Dear Elsa,

I am a gay man and met a guy in Feb this year. A few weeks later, he told me he could not have a relationship with me as he had found out his mother could be dying of cancer. Therefore he could not be happy whilst his and his family’s world was falling apart. I was devastated as I had already fallen in love with him.

Over the last few months we have stayed in touch and I have found out he has been seeing other guys, which has been really upsetting. I confronted him as to why he is seeing others when we could be together. He basically said he didn’t want a relationship with me or anyone at the moment and denied sleeping with anyone. At one point in May he decided that he wanted us to try again. I was happy with this but very soon he closed up again and said no.

I have been patient yet hurting all the time. In October his mother sadly passed away. I saw him and tried to support him although I still know he is busy dating other guys. I have tried walking away but cant. I’m still in love with him. For some reason he wont walk away either.

Is there any hope for us?

Aquarian
England