Can Gemini Woman Win Back Passionate Scorpio Man? Astrology-Based Advice
Elsa:
I began dating a Scorpio and he was like a bulldozer in his pursuit! In his very first emails he began calling me girlfriend material, telling me he missed me, and that we were going to fall madly in love! The cooler I acted, the more over-the-top his comments became! We had incredible chemistry; he couldn’t take his eyes off me and enjoyed each other’s company like we were the only two people in the world!
Unfortunately, like the Gemini that I am, I rebelled against his assertions that I WAS going to be HIS…that he WOULD be my lover and that he KNEW I was crazy about him. I basically told him to stop presuming he knew what I felt.
After a couple of days, I apologized for my lashing out but, it was a full week before he even asked me out again. He admitted that he was a big baby, could dish it out but couldn’t take it AND, needed some time to recover. Still, I never got that full-on intensity again.
Not a two weeks later, during a very busy time training his daughter for a competition, he sort of blew off plans we had with a “I haven’t even thought about our plans tonight!” I was furious! The weekend before we had become as intimate as we’d ever been (no sex, however) and I felt dismissed and vulnerable - You know what happened next - instead of expressing my feelings of disappointment, I had ANOTHER knee-jerk reaction and broke it off unceremoniously!
I apologized fully and sincerely AGAIN via email, letting him know the feelings behind the reaction! He said I was certainly full of surprises and accepted my apology.
That was three days ago and I haven’t heard from him since. Now I’m full of regret, miss him terribly and don’t know how to proceed or even if I should! I’ve read about the Scorpio man’s sensitive nature and unwillingness to be vulnerable but also about their loss of respect for someone who grovels!
Is there even a chance in Hades that I can get him back?
Gemini Woman
Puerto Rico
Dear Gemini,
You can probably get him back but only for more of the same hot/cold/hot cold you are getting now. As for the initial intensity, I don’t think you will ever see that again and not necessarily because of something you did.
He sounds likes a player and you sound like the same. He’s hot, so you’re cold, and then he’s cold so you’re hot. What do you really want here because I think you’re getting it.
If you want something different… say, a love that is sincere, then you will have to stop ‘acting” and learn to just be.
Good luck.
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20 Responses to “Can Gemini Woman Win Back Passionate Scorpio Man? Astrology-Based Advice”
>>is this hot/cold intensity par for the course?>>
No, I don’t think so. Devoted Scorpio is devoted. However, Scorpio is not necessarily devoted.
my goodness! sounds like your talking about me and my scorpio guy. I’m going through the exact same thing. I’m sure it’s been awhile since this happened How are you guys doing now?
Hello, Juen:
I have long since given up on my Scorpio! His ego knew NO boundaries and I realized I cannot respect someone who can dish it out but goes scampering like a big baby when its his turn to take it.
However, I ended it on my terms. While he responded to my emails, Elsa was right…the intensity of his initial pursuit never returned. the only thing I got were emails bragging about the size of his, well, you know! (I’m glad I never got to see it! He probably expected me to break out in applause!) I simply didn’t answer his last email.
I wish you the best of luck as I know that not all Scorpios are the same!
it is extremely difficult to have a scorpio boyfriend. At first he is the most attentive lover, his passion intense and then after sometimes he became cold.
its tormenting believe me.
Hi. I have a scorpio boyfriend and have been with him for a year and 2 months. I am Gemini. Believe me, it has not been easy. He is so passionate and very devoted. He says all the right things, but seems very distant. He is very intense and very secretive and has a very dark side to his nature. Half the time you do not know what they want, although they say they want you. I dont know.I was told by an astrologist. That the best way to understand your scorpio man, is not too try to understand him. Just accept the differences, and be who you really are, without trying to analyse him.
Ladies:
It is my humble opinion that while some Scorpio men are captivating, hypnotizing and intense - NO woman should have to suffer not knowing where she stands in a relationship with the man she loves. That “dark side/nature” can manifest itself as sadistic and hurtful. Why would ANYONE have to suffer throught the hot/cold treatment? That’s NO way to live your life.
I, for one, believe that I deserve to be happy and have found a wonderful man with whom I can share my life.
