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She Dumped Her Very Busy Man - Mistake Or No? Pluto Transit To Virgo Moon The Angles
Dear Elsa,
I was involved with a Cancer. We started off well. He didn’t have money but he was very attentive with phone calls and visits. I was VERY attracted to him. He had a great many family, health, and money problems and I tried to be understanding. He also had a very full schedule.
Eventually I started to feel uncomfortable, anxious and depressed because he could not seem to make any time for us to go places together. We went a few places when we first got together, but then that tapered off and he would not take time away from anything or anyone else in order to go anywhere with me. His schedule was such that he could only visit at midnight a couple of times a week, which he supplemented with phone calls
Recently I broke up with him, citing his refusal to even go get a cup of coffee together outside my apartment. Basically, I feel that I deserve someone who is more interested in me. And he deserves someone in whom he is more interested. Even though I initiated the breakup and feel that I had good reasons, my heart is just broken. This has affected my performance at work.
I feel desperately unhappy. Part of me wonders if I made a big mistake and if perhaps he would have shown more interest if he wasn’t slammed with problems and worry. The other part of me thinks I was just a big chump all along and he was just using me. Do you have any insights that might help me heal? I still love him so much.
Pisces Rising, Virgo Moon
United States
Dear Virgo Moon,
The first time I read this, I thought this guy may be married and the second time I read it I thought the same thing.
The third time I read it, I still thought he might be married so at this point I would have to say you know what? I think this guy might be married.
And though I have no way of knowing this other than it sure sounds as if this guy is married, I still am going to mention it because you say you love him and I want to try to fix that…
What do you love about this guy again?
It sounds as if he offered very little and when you accepted it, he offered even less. When you accepted even less, he offered even less than less and when you finally called it, he merely shrugged and trotted off.
Now you are approaching 60 years old and you are in the midst of a massive Pluto transit. Considering this, I don’t think you have one minute more to waste writhing around over this man who sounds more like a weasel than anything else. And this is about all I can try to accomplish in the format of an advice blog - I can try to encourage you to LET GO.
Let go this piece of dead wood, cry your tears but please spare yourself further pain which is all you’re going to get by rehashing and trying to resurrect this thing that should by all rights, at this point should be taken out behind the shed and shot.
I am very sorry.
Good luck.
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As someone who’s now going through a massive Pluto transit myself (to a Venus-Pluto conjunction), Pluto expects depth and quality, and you’re certainly not going to get it from this guy. Seems to me like he was just wasting your time.
Hold out for something much much better, and good luck…
“This guy must be married” is the first thing that popped into my mind also….
Agreed. I think all of our intuitive senses bleeped the red warning signal as soon as we read this. Even if he isn’t married–why put up with that? I’d say I’m 90% sure he is, but regardless…don’t put up with it.
Bravo to you for not being willing to accept the mediocre. Maybe he would have been more interested if circumstances were different, maybe not. Perhaps he’s married, maybe he isn’t. Doesn’t matter. The point is that you recognized that you deserve more and its clear that this guy can’t give it to you, whatever the reasons. You don’t get to separate the person from what’s going on in their lives — they’re a package deal, unfortunately.
Elsa’s right on the money with her advice. You made the choice you needed to make. Do whatever you need to do to be at peace with that instead of second guessing and beating yourself up about it. You’ve shown tremendous self respect, in my opinion, its time to start appreciating that and showing that you do, indeed, deserve much more than you were getting.
My heart goes out to you, you did the right thing. You will be rewarded with someone better.
You should read “He’s just not that into you.’ Although it’s funny and somewhat skewered to a young audience (ppl who want to marry and breed basically) it has some sage advice.