I love conservative homebody types, even though I come across as flamboyant and daring. I’m so yang I need that yin energy to balance me out.

I like charismatic types (Mars in Sagittarius) with a Scorpio intensity. I can be charismatic (Moon in Sadge) but in order to thrive need significant amounts of time spent as a fly on the wall..

I’m all emotion all the time . . . and so I end up dating or friends with stoics, people with emotional issues, people with stopped-up emotions . . . etc . . . And then I always feel super self-conscious about my own emotional displays.

I have also always been confused by that - because (like your magnet image) - opposites also attract. I know that there are different types of attractive forces, this is probably the explanation for why like can attract, like and like can repell like, and why opposites attract and why opposites also repell. Probably, like in astrology when there are a lot of competing dynamics, the dynamics that are best aspected dominate.

Anyway. As far as heart sugeons attracting people with bad hearts, etc. I think that’s a case of like attracting like, as far as it seems to me both people are vibrating at similar frequencies as far as their needs. One wants to help people with bad hearts. One wants to be helped by someone who can work with bad hearts. To me, those are two people with different needs in but that are so closely related that though they are not the same, they are on the same wavelength. I mean - how many people in the world (relatively speaking) who are heart mechanics? And how many people are there with bad hearts - compared to all the rest of the people in the world who have no relationship to the desire to fix bad hearts at all?

So maybe they do not live in the same house, but probably they live in the same neighborhood - energetically speaking. Or at least the same region.

But to your question - I attract people who can teach me what I do not know or who can balance me out. But they attract me too. It’s always a mystery to me - because, for example, a classic case is for me to be attracted to and to attract extroverts. I wonder, what on Earth could this person find in me - I must seem so boring and uninteresting by comparison. But they think I’m smart or something - somehow I give them something they need too, or why would they keep coming back?

I attract doormats! I always have to try and inject some spine in ‘em (and then they accuse me of being a bitch, but that’s a different story).

I don’t know what attracts me, though. The only two people that have really “pulled” me in any way are vastly different: one is flighty and a little messed up and one is rock-solid…
But both have a very strong sense of responsibility and work ethic. So maybe I attract people with a Saturn signature somewhere?

you ask a lot of questions on stuff i never thought much about…lol

my husband is like me in many ways, but one thing we don’t share is a general approach to doing things. he is quite methodical, by the numbers, plans for every contingency, always knows the worst case scenario kinda guy. me, i just go with my instincts and impressions and only resort to the 1-2-3 approach when whatever that’s popping into my head has not worked repeatedly. so i could probably benefit from more planning, and him, from less.

I attract the feeling and emotional types. Also people who seem to need support or direction of some kind. I’m more of a stoic and edit my feelings most of the time. I guess they’re a good example for me, I learn from them, lol I’m not sure I’m a good example for them though! I guess in a way we are opposites, and balance each other. Almost every significant person in my life has strong water placements, mostly in Cancer or Pisces.