If there are women out there who don’t mind the ego, deviant nature and head games…more power to them! Same goes for anyone who has found a Scorpio man who ISN’T any of the above!
God speed to all!
Hi im a scorpio born on Novermber 15. Most of what you said mostly describes my personal trait, being a scorpio…ive myself been also struggling with my own nature as well
s-bnn:
Perhaps it would help our readers if you extrapolated a bit on your struggle. In your opinion, why are some Scorpions so intense at first then cool off suddenly? Why the need for secrecy and head-games in romantic relationships? And the ego, for Pete’s sake! You might help those who are trying to cope with a Scorpio lover.
I am a gemini woman, and have been in a relationship for 13 years with a scorpio man, and of those 7 years we have been married. He is the most attentive lover,he is the most sensitive man I have ever met…yes, he is a bit jealous. I am a bit flirty as all gemini’s are..but,I go home with him and reassure him that we are together. There is no need to stray here. We laugh, we cry, we talk, we communicate..which is the key to any long lasting relationship…forget the stars, the cusps, the moons, and look at the person in front of you..
Greatings to all sweethearts here
I’m a scorpio man born on 25 october, i knew many scorpios and i vouch they’re not same at all! every one has his own personality even me i have my own , but we some same things shared like the dark side , i really think that the scorpios are the most difficult ones to gain , but once you do you will live the paradise with him, i bit, the most romantic fantastic anyway a love you may see only in the best tv romantic movies there are many technics to get back a scorpio , well if someone is intrested in or have any question i’m here to help and answer
Hi, Simo: Thank you for your input. I agree that, like you said, “Scorpios are the most difficult ones to gain.” However, gaining such affection shouldn’t be a “my way or the highway” proposition as was with my Scorpio ex.
Jennifer, and fellow Gemini, many congratulations and best wishes on your successful marriage to a Scorpio man. I would have LOVED to overlook the cusps, stars and moons as you suggested. Unfortunately, his ego eclipsed the universe as a whole so I hard a difficult time seeing him at all! Not to mention, that I don’t play shrinking violet to a man who is THAT insecure.
Again, my sincere expressions of joy that you’ve found happiness in your union.
I can def. relate, i dated a scorpio man for a year.he persued me like no other and i fell hard.I’m a pisces by the way.He was determined for me to fall in love with him and with a lot of hard work on his part, i did.once he realized my feelings that hot-cold thing came into the pic.needless to say i ended it on new years eve.i miss him and still love him but i will not go crawling back as he predicted, and i know his pride will not allow him to take the step toward me.
how to get over him i have now figured that out and at times i catch myself saying if he just apologized i would take him back but upon reading some of these comments,1- it wont happen and 2- he wont change he will still be the jerk that he was.so thanks, its time to put my heart at rest and bust my butt on getting over that wonderful, funny, sexy, passionate asshole
Jill:
Congratulations on your “epiphany!” Even IF he were to apologize and you took him back, he’d simply bide his time and dump you! He’s ego would demand it.
Case in point, the Scorpio I dated SWORE he was in love. I haven’t seen or heard from him since I ignored his last email. Love isn’t viral. It doesn’t come and go. Its EGO, EGO, EGO! Thank the stars I saw the light!
Hello there..
Im a scorpio born 27th of october. To understand us scorpios you must understand that when we make decisions, we view it as BLACK or WHITE. There is no such thing for us as grey. We are protectors of our loved ones and we will either love u with every inch in our body or we will hate u with the same amount. The best way to analyze a scorpio is to picture a iron ball with a soft center. Once we fall in love with u we show u our soft center and if the love is returned and then the ball becomes all soft. If u play us or u are insencere, the ball becomes one heavy iron metal.
Alot of people dont understand that and therefore believe it to be a ego problem. Don’t betray a scorpio and if u forgive our flaws and accept us, u will find the perfect man!
Hi,
I’ve been dating a scorpio off/on for about a year in a long distance relationship. He runs hot/cold and it’s hard for me to keep up. I’m a cancer, and what’s difficult for me is hearing him “tease” me about my bad traits, yet never compliment me on my good ones. He also never says anything sweet about me, and I’m finding myself feeling very insecure most of the time. Yet when I tease him about himself, he gets offended and when I tell him I’m only joking he acts like oh he knew that. Frustrating man!!
