NO! No! No!…
Mars in Libra.
Having principles is very important to me (Venus-Saturn)

Mars in Leo. Honestly, at this point, I JUST WANT TO BE TOLD I’M BEING DUMPED. I will deal with being texted “U ME OVER”, if that’s the only way you can get the words out. Yes, it’s lame, but at least I was told.

My long-distance ex- relationship of two years, mind you- dumped me over e-mail. Clearly he’d wanted to do it for two weeks, but kept hedging around the bush on the phone and on IM, giving me false hope and not going with what his words said…finally he just caved in and did it on e-mail.

Now, I COULD be massively offended by this, but shoot, at least he dealt the blow rather than dragging it out longer, or just refusing to speak to me again and letting me “get the hint” over a few weeks time during which I was all messed up and confused. I’ve gotten dumped like that most of the time and THAT is so much worse.

Also, if it’s a long-distance relationship, please, don’t dump in person. It truly sucks to have traveled and spent money to go see a person and then you get there and get dumped. (Had my ex done that, where the hell was I going to go for the rest of the weekend?) In that case, phone is totally acceptable.

I have Mars in Libra, and normally I would agree that this should be done face-to face. I haven’t always been able to hold to this though. The first time was with my high school boyfriend. We had been wavering for months and I just couldn’t deal with it anymore and couldn’t bear for the next time we would be together (we were logistically challenged at separate colleges). The second time didn’t even get a phone call. My first husband was abusive. If I had told him I was leaving him, I would have been in mortal danger. He left one morning to go to work, and came back that night to deal with the fact that he would never see me again. I did call him a few days later to try to bring some sort of closure and tell him that my decision was final, but I think I did more sobbing than explaining.

Mars in Scorpio. I prefer the phone… it isn’t as impersonal as a typed message, and you still get the vocal inflections and real-time dynamics. I think it’s considerate to both dumper and dumpee because you don’t have to put on a brave or sympathetic this-is-going-to-hurt-me-more-than-it-hurts-you face. You can look mad or horrified or shocked or devastated or smug and your mascara can drip all over creation, and no one has to see it all go down but you. You have some control over your voice, so you can talk it out and leave with dignity if you so choose and fall apart after you hang up.

Mars in Taurus. My most recent breakup was over the phone, but we talked it out a few times beforehand in person, so it wasn’t exactly a phonecall breakup. And this was a long distance thing. The phone call just confirmed what we already knew.

Otherwise, I’m very much a face-to-face breakup. And I have, at least once in the past, taken a man by the shoulders and demanded that he have the balls to dump me. I HATE being tolerated while he’s trying to screw up his nerve to get rid of me.

3rd house mars in scorpio

*first

Whatever is quickest and least painful for the breakupper, which is always me. Phone is fine, or in person with a few words, nothing drawn out.
It’s done, we both know it, I’m just stating the obvious. As soon as it’s out, we’re in a different place and can start to heal.
Addio, amore mio!
(hee hee. Mars in Virgo)

unless they’re too lazy to get around to making time to talk to you because they can’t be bothered to schedule their life because it’s too restrictive and things have to “flow.” (for them.)
i felt bad waiting so eventually i just dropped by on their door to drop off something they needed. wanted to just get the dang thing over with, though.

feh. would have felt wrong too do it by phone. but i was damn sure tempted.

and there was one i never wanted to see/speak with again. not abuse, just seriously toxic energy. and i’d moved and had no car. that was not an in-person breakup.

…Mars in Capricorn…

It completely depends on the situation. I basically told my ex-husband that I was done via e-mail, because that is the only medium, I’d found, where he took me seriously. Granted, we did the face-to-face thing afterwards, but the striking blow was done over e-mail, because he couldn’t ‘deal’ with what was going on with a stupid joke.

Now, at the end of the day, I just want to know. If you can’t tell me to my face that you don’t want to be with me anymore, then e-mail, phone, or text (in that descending order) me, so I don’t feel like I’m keeping hope when we both know the relationship is over.

There’s nothing I hate more than evasiveness. I’ve had a few guys “disappear” on me with no explanation. I remember confronting one (I was in college when this happened), and he was upset with me for being so direct. He wanted to vanish into thin air, and here I was, demanding answers! How dare I!

That’s why I won’t accept anything but face-to-face, unless it’s not possible.

Mars is in Leo. (As for why the guys acted this way, my chart clues are a 7th house Neptune and a Venus-Pluto conjunction.)

Mars|Merc in Libra (but wondering why this is a Mars question; isn’t Merc the messenger?)

Anyway… for me, it all depends on the two individuals involved, their respective personalities, and the nature of their relationship.

I have no hard and fast rules or expectations.

Except this one: DO NOT DISAPPEAR WITHOUT A WORD. I don’t care if “word” comes via phone, email or face-to-face. BUT DO NOT JUST DISAPPEAR WITHOUT A WORD. DO NOT.