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Scorpio Man In Love With Man Who Kissed Him, Later Confessed He Had A Boyfriend: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I have been single for a couple of months and was pretty happy being single. But I started thinking that I wanted to get back into the dating game or attempt to maybe find someone special. I am not really into the gay scene with going to gay bars and such, so I decided to use the internet.
I signed up with this site and within 5 minutes a really good looking, down to earth guy started messaging me and boom we started talking. I lost track of time but it was for a long time on the site then msn then eventually the phone. He was really sweet and it seemed we really connected and there was potential chemistry. He was like I’ve never met a guy like you, you’re really cute and awesome. The day after we decided to meet for coffee.
During the meet we still managed to have that same intense chemistry that we did over the net. I was pretty excited. Then he wanted to show me his car and we kinda went joyriding up and down a street in his brand new car. He then brought me back to my car but before I got out, he grabbed me and started kissing me. I have never felt an intense kiss in my life. It was so passionate, intense and chilling, one of those kisses that makes your spine tingle. So after about 20 minutes of making out, I left and then he called me at home. But he was a little strange and he told me that he had to tell me something and he had to be honest.
He told me that he was dating someone for the last 10 months and was in a serious relationship. My whole world collapsed, I know it’s strange that he loves someone so much but yeah kissed me but I confronted him about and asked if he really loves his boyfriend and he said he does, but doesn’t know if he’s the one. I was very upset but he was practically begging me to continue talking to him and that we could stay friends. Even though my heart wrenched I agreed.
So for about a month now we just been texting back and forth saying hi and meet for coffee here and there. Thing is I am starting to fall for him and I know it won’t work because he has a boyfriend and I would think if we start dating, whose to say he won’t do to someone else what he did to me. So I have been kinda off avoiding him. I didn’t hear from him for about a week and then he texted me saying if I was alright and if I was mad. I know I should have told him the truth but I lied and said I was just busy with school and work and just going through ’stuff’ he said that If I needed someone to talk to he would be there for me. Another three days passed and he messaged me again saying he wanted to know why I wouldn’t talk to him and give him a reason. I again lied and told him I am not mad just busy. I don’t like lying but I don’t know what to do. He is one of the coolest guys that I have come across and I don’t want him to go regardless but I know hes committed to someone else. But its eating me up inside I really want to tell him but I am scared that hes just gonna say sorry I am taken and we can’t talk or hang out anymore. I think…I am in lov with him.
What do I do Elsa help!!!
In Love And Confused
Canada
Dear Confused,
He’s cool but you are not, so I am going to try to help with that and I hope you don’t get too pissed off at me in the process. First, what this guy has is a hook in your mouth. Feel it, know it, understand it is there. So while you are a fish on his hook, he has no such problem. He’s got this guy over here… you over there and more than likely he’s got some other hooks out as well so how does this make you feel? A little less giddy, I hope.
You (with a stellium in Scorpio) have given your power up to some guy for a kiss and if you don’t mind being caught while he swims free, then do nothing but if you want your freedom back or if you want to wind up with this guy, you are going to have to take your power back and it’s not that hard to do.
Just turn off the faucet. Quit responding to text messages. For Godsakes quit lying because it is clear from your post (and your planets in Sagittarius) that it makes you uncomfortable and besides that it’s getting you nowhere.
Once you have cut off the energy you are giving him, one of two things will happen. He will go away or come closer and my bet is he will come closer.
If he comes closer, this is when you tell him they way it’s got to be if he wants to have an interaction with you because it appears you have some standards and then you go from there. If he does not come closer, I wouldn’t worry about it because like you said, if he does this to one boyfriend then he will probably (not positively) do it you.
But if you do get together and he does not do it to you it will be because you have found your strength and power and prowess and decided to use these things rather than leave them lying about.
My advice - Get that hook out, do it now.
Good luck.
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Great advice! Get the hook out. Hookers. Who needs them?
Haha…”Hookers. Who needs them?”
Best advise anyone ever gave me (thanks Elsa!). I got the hook out, reclaimed my power and now a certain someone is desperately trying to wiggle their way back in.
Elsa what do you think about ‘hooks’ in the context of non-sexual relationships? Is it safe to say that the kind of people mentioned in the discussion about thwarting other people’s happiness are ‘hookers’(sorry jamie had to borrow it from you), who try to keep you hooked into their miserable worlds. Because from my personal experience, those ‘non-romantic hookers’ have a harder time just going away, the more you try to get free. How do you deal with the different types of ‘hookers’? If you even think that there are different types…
Cindy I am going to try really, really hard (Saturn in Virgo) to discuss this starting today (my ambition). Because I have been busting my ass behind the scenes (Saturn in Virgo) both to understand and also come up with a way to convey my understanding on this blog of this phenomena.
I think (hope) I have broken through so maybe you can get your answer via one of mine but in whatever case my thoughts are too large (Jupiter) to fit on this blog so damn. It’s been an enormous effort to try to see how I might communicate.
Hi, Cindy! (wave) No way can I claim that as “my” malapropism. It comes from somewhere other than my feeble mind. Use it to your heart’s content!
I know that you asked Elsa this question about ‘Hookers’ but I think ,from my personal experience, it was sort of my problem for allowing myself to be ‘hooked’ and a ‘hooker’.
I think that the ‘Hooker’ offers us something that our ego’s want but in the long run it is not necessarily what we need.
If you re-read ‘In-Love’s’ post he seems to be enamoured of looks. This seems important at first until he gets to know this person better and probably realizes now that he’d rather have someone faithful, honest and “ugly” then what he has at present; Which appears to be a “pretty” hooker.
It’s the age old question of “which came first? The chicken or the egg?” Since everything starts with the self then I’d have to say that this is ‘In-Love’s’ problem. He IS the bait which provides the ‘hooker’ his meal.
As long as the ego is involved they can go at this until time stands still….and then some!
I hope many more chime in here.
Ok, I agree with Elsa, more or less, though here are my questions: First, why are you afraid to be upfront with this guy about how you are feeling? Second, what’s going on that someone you’ve just met could make it so your “whole world collapsed”? And third, what do you get out of being attached to someone you know you can’t have?
These aren’t easy questions and they’re not likely to be simple answers. Get to the bottom of those and you’ll unravel this for yourself.