Dear Woman,

There is such a thing as a woman who just can’t stand to see another woman happy, especially with a man - and your mother sounds as if she fits the prototype. You can read about cock-blocking here, and get some idea of what you are dealing with. She’s not happy with a man so you are going to be happy with a man over her dead body.

Now the point of this is to become educated so you can take the next step which is to detach. Perhaps detach all together if you can manage, but I am not sure you can manage with your Moon in Cancer in hard aspect to Jupiter and Saturn. With aspects like that, you may find yourself stuck and in complete candor, I think in order to survive this you are going to have to tap your whole being - which is not the worst news in the world considering that people not called to do so have talent that goes to waste. In whatever case here’s your map:

You have a stellium in Pisces which gives the innate ability to transcend but when you do this, I want you to have a solid base (Saturn) and belief and philosophy (Jupiter) beneath your action. If you have this all together you will be acting as a whole which sounds like this:

“I know my mother is an unhappy woman and I forgive her for that, however I am going to erect whatever boundary is necessary so that I can transcend her and offer my children a more secure and evolved environment… which is my responsibility in this life.”

Good luck.

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