The soldier thinks about (relationship) things and believes these subjects to be deep and so vast it will take the rest of our lives to understand them between us. I don’t argue this. I figure he is probably right and last night he picked a corner of one of the things he wonders about and threw it out to be chewed on.

Unfortunately I could not chew for long because although his question was interesting I don’t think it is applicable to us at all. Basically he wanted to know what we would do if we got into an argument we could not resolve. Say I have one position and he has another and we just can’t come to agreement. He wanted to know if I would consider deferring to an outside source to resolve the problem.

Now in his case, I know he means the church. He would defer to whatever his faith supported which I suppose means, a priest or some other religious authority would tell us what was right and we would agree to abide by it. So how do you feel about that, Elsa?

I had to tell him I had no way of knowing how I felt about that because I could not imagine the circumstance ever arising.

“But what if it did?”

“I don’t know. I have to be able to imagine it arising and I cannot. This is not something that could happen to me. As you know my reality morphs every day. So we’re pissed, we go to sleep and when I wake up everything will have shifted. Things are moving all the time. The Moon moves! So we go to sleep pissed off then wake up, someone’s foot touches someone else’s and at that point we can’t remember what we were so pissed off about or care about it… this has happened to us a million times.”

“Well I hope it would go like that but what if it didn’t? What would we do if we could not resolve a problem?”

I told him I thought all our problems stemmed from difficulty communicating.

“You are talking about a power struggle and we’ve never had one. We have never been in a power struggle in our lives. What happens is I get murderously pissed because I can’t or won’t or don’t have the ability to communicate things to you and eventually I explode in frustration and want to get away. So I get away and then we come back together, usually in a hour or five or ten, and we are always greatly relieved the minute we do. No one ever stays pissed or holds a grudge. I just don’t think we have the ability to get into the situation you are describing. Power struggles are for people who want to control and dominate the other person. Neither of us are like that… well I’m not like that for sure. The last thing I want is for someone to cave to my will. Don’ tie a balloon on your nose for me! Further, I just don’t have the ability to go to sleep in one mood and wake up the same way. So really you want to know what we are going to do if we are both holding a line when I damned well I won’t and can’t hold a line. I take the bullet, remember?” (The Thin Red Line and A Girl Can’t Die In Peace)
He went off to think and I chock this up to Neptune of course. Escape is the route!

Do you find yourself prone to power struggles? Can you see the tendency in your chart?