1 Minute Astrology - Love And Synastry: What Happens When Love Natures Are Mismatched In Relationship?

13 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Love And Synastry: What Happens When Love Natures Are Mismatched In Relationship?”

1. chartwell says on 9/10/07 at 9:05 am:
   

   The Sound of Music is a beautiful film. My Venus in Leo wants to be loving and outgoing but is square to my Moon in Scorpio. There is always suspicion and jealousy mixed with pure bliss. Like the first pains of new love all the time. The hiatus of passion mixed with the pain of doubt. My husband is the most sincere, loyal, giving, romantic person. Why can’t Scorpio ever enjoy a good thing, always looking for the dirt ?

2. joana says on 9/10/07 at 10:25 am:
   

   That is very true. Maybe we grow up thinking everybody wants love and that love means the same to everyone, brings the same feelings, fulfills the same needs, but it’s not like that.
   And I have to say popular culture has a huge influence on how we see it.
   Your Ex is reminding me of Me, so not a lot more to say on that.

3. saggal says on 9/10/07 at 10:43 am:
   

   8th house venus in scorpio as well, square jupiter, opp chiron and sextile saturn. I’ve never heard venus described that way before, what you said about it ending in pain/devastation etc. but that’s been my MO as long as I can remember. But knowing that helps, because I don’t want it to be that way. My parnter has Venus in scorp in the 9th but manifests his completely differently although it aspects saturn as well, but also his asc. in aquarius.

4. Selkie says on 9/10/07 at 5:58 pm:
   

   Being a Pisces whose chart is loaded with confusingly contradictory postions & aspects, I’ve never really known WHAT my “story” is in any aspect of my life… except when it comes to marriage, about which I’ve always been as clear as a bell. Maybe it’s the Earth in my husband’s & my chart, along with his Mars conjunct my Sun in Pisces that makes the movie “Two-Family House” our idea of an idealistic, romantic love story. It’s the outlook that love isn’t what you say, it’s what you do, no matter what happens or what anybody says. Not sure how our each having Venus in Aries (his:5th; mine:7th) trine Uranus in Leo (his:8th; mine:11th) fits in with this, though!

5. CD says on 10/11/07 at 5:41 am:
   

   Hey this is interesting I never looked at this before.

   I have Venus conjunct the South Node in Gemini, in the 12th or 11th house depending on how you look at it. Square Jupiter and trine Uranus.

   My husband has Venus in Scorpio (don’t know what house), conjunct Jupiter and opposite Saturn. He has a bunch of other planets in Scorpio too.

   You know, this explains a lot in our relationship. Love to him is MERGING but sometimes I find merging stifling (even though I’m a Cancer). He is also fraught with relationship insecurity at times, which I chalk up to the Saturn opposition. Whereas I can recall only one or two times in over a decade of marriage where I’ve felt jealous (my motto is, his penis is his responsibility). His dedication is solid and unwavering, to me and to anything he has an interest in. Really quite amazing and wonderful. I am dedicated to our marriage of course (7th house Capricorn and sun/other planets in Cancer). But I definitely don’t like to be stifled.

   With his Scorpio, he can be secretive about the love he wants, but with my nature, I am not the most romantic person, if he doesn’t tell me what he needs I might not know. Communication and mutual respect is what keeps it together for us.

   I’m glad you brought this up - thanks!

6. kashmiri says on 4/13/08 at 10:38 am:
   

   Selkie: sometimes just being grounded and together on the love front can be radical in itself!

   My Venus is in Aries. Conjunct Mars, opposed Pluto. Part of a Grand Fire Trine with Saturn and Neptune. I’ve never doubted that I would find love in this life. But I didn’t have an ‘ideal love.’ I never said things like ‘I want a husband’ or ‘I want a family’ or anything like that. Just love pure and simple. To feel love and to be love.

   I’ve always been a seeker. I’ve always wanted to merge with Divinity. And I’ve always been profoundly confused when I set my sights on someone and they didn’t love me back (oh that bloody Aries!)

   My SO has Venus conjunct Moon in Scorpio. I’ve discovered over the years that while he has an inordinate amount of love to share, he always keeps a little bit to himself. I really can’t fault him for that. I can play my own Venus/Neptune card but he has the stories (experience) to back his way of thinking. He’s never been idealistic like I have…and I’ve never experienced loss like he has.

   This is very cool. It’s interesting for me to realize while I have Venus opposed Pluto, I fell in love with a person who has Scorpio Venus/Moon, as well as someone who’s had Pluto transit 6 planets in this lifetime already.

