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17 Year Old Scorpio Struggles To Deal With Cancer Friend: Astrology-Based Advice

October 31st, 2007 @ 3:44 am by Elsa

Hi Elsa

I’m a Scorpio and the closest friend I have at the moment is a Cancerian. We are extremely good friends and have a deep understanding of one another… well only sometimes I guess. She tends to frustrate me at times- so much that I often feel like running away and not being her friend anymore because in a way I feel hurt. Reason being is that I never know where I stand with her.

I’m forever given mixed signals from her. One day she will make me feel like her bestest friend then the next, she is all aloof with me. I don’t know what it is she wants. is it just me? Am I being too demanding of her? I just don’t understand her at times. I still want her friendship very much. but I don’t know what I can deal with my volatile and sometimes distant friend.

Scorpio Girl
South Africa

scorpio Dear Scorpio,

I am not positive what is going on here but I have some guesses. First, it may help to understand your friend’s nature. As a Cancer she is going to withdraw at times. She can’t help this anymore than a leopard can help the fact it has spots, so it might help to ease some of the conflict if you became aware of this.

Secondly, although you have a stellium in Scorpio you have an Aquarius Moon and you like quirky women. So in essence part of this problem lies in you. If you were pure Scorpio this would be a much simpler equation but there is conflict between the needs of Scorpio and Aquarius and they are reflected in your relationship with your friend.

Now here’s my advice: get hip to the fact this girl has moods and I don’t mean she has one or two moods, she has twelve! Keep an eye on this and you will see what I mean, each mood last 2.5 days (the length of time the Moon stays in a sign).

Armed with this information, learned to recognize which moods don’t jibe so well with you (for example if she wants / needs to be alone she is going to push you out) and when they come along, use your innate ability to detach (Aquarius) to protect your more tender Scorpio side.

Scorpio can also deal with this because it can be like a science experiment and you are not just studying her. Because what will help you most is getting to know yourself better and frankly, this girl seems a perfect vehicle on that front.

Good luck!

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2 Responses to “17 Year Old Scorpio Struggles To Deal With Cancer Friend: Astrology-Based Advice”

dreamsAreality

Scorpio myself, so as an older one, I’d just give the following advice. Of course, how you decide to perceive the situation is entirely up to you.

I’d take those little break times to either refresh myself by way of relaxation OR better yet, attempt more varied friendships as well.

We Scorpios are equally adept at retraction, so the effort here is to take some of your own deep wellspring of initiative in trying to cultivate more friendships so the loss of a few hours w/one friend does not leave you without other options.

One does not want to totally rely on only one other person to keep our spirits up. Do we? It would be nice, but hey, even for us that seems like TOO TOO much pressure, doesn’t it?

What would happen if you just remember that we all need time ocassionally to pull away, refresh ourselves, keep other friendships active, do family things or WHATEVER, and to give her the same freedom to do those things as you’d like to have for yourself?

10/31/07 @ 7:14 am (reply)

CynO

I can completely relate to this– I too am a scorpio with an aquarius moon. ANd i too have problems with friends seemign to detach- except that the friends are usually aquarians. I’m still trying to learn how to deal with this

10/31/07 @ 1:56 pm (reply)

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