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She Panics During Job Interviews: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I have a huge problem with interview nerves. Every one I’ve ever been to has been hijacked by my nerves and I leave cringing at my inability to sell myself. I have never gotten a job from an interview alone and have been lucky to have reached my age without them.
My first job was not something I wanted to do but I was reasonably good at it. It was a friend of my father who got me the foot in the door. I stayed for 14 years and progressed some but only through reorganizations. My second and last job was got thru pure luck, i.e. the person was desperate and so was I. I was informally interviewed at my house too so comfortable in my surroundings. It was a job I really enjoyed luckily but with very poor pay. This was ok at the time as my partner had a good job but now we have split and I need to support myself. I had to move out of the area as I couldn’t afford the rents there so the job had to go too. I’m happy where I am though and have been living off earnings from the proceeds of our joint property but my confidence is shattered and even applying for jobs now turns my stomach.
I’m usually ok when I get to the place but once I’m in that chair I go blank and start stumbling over my words which makes me almost start hyperventilating. This is completely at odds with how I am in social situations where I am generally pretty confident and can talk to anyone. Things are reaching a crucial stage and I really need to find employment soon or I will be in deep trouble financially. I just can’t seem to find a way of combating my nerves. Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thank you and keep doing a great job.
Nervous
United States
Dear Nervous,
I wish I had some magic solution for you but fact is you’re right. You are simply going to have to solve this and I am afraid that the solution is pedestrian, which almost pisses people off but hey. Sometimes you just have to do the work. Sometimes nothing but the work will set your life on course and in your case, I think this is the situation.
Saturn is in Virgo and we are all having to learn to communicate. People who fail here are going to be crippled which is exactly what you are describing. Further, you have a stellium in Virgo so this goes double, triple and quadruple for you, so what to do?
Join Toastmasters and yes, I am serious. You have a Moon, Jupiter Pluto conjunction in Virgo and ought to be a powerful communicator / broadcaster and it seems to me you have been allowing your partner to live this out for you.
I realize this is the worst answer possible because it insists you face your fear and do something hard but fact is you need this skill to progress so as Nike likes to say, “Just Do It.” Because if you do, you will never have this problem again and if you do not, you will continue to feel worse and worse until and unless you decide to clutch it up.
Just consider how much energy it takes to avoid the thing as compared to the energy it takes to just get it done. Never mind, you may meet the new man there. 
Good luck.
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Hi, the Finger Interlock technique helped me:
http://www.llewellynjournal.com/article/513
The article is about protection against psychic vampires (people who suck your psychic energy), but the method is said to help these other conditions: ‘Overcoming stage fight, improving memory, and promoting positive social interactions are all within its scope. You can use the technique to induce instant relaxation during important examinations, public presentations’.
Not suggesting it’s a cure-all, but hope it helps. I tried it before 3 interview sessions and found I was more confident. Got the job after the 3rd interview.
Good luck.
Hi there,
I don’t have this problem, but I have been to a toastmaster’s meeting. Boy, I think Elsa hit it right on. From what I’ve seen there, you could really benefit.
Good luck. We’re cheering you on;)
Pisces
Toastmasters is awesome. Wow, I can’t believe I just wrote that. But it’s true!
I’d like to add two things.
1. I thiink what Toastmasters teaches you is how to be prepared. You can practice, even if you have to do so by talking to your cat, dog, pillow, whatever. When you’re practicing, do so as if you’re in the real, live situation.
2. Don’t feel like you have to do all the talking. Prepare a list of questions by going to the company’s website, etc. or asking about the position. You can get a better sense of whether the position is right for you too by asking specific questions. Oh, and I think it is fine to bring along a tablet and list of those questions. I used to include things on my list like, “talk slowly” and “sit up” in places they wouldn’t see.
Okay, I wish you all the best.
Pisces
Here’s what Momma would tell me…
“What are they going to do, bite you?”
likely not, so…
“What’s the worst thing that could happen?”
You puke on their shoes. BIG HAIRY DEAL!!! It’ll make a great story to tell the grandkids some day…
“Can you live with that?”
Sure, you might be mortified for the moment, but maybe you’ll laugh some too!
Thinking through the answers to those little questions usually gets me to a better place. Hope it helps some!
If not, then try going to 5 - 10 - 36 - 53 however many job interviews that you don’t give a crap about getting an offer. It’s practice and a numbers game. Eventually you’ll get better at it.
Best of luck to you.