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Leo Woman Has Affair With Married Scorpio Man, Wonders If She Is Being Played: Astrology-Based Advice
Dear Elsa,
I worked with a Scorpio man for 7.5 years and couldn’t stand him! I made friendly peace, then he flirted with me and I was GONE. This is very bad, he’s married. Arranged marriage, not happy but still bad.
Anyway we had lots of hot phone talk, made plans, I kept putting him off and then mistakenly hurt him, apologized, wrote a hot and heavy letter about how much I wanted him, we made plans again. But he never came through. He just played me for weeks like a cat and his mouse until I finally said forget it to him I can’t do this anymore.
This whole thing with us was only supposed to be about sex, but it has become more than that for me and I did tell him not long ago that he had my heart. Now yesterday I spoke with him briefly over the phone at work and he told me I love you. Wouldn’t let me off the phone till I said it back. I’m totally confused and can’t figure out if he’s playing me, lying, entertaining himself? I do love him and I don’t know what to do. Please help with some advice. I care enough about him to put my lioness on the back burner!!
Leo Woman
United States
Dear Leo,
Reading your post was surreal. Of course he is playing games and entertaining himself! But what do you think you’re doing? You’re playing games and entertaining yourself! You are playing the kind of games where people wind up hurt and do you expect us to believe you don’t know this?
You may as well be someone who slaps their kid 100 times and then wonders why their face is bruised. Cause and affect for Godsakes. If you pour gas on yourself and walk into a fire, you will be burned. And once you’ve done this you are not going to be able to say, hey wait a minute! New game. I want to be an unburned maiden now.
With Jupiter conjunct your Sun in Leo, you have an inflated ego. You also like to play. You have Mars in Scorpio conjunct Neptune… you love to seduce and sneak around but jeez man. Stop with the complaining when the bill comes due.
You have Venus conjunct Pluto in Virgo as well. Virgo the maiden spoiled by the nasty Scorpio. Come on now. You set this whole thing up. You are no more his pawn than he is yours and if you don’t like the game, then quit playing it.
Good luck.
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Elsa you are a wonderful ‘agony aunt’! LOVE THIS ADVICE!!!
Very good advice, Elsa.
Ehh! Nothing gets my panties in a bunch more than this subject! I have tried and tried and tried to look at this situation from every angle possible and I STILL don’t get it. This ordeal has affected my family for generations. My grandpa for example, he committed suicide over an affair he had for many years and counldn’t handle the pain he caused everybody when it all came out. (The other woman was a “friend” of the family). I know it’s common among every family, I think it’s pointless and only causes pain. I know people have issues and insecurities but does that give anyone the right to hurt other people (like the wife, the kids, etc.)? Why do these “other” women always give off the impression of entitlement? At least that’s how I percieve it. You know, the famous “He’s not happy with his wife” excuse….and the “if she was doing her job right…” excuse. If the wife is so horrible why is he still with her? If YOU were so wonderful, you’d find a man of your own. I don’t know, I hate to be judgemental, but this is pretty much the only situation I give myself permission to be judgemental about. It has had a direct affect on me and my family so I feel like I have the right this time.
Elsa, as a fellow Venus/Pluto in Virgo, I had to laugh at this woman’s protesting that she’s innocent. Venus-Pluto people know EXACTLY what they’re doing. And because they give off a powerful “scent”, people catch on to them.
If the marriage is THAT bad, arranged or not, the guy should end it. If HE chooses not to, she needs to move on and fast.
I wanted to add that Venus-Pluto is a signature in my immediate family. Hubby has it (square), I have it (conjunction in Virgo), two of my kids have it (conjunction in Sag), and one kid will have it by progression (also Sag). My stepson also has it (Venus-Mars-Jupiter conjunct square Pluto).
I know when my Venus-Pluto kids are trying to sweet talk me, and it may work with other people, but never with me!
Did any one of you incredibly uppity and ticked off woman actually read what I said? I feel terrible that he is married. I have no desire to hurt anyone. YOu don’t know me or anything about me but you have tried me and convicted me based on planets and signs. Get a life!! I never said I was innocent I know what I did and what role I played in this. I can’t help that my heart got caught up in this. Oh my God what horrible people you are. I’m stunned. I came here hoping for some productive insight and was hit with harshness,hatefulness,sarcasm,and know it allness. Have not one of you ever been in a cliche’ situation but it’s not who you would ever normally be? Guess not or I would have found some understanding and GOOD advice. Thanks for nothing!
well, I read it very carefully, and I just read it again. I don’t see where you had anything to say about any feelings but your own. you sure do have a lot of nasty judgement for the commentors here, though. funny how projection works. maybe you should thank them for being your shadow that you can safely flame without getting any on you.
Leo woman–I said in my comment that I’ve tried to understand this from all points of view. I always try to hear out everyone’s POV and believe it or not, I am a very understanding, compassionate person. I am also the type of person who believes in accountability…not excluding myself (especially). There are points in people’s lives when you make a decision to take this road or take that road, and I think it is irresponsible for a person to not take into consideration all parties involved. You say it was only supposed to be sexual? So that would’ve been alright with his wife, if it was just sexual huh? I don’t know how you think you would’ve gotten any other reaction.
P.S. You’ve come to an astrology blog for advice, don’t be upset that the advice given was based on planets and signs.
Well, there’s a wounded Leo for you. Can’t tell the Queen that she’s wrong.
(Speaking as a fellow Leo and Queen, of course.
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I never agree with any one having an affair with a married man its wrong no two ways around this issue.I also hate it when they say well hes not happy with her bull… its the biggest excuse in the world to do what you want anyhow…..
You know, as a fellow Leo this one sentence caught my eye: “[He] Wouldn’t let me off the phone…”
That sentence reeks of “I want to be playfully manipulated so I have plausible deniability.”
Wouldn’t let you off the phone? Wouldn’t LET you off the phone??!?! You’re a Leo with Scorpio Mars and there’s the disconnect button!
*grumble* Let off the phone… sheesh.