The soldier and I watched La Bamba this weekend, a movie I have never seen for some reason. It was striking because the guy who plays Ritchie Valens brother in the movie looks astonishingly similar to the soldier’s old friend, Speedy and acts like his to some extent as well. Then there is the love story of course.
The soldier wound up singing “Oh, Donna” to me all weekend, substituting my name for hers which was both embarrassing and amusing and we talked a lot about men in love… some of these conversations are coming up.
It’s very heartening to hear from a man’s man about men loving women. Turns out they really do love us a lot of time, too bad we don’t register this as well as we might. Because if I had any doubt about what he was saying when I went looking for the song on youtube, I found one man after another after another after another of all sizes, shapes and colors singing this torchy song so apparently they can relate.
Are you aware of men loving women or does it seem otherwise to you?
12 Responses to “Lovesick Men - There Are A Lot Of Them!”
I’ve had almost zero experience with men who love. my dad was a lothario. my other dad is single.
I look on other people’s long-term loves with near reverence, tho.
I consider myself indescribably lucky because I’m married to a man who loves me like crazy. (and vice versa). I used to think they didn’t exist though.
Are you aware of men loving women or does it seem otherwise to you?
Since I am a man and clearly not entitled to an opinion, I cannot say.
I would say that I have occasionally experienced this here alien emotive complex referred to as love. Unpleasant business really.
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['There's all this stuff about committment and my bank account.']
I don’t really notice it, no. My dad was not the type to sing to my mom, and I was 27 before I realized how devoted he was to her.
Sometimes. Have yet to believe this ever has or will ever happen to me. I love their music though…men in love make beautiful music.
Oh yeah. I have enjoyed been the object of lovesick men on and off throughout my life. One man presented me with a very large portfolio of poems, journals and insights he had written about his obsession with me after his unrequited love had ebbed. An anonymous fellow slipped a very personal poem about loving me from afar into my inbox at work one Valentine’s Day… I’ll admit it, my Venus in Leo loves this kind of attention.
I like attention. However, I’m a Leo with a lot of Virgo, so whenever someone went over the top, I’d cringe. I’d dive under the bed if someone sang at the top of their lungs!
oh god, yes, i’m aware of men loving women. it seems that sometimes, some women may not register it because they may not express it the same way.
my husband loves the holy hell outta me, and i know it. and i value it, believe you me.
i feel it when he looks at me, and when he touches me, and when he refills the winshield wiper fluid in my car to help make sure i’ve got clear vision when i’m driving or reminds me it’s icy outside or something…in a million ways, he shows me.
Currently watching my grandfather tend to my dying grandmother. This man used to be the silent distant ’50s type of man. But he is gently putting a sponge into his wife’s mouth, so she can drink. He buys her soft blankets for her medical bed. He holds her hand and cries. He loves her so much it is breaking his heart. And my visiting husband watches all of this and looks at me with so much tenderness it makes me blush. Yes yes yes men can love!
of course they do.
some of them, anyway.
a lot of them, probably. more likely the question is how, rather than if.
it’s sort of a strange question, to me.
I obviously never valued the love I received from past boyfriends who went out of there way to cook for me, dote on me with surprises, and leave me sweet messages throughout the day..why? Because I figured they or (him) did that with every girl he was trying to seduce. I never fully trusted his expressions…because love for me wasn’t the mushy kind growing up. It was quiet and serious.
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