Open Question For The Psychologically Sophisticated Nurses Out There AKA Virgo / Scorpio Mix Types Re: Peter Pan Syndrome

10 Responses to “Open Question For The Psychologically Sophisticated Nurses Out There AKA Virgo / Scorpio Mix Types Re: Peter Pan Syndrome”

1. Ana says on 4/10/08 at 6:42 pm:
   

   Awesome question. I would like to know too!

2. Jessica says on 4/10/08 at 7:59 pm:
   

   I think that is a really good question. But if they didn’t want to be tied down to someone who loves them when their life was unlimited, why would we think that they want to be tied down when they have to face death? News like that has got to change a Peter Pan’s perspective for sure, but what if it doesn’t even make them wish for that one partner they never wanted to begin with? Maybe they want to swordfight with Captain Hook on their own.

3. Carielle says on 4/10/08 at 8:49 pm:
   

   Not everyone feels the need to have “the One” person in their life. Not everyone is cut out for marriage, or long-term commitments. It doesn’t make them bad, or make their life a waste because they didn’t decide, “Oh, perhaps I should go ahead and settle for one of these people just so I won’t be alone.” (Some people do settle to settle down, some people actually find their love, and some people stay single).

   The fact is, even when you have someone in your life…you still end up having to face Death alone. They don’t come with you, even if they’re standing by your side the whole time.

   I’m not standing up for people who blatantly play and hurt others and all that, but as someone who is single for a rather long time now, mostly by choice, I find it disturbing that people think life isn’t really lived unless one has a significant other to share it with, and that someone must somehow regret not doing so when faced with a terminal illness.

4. satori says on 4/10/08 at 9:06 pm:
   

   Carielle– it’s really not about those people. it’s about people who use people up cos they think there will always be an endless supply. but then there’s not. and most people DO need someone in that situation, not necessarily a love, but someone who genuinely cares about them, and they’ve burned all their bridges. so what do they do? just wondrin’. it was never about singles-by-choice.

5. Elsa says on 4/10/08 at 9:11 pm:
   

   And for me it was not about judging them. I just really would like to know what people who have seen this have observed… because I have never observed it.

6. Elsa says on 4/10/08 at 9:12 pm:
   

   Er… when I am older I will know the answer to this most likely but right now? No stories! I need stories. I need testimony!

7. Togi says on 4/10/08 at 9:45 pm:
   

   I am a Virgo/Scorpio mix but I am not a nurse. My observations of Peter Pan’s are that they always land on their feet regardless. People still love them. Even if they have burned through dozens, there are dozen’s more waiting to be burned. Not necessarily with deep abiding love but attention, favours et al. It always amazes me as I tend to suffer in silence but I don’t think Peter Pan’s suffer quite the way the rest of us do because they don’t have that deep well of emotional complexes to start with.

8. nueva says on 4/11/08 at 7:11 am:
   

   Since it takes two to play the game, so-called Peter Pans have a long line of partners in their pasts, and also in their futures. Peter Pans’ partners go along with the agenda and don’t take responsibility for their own actions. So. Let’s not belittle Peter Pan. He/she is just playing out a script, along with all the other people in his/her life. As to end of life… being alone can happen to anyone at any time. Peter Pans probably fare better than others; they have a bigger pool from which to choose.

9. Jennifer says on 4/11/08 at 10:43 am:
   

   Not a real-life story, but in “The Mysterious Mr. Quin” by Agatha Christie, one of the short stories (”The Man From The Sea”) features a Peter Pan guy with a fatal diagnosis and what he goes looking for after the news. Rather a sweet story, actually.

   Spoilers for it at Wikipedia:
   http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Mysterious_Mr._Quin

10. Loonsounds says on 4/11/08 at 3:13 pm:
    

    I don’t think a Peter Pan type necessarily will regret having lived a non-committal life style upon receiving a terminal diagnosis. I know of a couple of old men who are terminally ill right now, and refusing all visitors. They don’t want any company at all, let alone a partner hovering. Some terminally ill people want lots of company or, at least, a loved one near by. I don’t understand them, but they are probably by far the norm.

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