1 Minute Astrology - How To Attract A Satisfying Love Relationship - Venus!

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1. wyrdling says on 10/3/07 at 5:25 pm:
   

   do continue- i’d love to hear more of these.

   i know with an aries venus (and her tricky relationships with saturn, pluto, and neptune) i spent much of my childhood/teen years “knowing” that i wasn’t pretty (in that classic bubbly girly way.) so i didn’t even try. i eventually realized i did have appealing qualities. and i also discovered that i got along better with people who valued the aries in me, go figure

2. Hiro says on 10/3/07 at 5:58 pm:
   

   Hey Elsa,
   I totally agree. I’m a 6 or 7 in looks (mercury and venus conjunct in Taurus, 9th house). Yet, I’ve had incredible romantic success based on my intellect and giant, open, loving, sexual, sensual self. It comes across. My girlfriend, on the other hand is literally a gorgeous model, venus conjunct mars in gemini, 12th house. She is everyone’s ideal and before we met she was used, lonely, not listened to, just an object or arm candy. I would not like to appeal to everyone. It’s a recipe for emptiness.

3. violet says on 10/3/07 at 6:41 pm:
   

   i would like to hear more on this concept, so i hope you continue and make it a series

   venus in virgo, fifth house. not to put myself down or anything like that, but i have to say the number of potentials that are drawn to me is quite small and i am still trying to make peace with that fact. although i’m almost at a palatable zone with this understanding.

4. Charlotte says on 10/3/07 at 6:57 pm:
   

   I really wish it were that easy.

5. Stephanie says on 10/3/07 at 7:28 pm:
   

   How is an Aries Venus hunter like myself supposed to just accept what I attract? No way. I make my own choices.

6. PixieDust says on 10/3/07 at 7:58 pm:
   

   I look forward to more of this. I wasn’t quite clear on exactly *how* to use your Venus, except not to deviate from what you are.
   Libra Venus, and not attracting anything worthwhile. I do have a sort of generic appeal, so that gets me superficial attention; but I get very tired of rejecting people and setting boundaries. It’s a constant reminder of not getting what I want. I’d love more info on how to attract the good one(s) and being less attractive to the dogs.

7. kashmiri says on 10/3/07 at 11:04 pm:
   

   Stephanie, I have Venus in Aries as well…I accept what I attract: prey in all shapes and forms…:)

8. kashmiri says on 10/4/07 at 12:32 am:
   

   Sorry, I had to add another comment, which was that with Venus in Aries, I’ve learned to be very careful expressing what I desire. It comes true. About 10 years ago, I thought I might be gay, and within 3 days of saying it aloud, along came a lady. The exact opposite of what I was expecting–no processing time–and in true Aries fashion I threw myself right into the fire. It ended badly. And in case anyone actually cared, no, I’m not actually gay. Just very, very impulsive when it comes to love. On the upside, when I felt ready for serious love relationship, I found it.

9. Korellyn says on 10/4/07 at 12:33 am:
   

   12th house venus in Cancer, opposing mars.

   Any attractiveness I have (which varies from none at all to incredibly magnectic depending who you ask) is always a mystery to me. And I know that mars opposition gets me into trouble but I have no idea how to handle it. Of all the aspects in my chart I’ve never been sure what to do with that one.

10. Moni says on 10/4/07 at 3:13 am:
    

    Venus in Libra here. Supposedly a good placement but it’s kind of a one-off in my chart, not really connected to anything but Uranus. So I guess I want an unusual love with an equal. So true. I also know that I have a hard time integrating the charm of a Libran Venus with the rest of my intense Scorpionity. But there is a soft, sweet, sort of girlish side to me that men appreciate if I feel safe enough to let it show. I look forward to more on this subject!

11. Carrie says on 10/4/07 at 4:53 am:
    

    Hi Elsa,

    Very good topic idea. But to echo another reader, how do you ‘use’ your Venus.

    Venus in Scorpio *grrrrrr*

12. Elsa says on 10/4/07 at 5:01 am:
    

    Carrie - I am going to do my best to address this, but this topic is immense in my mind. I have no choice but to allow it to unfold organically because my mind just doesn’t work any other way.

