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Open Question And Update: 20 Year Old Man Loses His Gay Lover of Five Years To A Woman Who Is Pregnant: Pluto Transit
Now and then someone writes me months after the fact to let me know how the advice I gave them helped them and this letter was particularly moving. I remembered this guy instantly and if you’ve been reading here awhile, I bet you do too.
I cut him no slack and I wanted to publish this letter because it’s obvious he’s done a lot of work since and the results left me feeling humbled and inspired. I wanted to share the emotion and also, he thanks two other people in here (Marc is one of them) and with a little luck, they will see this.
Last, gives me a chance to make a point I have been meaning to make for long time. That is, I feel people with emphasis on Virgo and Pisces (or the 6th and 12th houses) must serve or suffer, but I think it is wise to discriminate who you serve.
For example, if you sacrifice your life to your alcoholic husband, that’s probably not so good. But then someone like this comes along. Someone with great heart, where investment in them pays off. Not for the person serving personally, but to the collective at large because this man has obviously advanced himself and become a source, not a sink.
So now he has another question and I think we should help him. Mercury is in Scorpio. How about we (the collective / Scorpio) write something (Mercury) to heal and empower (Scorpio) this man?
Thank you,
Elsa
Hi Elsa,
I wrote to you away back in February about a friend of mine with who I’d grown rather intimate. 20 Year Old Man Loses His Gay Lover of Five Years To A Woman Who Is Pregnant: Pluto Transit
I’m writing to say thank you Elsa for your help and advice, and the subsequent outcome. I took your advice, and took a step back. I see now all the mistakes I made, and I am at that point where I am sincerely sorry for everything that went on, let alone embarrassed at how I acted. It was so naive of me to think that when I ‘outed’ him, he’d come running back to me with open arms. But I’m past all that and realize now that we were friends and that’s all and although we let each other down, we’re far better out of each others lives.
Now, I know what I really have. I give my friends a hug just that bit tighter, and I’m a lot more ferociously loyal to my friends. I’ve accepted the moral of the story and learned my lesson.
I started college this year as well, and I’m doing really well at that, and really want to get into university next year. I’m not out on the hunt for Mr Right, but no doubt things will work out when they’re meant to. College and my prospective career, family and my mates, are going to come first.
Thank you so much for your advice Elsa, you were firm with me and it’s helped. So did the two comments left by two gentleman, and I’m very grateful for older, more experienced gay men to take time out of their lives and give advice to me.
I can’t help but wonder though how I’ll get on with college and whether or not I have the ability to progress to university. I also wonder if I’ve the aptitude to be a writer… a novelist.
Thank you Elsa once more, I am so glad I discovered your site.
Young Man In(Less) Turmoil
Scotland
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Hail Scotland:
The Aug. 28th 2007 eclipse 5 degrees pisces features a asteroid? called Fomalhaut the Fishes Mouth. It has rulership over floods, the sea, feet of Aq. occult or religious affairs and success with scientists and writers. Most eclipses last 6 mths but not sure if I heard this one over a year. Personally I met a woman writing a book at this time but never continued the contact. Thought I’d share this with you.
Okay, no one is biting, so I will. Jupiter rules publishing and yours is in it’s own sign and house… this has got to be taken a a good sign. You’re a Mercury (writing) ruled Virgo with Mercury in Leo (creativity) which speaks of fiction to me.
You have Saturn (fear) in the 5th (creativity) so probably worry if you have the chops but in fact creativity could be your work. I think it’s interesting you are gay… Saturn in the 5th often prevents children, your children can be your books (your work)… expect to have to make an effort.
Last, are you suited to a writing life?
Absolutely. With a 12th house Moon in Cancer, you need down time in a big way so working a nontraditional job accommodates this.
You also asked about university… that Jupiter placement wants an education so get it!
Good luck!
There’s a lot of similarities in this chart to mine, namely the 12th house cancer moon & ascendant, and the pices 9th house jupiter square uranus in sag. I suspect you’ll do very well at university, but you may also find it frustrating. Most universities are very traditional, and while they may say they support new, original work, they’re not always telling the truth. That Uranus/Jupiter square may get you in trouble as the idealism (in the house of higher education) pairs up with the need to stir the pot. If you get professors who are actually free-thinkers and encourage that in their students, you’ll do awesome, but watch out for the ones who just want you to parrot back their opinion slightly disguised. Most of the time you’ll just have to hunker down and do the assignment.
Your Virgo sun should serve you well in both pursuits, what with the whole organization/nit-picky thing. Half of success in university is the ability to use a day planner.
As for writing, I think the hard part will be learning to expose that 12th house moon. The instinct may be to hide your emotions, but that leaves the writing dry. I suspect you’ve got a lot of depth and a mercury in Leo that loves to perform on the page, so I’m with Elsa on the hell yeah, go for it!
i can’t read a chart worth squat yet, but was at least thinking good thoughts for this young man. for whatever that’s worth.