Astrology, Psychology And Attraction: Is Everyone We Attract A Reflection Of Ourselves?

14 Responses to “Astrology, Psychology And Attraction: Is Everyone We Attract A Reflection Of Ourselves?”

1. Deirdre says on 3/27/08 at 2:25 pm:
   

   My impression is I attract the other. I am a Pisces with North Node in Virgo. I think in one of my last lives, say in some kind of a religious brothel, I was with multi-partnering lazy sweet secretive Pisces guys. In this life, I attract/subconsciously go for corporate power, alpha dogs with lots of Virgo in their charts and ties around their necks. In this life I had a Pisces boyfriend once, when transiting Neptune was on my ascendant. At that time I felt we were dolphins. Once that transit was over the the beautiful fog lifted, I went back to neck ties and tidy types.

2. Amethyst says on 3/27/08 at 2:42 pm:
   

   Yes and no. I don’t like it when people try to oversimplify the way reality works into really rigid systems.

3. Arnold says on 3/27/08 at 2:44 pm:
   

   if alikes attract then its very probably not the right person.

   ofcourse there is no such thing as a quick answer on this, but i believe you need someone who actually ‘compensates’ your personality. i think most succesful marriages are opposites

4. Monica says on 3/27/08 at 3:59 pm:
   

   Personally, I have tended to go for Cancers, Libras, and Aquarians (Aquarian, myself) Usually, though, these people are much different than me. Opposites attract in my case.

5. Jennifer says on 3/27/08 at 4:23 pm:
   

   Yes. How could they not pick that up?

   That said, 95% of the people that are attracted to me, I am not remotely attracted to. Maybe it’s massive self-hatred? Or that I’m a nerd, but am not attracted to my own kind?

6. kashmiri says on 3/27/08 at 4:57 pm:
   

   I really don’t know…Sun opposed Uranus feeds my egotistical side that claims no one is like me.

7. ewinbee says on 3/27/08 at 4:58 pm:
   

   I think what’s actually going on is we filter out attraction signals… the types we’re receptive to, we hear more loudly than the types we don’t like as much. (And people who make themselves loud and clear whatever type they are, are easily dismissed as obnoxious if you aren’t interested in them.)

   And we put out more receptivity to our “types” as well.

8. TripleCappy says on 3/27/08 at 5:41 pm:
   

   I’m developing a new theory about all this that . . . well, it’s not fully formed yet. What I’m seeing is that . . . (I’m out there dating, so I’m trying to be aware of all this) I find I need someone who possesses the thing I want to be “seen” in me. Kind of a “takes one to know one” thing. Like the qualities in my self I want acknowledged are usually what I look for in someone else (eccentric, ambitious, articulate). I feel like if I met a guy who doesn’t possess eccentric qualities, he sure as hell ain’t going to appreciate that in me. Does that make sense? I know there are no hard and fast rules around this, but so much for me around how we select is how we want to be seen and traits in others that are “familiar” (from our parents). . . (e.g., if my dad always said I was lazy, I may choose guys who see me that way; or, on the other hand, I may choose lazy guys, or, I might choose ones that see me as the opposite).

   There’s so many ways of looking at it - but in all, I think there’s definitely a significance to the qualities we choose in someone else - (it came from our parents, or it’s how we identify, or it’s how we want to be seen in the world). . . So, yes, we attract, but it’s just hard to know what and why (it’s not always for the same reasons.)

   All right, I’m going to shut up now and stop analyzing.

9. spinner says on 3/27/08 at 7:49 pm:
   

   TrippleCappy- Yes it makes sense! Sometimes I think that who we are attracted to happens so fast.. speed of light…psychic…animal senses… that it’s only later when are brain kicks in that we begin to understand some of the complexitiies involved.

10. Dina says on 3/28/08 at 12:54 am:
    

    I don’t think so. I think we attract all kinds. Funny how I keep seeing posts on attraction these days.. Wonder what makes us attractive.. My Cancer/Scorpio friends have gone for me in the past. Who knows why. Think it’s about being friends with men and getting to know each other well. Often one is attracted to the other, if one is attracted to me, I squirm and flee until they don’t like me anymore and part of me hunts them..

11. goddess says on 3/28/08 at 7:37 am:
    

    you don’t have a “sometimes” option. i think sometimes we are drawn to that which is like ourselves, sometimes, to that which is lacking in ourselves, or compliments us in some way.

    i’ve got an exceptionally strong mercury influence in my chart-hubby is a double virgo. plenty of common ground. he’s extremely logical and orderly in his approach to things. my merc/uranus conjunction leaves me to hop and intuit. i think the contrast allows our styles to compliment each other as well.

12. Alma says on 3/28/08 at 8:28 am:
    

    I’m not sure what I attract, but 3 out of my last 4 boyfriends had Cancer moons. I also draw Capricorn sun or moon people. I draw people with significant Saturn influences. And then I set about testing each and every one of their Saturn boundaries. I feel like I attract unsettled people, but actually, I usually am the unsettled one in the relationship, the other provides the structure and the framework.

13. wyrdling says on 3/29/08 at 10:13 pm:
    

    we attract what we need to be interacting with.
    if there’s one lesson we’re stuck at, we usually stay stuck. ‘course, you can get it and just fly off into the wild blue yonder with the suddeness of the desert monsoon depending on how we learn to look at stuff.

    anyway, that’s been my experience. fell out of a whole bunch of patterns all at once and am going well, heck, where am i now?

14. wyrdling says on 3/29/08 at 10:16 pm:
    

    as far as astrology goes… i think, in my experience, life likes to give you trianing runs before the doozies hit. you can pay attention or not, but it gives you the options. sort of like little ripples before the big big wave.

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