    Right now, I am struggling… or incubating is a better word, how I might communicate my ideas and unfortunately I am incubating a million other things that come to front as they damned well please which is why you see things in spurts on this blog.

    I am afraid this is my personality but can see an upside.

    The disruption allows people time to integrate ideas and have their own thought processes…. they make comments which get me pregnant and give me direction like yours did and hopefully we all progress???

13. Carrie says on 10/4/07 at 5:15 am:
    

    Yes Maestro, I do understand I have seen your latest post and it’s suitably enlightening already.

    I await your wisdom….

    kind regards
    Carrie

14. Elsa says on 10/4/07 at 5:20 am:
    

    LMAO, Carrie. That’s a nice way to characterize my fractured mind! Unbeknownst to me, I know what I’m doing… er… right?

15. Carrie says on 10/4/07 at 7:18 am:
    

    Aren’t we all just beetling along trying our best now? Your blog has become a little guiding light and source of inspiration for THIS single, struggling mom.

    Thanks once again,

    fondly
    C

16. Elsa says on 10/4/07 at 8:18 am:
    

    Carrie, thanks for that. If nothing else, I try to be a diversion. You can look over here while your life fixes itself.

17. Lis says on 10/4/07 at 9:52 am:
    

    It took me a loooooooooong time to learn this. Having an earth sign Venus (Virgo), you would think this would be easy, but it aspects all three of the outer planets. I’ve had a lot of lessons to learn in the love arena.

18. wyrdling says on 10/4/07 at 10:48 am:
    

    well, as far as the aries venus goes….
    the kind of men i tend to like are attracted to me but don’t tend to actually do much about it until i run after them.
    shy, or something. i have no problem with shy as long as i’m appreciated. what i don’t get is that i’m so darn shy myself but i can still chase someone down if i think they’re actually worth chasing.

19. Stephanie says on 10/4/07 at 7:20 pm:
    

    Yeah, Wyrdling, that’s how it is for me too. Love shy boys. I’ve always attributed it to my Taurus Mars conjunct Descendant. But I also attract some very aggressive fire sign types who want to chase me around. Yucky.

20. CD says on 11/2/07 at 4:37 am:
    

    My Venus is pretty much exactly conjunct my South Node, in Gemini. I can kind of get how the Gemini thing affects my Venus, but I don’t know what to do with the South Node thing.

    I looked up my synastry chart with my husband, and my Venus is trine his Mars. I guess that’s a good sign, maybe he loves something about me that I take for granted (South Node), who knows…

21. Melody says on 4/23/08 at 7:31 am:
    

    Venus in Taurus opposite Saturn retro in Scorpio (3rd/9th) and square Chiron in Aquarius / 12th. Fully being my Taurus Venus isn’t that easy!

22. doublecappy says on 4/23/08 at 7:38 am:
    

    Ah, Wyrdling. We are of the same stuff. I have this situation happening now. And I’m like HEY I’m shy too!

    But, Elsa, you once told me that I’m going to want the man who is attracted to me. I think there’s something in being recognized for who we are that’s attractive. If I’m trying to be barbie, and there’s this guy who’s into me, I’m not going to like him back - cause I ain’t barbie!

    But when I meet the main who recognizes me for being brainy and eccentric, sensual and feminine and all the other things that are the very essence of me, then I’ll also be very attracted to him. Kind of a “takes one to know one,” theory too.

23. Lexie says on 4/23/08 at 8:47 am:
    

    Venus in Aries, with a troublesome aspect to Saturn. I tend to attract men who are interested in me for only a quick bang. Of the some that actually want a relationship with me, they tend to be Scorpios and Leos. They tend to be at least a little older, a bit authoritative and at least closet pessimists. There are often power struggles. I suspect my Aries Venus just likes to jump around and have so much fun, and enjoys someone trying to control it (sick, but true…I like the challenge), and the men like finding someone who’s a bit of a challenge to pin down, even if I’m already their girlfriend. I still don’t like chasing the boys though.

