Confronting Denial, Boundaries And The Job I Do On This Blog

11 Responses to “Confronting Denial, Boundaries And The Job I Do On This Blog”

1. wyrdling says on 3/23/08 at 6:47 pm:
   

   compared to what?

2. Elsa says on 3/23/08 at 6:48 pm:
   

   wyrdling - ha ha ha - hell if I know! I guess I should not post during the void moon or sumpthin’?

3. wyrdling says on 3/23/08 at 7:11 pm:
   

   oh, i love the points you raise, i’m just incapable of answering the question accurately. hard to find a frame of reference. virgo hates that ;P

   i answered anyway though.

4. Avery says on 3/23/08 at 7:25 pm:
   

   I have a lot, a lot of faults, but one thing I can say for myself is that my boundaries are awesome. So awesome in fact that I can say that mine have not been effectively violated in years. No one invades me because they know they will be met with a battle that I will win.

   The only exception is my mother. She tries like hell to invade, but I’ve learned to non-aggressively defend my territory. I have Sun/Moon in Aries/Libra and hers is Capricorn/Cancer at the same degrees. Can you imagine? We menifest a grand cardinal cross every time we encounter each other. And she’s inconsistently medicated on top of all of that, so you can imagine what a loose cannon she is.

   But you know, once I learned to master not taking her thermonuclear bait and how to manage the mental/emotional control demon that she is, I realized that there is no human being on this planet who has the power to send me spiralling into a tizzy. Except me, and that ain’t gonna happen.

5. Avery says on 3/23/08 at 7:26 pm:
   

   Eek, “manifest.”

6. Cassi says on 3/23/08 at 8:08 pm:
   

   My boundries have gotten a whole lot better over time. I don’t think that was a choice.

7. Dina says on 3/23/08 at 11:28 pm:
   

   Wait wait, let me explain. I meant not that you go around telling other people to confront their denial. I mean, the way you right seems to be so up front, real, and raw when you tell about yourself or what you think, I can’t picture you indulging in denial/ignoring reality. What do you mean that you are bullish about the value of denial/ignoring reality? Maybe I misunderstood. Are you this way only about really painful events in your life, while in general you prefer to face the truth?

8. Dina says on 3/23/08 at 11:33 pm:
   

   the way you *write*, I mean. You don’t strike me at all as a person that has no regard for boundaries, quite the opposite. I meant, you don’t seem to deny reality in your own life.

   You talked about your writing style/not mincing words once, I remember, and said it had something to do with Mars/Saturn. It made it really hard for me to picture you being really girly and diplomatic because of all your Libra when you mentioned it.

9. max says on 3/24/08 at 1:29 am:
   

   I think that’s the same thing as calling Elsa ‘blunt’.

   I’m pretty sure a blunt person can be in denial about one thing or another, and diplomatic people can be really on top of things.

   The advantage of bluntness over diplomacy is in penetrating thicker skulls (’OOOhhhhhhhh. That’s what he meant.’) and saving time.

   Whereas people like diplomatic types. Particularly if they’re willing to lie a lot.

   max
   [’Libra isn’t always girly, merely considerate.’]

10. Elsa says on 3/24/08 at 4:58 am:
    

    Dina - I don’t think I am girly… what I am is oblivious.

11. Jennifer says on 3/24/08 at 11:26 am:
    

    Heh. I have no boundaries. My parents literally bulldozed over every boundary I tried to set growing up! I feel like a tiny mouse squeaking “No!” as the giant’s foot comes down on me whenever I try.

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