This weekend, the soldier and I were sitting in his truck in the truck wash line prior to fighting and he made conversation by asking about this blog…

“My blog? Well they are fighting on my blog at the moment. Everyone is fighting. You, me, them. It’s in the air, people want to fight.”

“Why are they fighting?”

“An advice post I wrote. Some people think it was awful, other people think it’s not so awful so they’re fighting it out.”

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A reader asks:

“Is it ever acceptable to break up with someone over the phone?”

I guess this is a manners questions (Libra / relationships) or perhaps it is more a Saturn in Virgo question - What is the right way to communicate. In whatever case I can think of scenarios where breaking up on the phone would be appropriate. Abuse and so forth.

But if you have had a significant relationship with someone… if you have been lovers and whatnot then it does seem to me you owe it to the person to face them and tell them what the deal is unless you want to meet them next life, feel ashamed, be a weasel, etc.

What do others think? Where is your Mars?

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You get a feel for the soldier’s Venus Saturn contact here as well..

“You have an advantage,” the soldier said when we were 80% through our weekend brawl.

“What?”

“All my friends are dead,” he said. ‘Where are my friends, huh?”

I laughed because of the look on his face. “They’re dead,” I said. “Your friends are dead.”

“Hell yes, they’re dead. If Speedy was sitting right here, what would he say?” he asked.

“Well?”

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The soldier just found out he will be passing through the desert city where we met. In a year of driving everywhere, this has never happened.

“You’re going to flip out while you’re there,” I said. “Oh man.”

“Yeah, I’m sure it will be emotional,’ he said.

“Yep.”

“What would life be like if I were not emotional over you, I wonder?”

“What would it be like?”

“I don’t know. I haven’t had to live it like that yet.”

Do you ever imagine what your life would be like without one of it’s major emotional components?

Two nights ago on the phone with the soldier…

“I was talking to La, La, La Lara and I asked her about the Little Match Girl,” I said. “She’s familiar with these stories and I wanted to know what she made of the fact you associated her with me.”

“What did she tell you?”

“She said what it conjured up in her mind was probably different from what you meant. So what did you mean anyway? Why do you associate me with the Little Match Girl?”

“Well I’ll tell you what I think and then you tell me what La La thought.”

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The Moon is in Aquarius so detach if you can. This may be easier said than done though, even with the stellium in Pisces because let’s face it:

As long as Pluto is in Capricorn and Saturn in Virgo there is only so far away you’re going to get from the mundane reality of life and I’ll give you an example.

Where as a Pisces used to be able to have a concept and that was it - they are now being pressure to manifest something in reality which is fairly suck-ish and that this might be in their best interest is of little consolation.

Dear Capricorn,

It may interest you to know that you have your Moon and Venus, Mars and Jupiter in Scorpio. This combined with the fact your Sun is in the Scorpio-ruled eighth house would indicate that rather than being “Capricorn”, you are predominantly Scorpio yourself. So if you want to know games Scorpio plays, well, you’re very qualified to answer the question yourself.

As to your situation, you and I have similar energy and I don’t favor games in relationship at all. So I would be trying to close this deal and I would do it in a “balls to the wall” type fashion.

On the extreme ends, you have two choices. You either withdraw completely and see if she comes to you (very likely) or you hunt her with your pure intensity, which may also bring a good result.

What you don’t do is project all the desirability onto her, which is where you are failing. See, all your Scorpio is in the seventh house and you think she’s the sexy one - but in reality it’s you. You’ve got the cards, you’re just playing them wring and it may take you awhile to figure this out but I am telling you, I am right.

Good luck.

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Conny asks this question on the Venus Neptune Giving video:

“What is easier, to give without knowing to whom our gift goes, or to receive without knowing where does our gift come from?”

Conny, what a terrific question, thank you. I think both are very easy.

I’ve got no problem giving to whoever - I write this blog don’t I? I give blood. I am on the Nat’l registry to give bone marrow and live in hope I will be called.

Gifts you just get are also very easy to receive.   Like those Elsa’s story cookies I got from a client (Jerri).

What is hard for me is getting a gift that is not a gift, the gift that is given and then taken back. This is like a compliment that comes with a stab in the back you’ve got to ignore. Things like that are very hard. That is terrifically painful as is a gift that hurts someone else.

“You are wonderful, Elsa… but she sucks.”

I don’t really think a comment like that has anything to do with me. I feel I am being used to beat another and I can’t get away fast enough (escape). I just want to run, hide under the bed, get the hell out of there before it gets any worse!  And you?

Which is easier - giving or receiving?  

Avery writes on Extreme Anger And Frustration:

Elsa? As a friend… you guys have a lot of fights. A LOT of fights. I know you were aware that you needed someone who could handle conflict, and that it took a Special Forces-trained warrior to fill that bill, but do you think you can sustain this level of love-battle over time? If so, how does this mesh with your Mars in Libra, which to my understanding, really craves peace?

Not trying to undermine what you’ve got going here (it sounds kind of hot, tell you the truth), just trying to understand.

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