24. Jessica says on 4/23/08 at 11:57 am:
    

    The thing I feel most about my Venus is it’s in my 4th. Yeah, it’s in Virgo and that’s supposed to be uncomfortable and whatnot. But I feel like love is the most fundamental part of me. I’ve never had a problem feeling or expressing that I love someone, and I feel like it just comes out of my soul like it’s so easy. But that big ol’ square to Neptune has prolly confused me into some bad choices. I always find myself with 10th or 12th-house Venus people who don’t seem to connect with their feelings of love as easily. So, looking forward to hearing more on this.

25. Gem says on 4/23/08 at 1:27 pm:
    

    My venus is at 29 degrees gemini…I believe it’s still gemini, but it’s also leaning right into cancer right? ‘Double’ sign showing double the possibilities??

26. Des says on 4/23/08 at 1:37 pm:
    

    Speaking of double sign my venus is in Libra. NO wonder I painted my whole room pink when I was a girl! lol in the twelvth…

27. Becca says on 4/23/08 at 2:30 pm:
    

    Venus in Libra and I can’t stand pink…but I’ve got it in the 8th house conjunct Uranus and Pluto.

28. copperweaver says on 4/23/08 at 3:46 pm:
    

    This is sort of my prime directive, finding a satisfying love relationship……..

    I don’t do a lot of attracting…. I think I sort of have a leave me alone vibe even when I want to be attractive. It’s like the composure get’s stuck in the on position…. Venus in Scorpio, sun, moon conjunct Venus, Venus square ascendant, Venus Trin Saturn…. It’s complicated…. Mostly I do the looking, probing, feeling, searching, testing…… I am very shy, and intense, and selective when it comes to opening myself up romantically. I look to mate for life….(Saturn in cancer in the 5th house) When I find love, I can be a bit manic expressing my volcanic fervor…… My partners have been few and far between, but they were all(most) quality and we learned stuff from each other…..

    I might have finally found what I am looking for….. but I will have to travel 1734 miles and work out some details to find out……

29. Conny says on 5/1/08 at 8:47 pm:
    

    Thank you Elsa for this concept, and from my experience I confirm it. My Sun is Leo but my Venus is Cancer, and I never attracted people as a Leo but at home, caring and cooking for them. I’ve always worked mainly at home and even in my language school (where I used to live in the back) there was always hot tea or coffee with cookies for my students. Venus is the ruler of my 10th House, so people feel well at my home

30. Eliza says on 5/2/08 at 4:46 am:
    

    Despite having a Venus-ruled Ascendant and Venus in Pisces in the 5th house battered by outer planet aspects, I still feel most comfortable and authentic with my boyfriend when ‘being’ my Gemini moon (also battered by aspects), which closely squares my Venus. I do miss some of the dreamy Pisces Venus stuff, (it doesn’t do much for his Venus in Aries, alas) but I think I get that back by losing myself in Neputunian pursuits like film and music.

31. L3na says on 5/2/08 at 7:00 am:
    

    Love it!

    And wow @ the amount of Venus in Aries ladies out there - just like me! I think Kashmiri is right though … we DO have to be careful about what we desire. And furthermore, we have to figure out WHAT we are desiring.

    For example, I’ve found that I’ll attract a certain type of partner because I’m afraid to commit\have kids\lose my freedom etc. etc. But sometimes I’m not aware of these fears, so they get wrapped up in the this-is-what-I-want-Cosmos-message without my knowledge, and then, when I finally attract someone, and it turns out that they’re exactly what I didn’t know I was wishing for. So THEN I’m like, “why does this always happen to me?”

    Anyone else have that experience in the past?

    Anyway, I wholeheartedly love the podcast and am looking forward to more. I’ve been into astrology for a long time and its nice to see someone else take on the baton for some Venusian emancipation sometime.

32. Ana says on 5/2/08 at 11:15 pm:
    

    lol, Wyrdling and Stephanie - this happens to me all the time. Venus in Aries, but mostly Saturn/Cap influence. I attract the shy quiet types and nothing happens until I initiate. I’m comfortable with my capricorn energy, but it’s taken me a long time to accept the Aries side. Hunting makes one vulnerable to rejection. And damn it, I’m shy too!

    I usually don’t succeed at being anything other than myself, so I’ve learned to just accept it. I am always amused though by the discrepency between what other people think I am, what I think I am, and what I actually am.

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