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Is There A Variance In Your Level Of Appreciation For What You Have Worked For vs What You’ve Been Given?
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With the Moon in Sagittarius (square Saturn) - it’s a good time to ponder the meaning of things…
“So why do you think this is so hard?” I asked, the soldier last night. “What do you think is the purpose or the meaning is… why we would have such a hard time and so many challenges?”
“I don’t know. Maybe so we can fully appreciate it when we do finally get to be together. We didn’t appreciate what we had when we had it, at least I didn’t. We did the best we could, I think we both did that, but it wasn’t good enough. We just didn’t appreciate what we’d been given which is par for the course for most people. It’s hard to know what something is worth if it’s just handed to you and we were just handed to each other. We didn’t have to pay a dime or lift a finger. We were just there and we got to be together all the time. And we obviously didn’t appreciate it, at least not the way we should have because look what happened.”
“Yeah.”
“So now we go through this. And it is hard. But don’t you think we’ll appreciate each other more because of it? Do you think this might do it?”
“Yes I do.”
Do you appreciate what you’re given?
6 Responses to “Is There A Variance In Your Level Of Appreciation For What You Have Worked For vs What You’ve Been Given?”
Definitely. My husband and I had a super-long-distance relationship for a few years before we married. The knowledge of how much we sacrificed has definitely had an impact on how we view our marriage and our willingness to stick with it. 7th house in Capricorn, maybe? Who knows, maybe we would feel that way anyway, but I doubt it.
God Yes, here too. I also have sun-saturn, don’t know if that’s it, but i agree with kashmiri all the way. All my ex-scorpio friends used to swear that the more you have to fight to get something the more you will value it, and I just think they were sado-masochist.
I think it’s an illusion to think this way. if something has value to you it will always have it. I apreciate things more if they are more pleasent then if they bring pain with it.
I think maybe the soldier and elsa being young and finding a great love so soon, they though maybe this is common, and will happen all the time. And that’s why they might have taken it for granted before. Age brings wisdom.
Then again, it may be true for them. For me it doesn’t work that way.
Viv - yeah, he thought it was common. He’s the one who went out and married someone (anyone) a month after we separated. I knew he was not common. I was in a daze… damned near a coma for months and months and months. Shallow breathing, nothing more.
But I eventually came around and healed right about the time it all caught up with him.
In whatever case, we won’t be doing that again. Don’t think we could if we tried…
Huge difference between them for me. I have a good bit of Sag, and used to take lots of things for granted. Then Pluto drove me into the ground for years, and now…well, I do forget sometimes, but basically I now have the capacity to be grateful for damn near everything, because so much was taken away for so long. I’ve now worked to have the ability simply to walk around, to have a functioning brain (both of those due to severe illness), worked through years of old stuff to now have a sincere and honest relationship with someone I would have never even considered years ago…So for me, definitely I now appreciate what I’ve worked for, but I think also am more aware and appreciative of when I’m given things as well.
i like to think so…and i know what you work for is different from what you’re handed….but i also believe things happen for a reason. i don’t need pain to appreciate something or even fight for it, but i see the pain as containing important information i need to process. otherwise, i wouldn’t have it.so if the pain is part and parcel, then i will get something valuable out of it, damnit. otherwise it’s wasted.
with the soldier and elsa, i know you both mourn the lost time. except time is never lost, it’s spent, you know? and you are both different people because of the years you spent on your own. i would consider those years prep time. the relationship you have now would not have been possible when you were together as kids. while the connection was strong then, you are not the same people now.
i actually find a lot of reassurance in the story and don’t consider it sad, although it’s not my life so that’s easier for me to do. to me, it emphasizes the idea that if it’s supposed to happen it will, and there’s not a damn thing that’s gonna stop it. spouses, miles, wars, years, headaches and heartaches aside, nothing could stop it. and that’s pretty damned amazing to me…
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