled at how much pain she must have felt to literally want to starve herself to death.
My comparative and similar pain, where I just wanted to stuff myself away until I could not feel anymore, deserved no such listening or sympathy. No one asked about my pain - not once. My behavior was just a problem and a flaw and something to criticize.
I finally “fixed myself” through reading books and lots of thinking things through. My sister got better much faster with all of that help.
My sister is Virgo sun, lots of planets in cancer. I am Libra sun with Virgo rising, but I think it’s first house Pluto that makes me seem to loom so deceptively large. I am not that strong. I needed help. But what are you going to do?
To this day it’s hard for me to feel empathy for small women or people who seem somehow delicate. I think - the world has helped you enough - opened enough doors, carried enough extra bags, reached for enough things off shelves, touched you more gently overall. For larger people - people larger in physical size as well as people who may be small but seem to have shoulders like mountains (like quite a few Capricorn suns I know) on which they carry the weight of the world, I reach out to them first and most; like - “I know you’re a mountain, but sometimes it’s just nice to have someone shoulder something with you - even if just for the company.”