Hi Elsa,

I’ve been reading your site here for a couple of years now, and just wanted to let you know that my thoughts are with you for getting through your crisis with as little pain and as much support as possible. I get what you’re saying here, and hope your friend does as well.

I’m also thinking from a Cappy side of things…when the going gets rough, we have a remarkable way of keeping our footing, but we do have to scramble occasionally to do it. And if a person tries to burden us further while we’re scrambling, they may end up hoof-marked — not because of maliciousness, but because we can’t accept another burden while dealing with trying to keep our footing with what we already have. I recall you mentioning a bit of Capricorn in your chart, so maybe that’s relevant to you as well.

Be well.

people don’t always understand what will help, perhaps not having that experience from the brink of the pit. and even if you’ve been there, you still might not connect your hell to someone else’s in your head. i could envision a friend feeling disloyal to you for keeping their mouth shut, without understanding that you’re several steps beyond simple saturation and don’t have the energy to deflect anything else.

glad the two of you got it worked out, regardless.