Hi Candice,
IMHO, Scorpios are for those with a VERY thick skin and who regard their hot/cold personalities as inconsequential. Difficult thing to do when you’re starting a romantic relationship!
I find it humorous that the Scorpios I’ve known expect others to put up with their flaws, while they tease you about your own. However, turn and point out theirs and see how quickly they DO turn into a “steel ball!”
Again, this is only MY opinion but as far as I’m concerned, they MUST be in control of every situation - including relationships - and they revel is keeping others off balance. Heaven forbid you take the reigns, win an argument or give back as good as you can take…that’s when the ego is wounded and their stingers are unleashed.
It can come as no surprise that the “scorpio” is their symbol. I’ve friends that are Scorpios and since my heart isn’t at stake, I can be pretty lackadaisical. But, I would never again consider one as a romantic partner! Especially not for a sensitive Cancer!
I’m a Scorpio male November 14th. And here’s the best piece of advice I can give any woman looking for me or one of my fellows. Come from the heart, don’t be afraid! My heart can be melted instantly by a sincere woman. I know it’s challenging and everyone wants to be a rock star in their relationship, but we notice these attempts and become cautious. Lol as for getting that old spark back… Sigh I’m sorry babe… I have actualy seeked perfessional help to try to find the love I lost in a very special woman in my life. Not kidding I hated my nature for years. It’s really a tidal wave of emotion and timing, and when that dreamy state is interupted we are left facing reality.
Hey everyone
Im a gemini girl and I’m involved with two Scorpios at the moment. the one is my extremely good friend and the other is a guy i just recently met (who Im very interested in)
Firstly with the friend, He really likes me and wants to be with me but I dont like him for various reasons, including the fact that i dont find him attractive at all! But he is very loyal and possessive and extremely emotional. Sometimes texts me too much even though we’ve spoken about being JUST FRIENDS. it really annoys me.
Now with this other guy. I met him at a fancy event and found him on face book so i added him, he started speaking to me, asked for my number, he invited me to his house and we got quite intense (im really not the whore type) we didnt sleep together but it was quite sexual. He asked me what I’m looking for and I said I want a relationship from next year (which is in 3 months time) i asked him what he’s looking for and he said whatever happens is what he’ll work with…he’s had quite a rough up bringing (parents got divorced cause his dad cheated on his mom) and he said that in the past he did treat girls like shit cause he used to get hurt alot. I can tell he is a deep guy and we did connect. But he only texted me once since that night and nothing more 
SCORPIO GUYS PLS HELP ME I DUNNO IF THIS IS REJECTION…
Whatever you do, DO NOT CHASE HIM! They like to pursue. As for the “ball” analogy, that gives some insight however, I’ve found that even if some Scorpio men are not betrayed, they just play the hot/cold thing until they have you under their spell then “poof!” They’re gone! And what if you call them on their game? Or mention any flaw in character or call their bluff? Same thing! Again, I preface this by saying “some” Scorpio men, I’m sure not all. From my experience, their egos are huge, a potential love-match can be a game of chasing then disappearing and heaven forbid you’re a strong woman with an independent streak who won’t put up with their behavior - they can’t hack it!
Matter of fact, I was recently married and just last night saw my ex-scorpio walking around the concert hall where my husband and I were attending a show. We made eye contact and I assumed he’d at least say hello (we didn’t end on bad terms) but oh, no….he puffed out his chest and kept on walking past us! I had to laugh out loud it was SO clownish and immature!
Gemini girls, not sure these men are for us!
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Hi Elsa: Thank you for the advice although I’m trying not to bristle at being called a player ;o)
I was skeptical of such fast, intense emotion coming from a man I’d only known a couple of weeks. THAT’S why I “acted” cool. I simply didn’t want to get caught up in the moment and fall for an insincere man who would then play me out once he had me. I don’t think this apprehension translates into wanting to play games or not desiring a “love that is sincere.”
If I had “just been” and not taken a step back, I might be writing you about a broken heart for being so naive!
However, in an effort to learn from your knowledge and experience, could you be so kind as to lend some insight from an astrological point of view? I’d never dated a Scorpio man…is this hot/cold intensity par for the course?
Thank you once again.