7. Avery says on 4/13/08 at 12:48 pm:
   

   Venus in Taurus in the 2nd opposing Mars in Scorpio in the 8th, plus Sun in Aries in the 1st opposing Moon in Libra in the 8th. My love story is the Song of Songs from the Bible.

   “I am my beloved’s
   And my beloved is mine.”

   Mine, mine, mine. There’s the Taurus wanting to possess. But it’s a gorgeous depiction of a deep spiritual bond (Scorpio), a feeling of absolutely belonging together (Libra), a commencement from courtship to consummation (the Aries hunt brought to fruition). And the female in question is the most perfect among women, the most worthy, the most treasured (helllloooooo, Aries). And another thing that’s really beautiful about it is that the man speaks of the woman as an equal. There isn’t any reference to her being chattel or one of many in his stable of wives. It’s a man and a woman searching for each other, coming together, knowing that in the other there is to be found the other half, fully sexual but wholly and perfectly pure.

   And I usually end up with someone whose story is more like, oh, “Weird Science” or “Porky’s.”

8. max says on 4/13/08 at 4:06 pm:
   

   My question is: if you have Venus/Neptune and AMF had Venus/Saturn, what happens with the Soldier since he has Venus/Saturn? NGH! ;/

   I have Venus in Libra in the 12th … opposite Saturn in Aries. I’m inclined to say ‘Haven’t a clue, how would I?’ but then, better I think is This Story Is Unfinished.

   max
   [’And they want to test different endings at different theaters.’]

9. Shannon says on 4/13/08 at 10:41 pm:
   

   I think my love story is …………. hmm. Weird. I have Venus/mars conjunct 2nd house Cancer opposite Jupiter in the 8th in Capricorn … plus 1st Sun/Saturn/Asc in Gemini opposite 7th moon and Neptune in Sag. I’m still not sure what my story is, and I don’t know that I’ll ever settle on *one* story, if that makes sense.

10. Sam says on 4/14/08 at 12:37 pm:
    

    I am a counselor so I see a lot of couples and I have definitely noticed that the differences in ‘love scripts’ is the leading cause of deep dissatisfaction in many relationships. Many people can’t even put their finger on why they are unhappy together and most conventional counseling techniques don’t do a very good job of helping them figure it out. Astrology is really great for these people because it provides a framework that people can use to explore their own personal stories. Great job Elsa for addressing this important and difficult topic!

    My story- Venus in the tenth (Taurus)- love is business, not very romantic I know.
    My partner’s story- Venus in the fifth (Pisces)- love is romance.
    It works because people with a nicely aspected venus/pisces or venus/Neptune are lovers and tend to see their partners in the beautiful hazy light of romantic ideation. So my partner just loves me like I am perfect and can glaze over my many imperfections and still love me in a completely pure way. I really respect that even if I can’t personally love like that.

11. Stephanie says on 4/14/08 at 4:03 pm:
    

    Aries Venus conjunct Saturn in 5th House. Giant romance with a big painful ending. Drama up the wazoo.

12. liz says on 4/14/08 at 4:58 pm:
    

    In reading this I’m thinking of the gent i’m currently getting to know. He has venus conjunct midheaven in aquarius, I have venus in the 12th in libra. So far he plans our dates and I just show up haha and I love it! I have nothing to worry about because he has all the details taken care of. I feel a little silly at times because i’m so relaxed in his presence. But I absolutely love it. And I don’t feel a lethargic relaxation but rather very alert and zen like.
    We made-out/merged on the first date - my love story - but then he asked to be friends first and to take things slower - his love story. I have no problem with it because it gives me a freedom that I love, and a proper courtship period.
    He has his own business, and in my imaginings of being with him I think of him being away working at his business and me alone with plenty of time to just be. Perfect!

13. Ana says on 4/14/08 at 10:06 pm:
    

    Avery - what a beautiful description.

    I’ve got 10th house venus opposed saturn, capricorn moon in the 7th. Love for me takes time, is built slowly and made to last. It also has its share of obstacles, pain, disappointment, it’s just hard work! It’s also about integrity and fair play. When all the steps are laid out correctly over time, things can and do work out.

    The venus scorpio conjunct saturn sounds just like someone I love. He has venus/pluto and venus/saturn with scorpio moon conjunct uranus on the 7th. Love for him is mixed up with fear, pain, devastation and unpredictability. But with venus in cancer and moon in 7th, it is also about merging, security and commitment. He tends to manifest both at different times.

    Our favorite movie is The Graduate, lol

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