1 Minute Astrology - Pisces, Beauty and Boundaries - An Open Question

10 Responses to “1 Minute Astrology - Pisces, Beauty and Boundaries - An Open Question”

1. seekingzen says on 9/6/07 at 1:56 pm:
   

   That’s so wrong, messing with someone’s livelihood! And without asking or offering reimbursement of some sort!!

   Off the top of my head, I would suggest your friend stick the offender with a bill for whatever the goods cost, cleaning expenses, and anything else attached to the incident. If she was unable to tend to her client and lost the appointment or anything like that, then the bill should include the fee she lost, too!

2. Busted says on 9/6/07 at 2:03 pm:
   

   Maybe sometimes murder is appropriate…

   B

3. Chris R. says on 9/6/07 at 2:39 pm:
   

   Well. Since no one person is all angel, one devil, I’d say in some way she encouraged (without really knowing or thinking about it) the encroachment on her boundaries. Maybe this person was a new hire and foggy on procedures? Maybe this person was a new hire, someone your friend had been really friendly to, who concluded ’so and so won’t mind’? Why don’t they have separate lockers? It’s best to approach as a learning experience, where she’ll assert herself and learn to speak her mind / feelings.

   When I was younger I had ppl encroach on my boundaries all the time - especially lately that’s stopped. Generally ppl are just clueless when it comes to interacting with Pisces / 12th house.

4. Viv says on 9/6/07 at 2:56 pm:
   

   UGH….. I’m pisces, this happens to me all the time. Actually it has stopped happening on some levels, I started choosing friends that aren’t creeps, and that helped alot, but I live with the fear of it in my head because I never really learned to deal with this stuff without feeling VERY unconfortable. confronting people I mean. I just learned to know who these people are (people that walk all over you if they can) at far, and then just live my life as far away from them as possible.
   I feel the urge of murder too. A more apropriate solution would imply a civilized confrontation but you’d need to be very calm and secure, and have fast thinking. and be very aware of your rights.

5. Janney Lynn says on 9/6/07 at 5:56 pm:
   

   Boy, that takes some ‘balls’! I know confrontation is difficult, but, try to assume the person was REALLY in a jam or they wouldn’t have done this (this gets you in a less confrontational mode)…Say, “I’m sure you must have been in a big jam or you wouldn’t have used my stuff. I am wondereing when were you planning to reimburse me for the $50 ( or whatever the cost) for the materials.” Then, telling them you know they MUST have been in a jam, but, you really prefer they leave all your things alone in the future.

6. kashmiri says on 9/6/07 at 6:28 pm:
   

   Put it in writing. A letter, and an invoice for costs.
   Then offer a chance for her to explain herself, but only AFTER detailing the financial cost of losing a client and materials.
   I always prefer writing to talking. I get intimidated too easily and end up being a passive doormat.

7. SaDiablo says on 9/6/07 at 11:45 pm:
   

   Everyone’s focused on the cost here, but I’m wondering if that’s what your friend is most interested in. Personally, I was be more cheesed about the intrusion into “my domain.” (i.e. Don’t use my stuff without asking, regardless of whether I pay for it myself!)
   In any case, as much as your friend dreads it, a “confrontation” will have to occur. Even if it’s as mild as, “Hey, the other day you used my stuff and didn’t clean up after yourself. That [made me late/cost me my client/whatever] and I would appreciate it if you would ask next time.” The offender will only continue to misbehave unless the point is made that this is unacceptable.
   Of course, you can scale it up to your preferred level of drama.

   You’ve made me curious, so now I’m going to ask my hairdresser friend how she’d handle it.

8. SaDiablo says on 9/6/07 at 11:47 pm:
   

   Oh! Especially if this is a first offense, I would take a light approach. There’s always room for bitchiness later (says Leo and Libra).

9. Piscesdream says on 9/7/07 at 5:25 am:
   

   I’m a Pisces Sun(also Mercury and Venus in Pisces), and this type of thing has happened all the time to me, too. I shirk from confrontation, but I think SaDiablo’s mild approach would probably be the way for your friend to approach the situation, IMHO.

10. Selkie says on 9/7/07 at 1:11 pm:
    

    My double Pisces (Sun and Moon) friend since high school & I (Pisces Sun with Mercury in Pisces)have often talked about how our boundaries have been invaded pretty consistently over the years, sometimes in minor ways, sometimes in ways similar to what your friend experienced. I agree with both of SaDiablo’s comments: if it’s a first-time thing, you probably need to assume the best, such as, well, perhaps there was an emergency, or if the person is new at work, perhaps she wasn’t clear on the rules and/or how strictly these boundaries are set & enforced.
    I can’t help but think of how I’d hope to be treated if I screwed up, so I’d first give the offender a chance to explain, and, if necessary, make restitution (& hopefully apologize!). Of course, then your friend (or even better- their mutual boss) MUST clearly state: 1.)That this sort of thing will NOT be tolerated a second time, and 2.)Exactly what disciplinary action will be taken should she do it again.
    Though I definitely don’t mean to minimize the offense to your friend… most everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at first, and a second chance, don’t they? (If she does it again, though - that’s a whole ‘nother question!!)

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