Dear Pisces,

I will tell you how I think you regain a person’s trust but can tell you right now if you do not completely police (Saturn) yourself, this relationship is going to fail. It is just not going to survive due some quirk or lucky break. That would be like the dishes getting washed without washing them.

First of all, it does not seem as if you did some horrible thing here so I wouldn’t worry about that. But it does sound as if it would be impossible to be in a relationship with you (for him or anyone else) and at 40 years old, this is something you might want to fix.

You can start with your language. You do not MAKE someone trust you. You behave in a way that is trustworthy and people come to trust you as a result. In your own estimation you not behave in a way that is consistent so this would be the first thing for you to conquer and your Moon and Pisces can help rather than hinder if you can come up with some compassion.

How about compassion for the person who is sleeping with you and loving you for 8 months while you flip around and go in and out of the relationship?

If you can’t manage to commit and stay consistent, then either see a therapist about the childhood issues until you heal them and can manage, or prepare to lose every relationship you ever form because it’s very simple. It’s impossible for someone to be in a relationship with you (over time) when you are not in the relationship and one more thing:

No, I don’t think your Pisces Moon is at fault. More likely it’s the opposition between Virgo and Pisces in your chart which Saturn’s transit through Virgo will surely address over the couple years.

Good luck.

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