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Loss Of Relationship: Saturn Transit To Leo Moon
Dear Elsa,
I have recently broken up with my boyfriend whom I truly believed I would marry one day. We had a wonderful relationship; however, we began to fight and miscommunicate until he called it quits. I am shocked and devastated. I also greatly realize the mistakes I made during our time together, for which I am hurting badly.
In the three weeks we have been apart, I have been looking deeply into myself. I have discovered that Saturn is in conjunction with my moon, which apparently is a time of great self-criticism. I realize that is could be a good thing in the end, that I will grow and learn from this time. However, I am confused about a couple of things.
Is this influence a karmic thing? Does it mean this break up is punishment for my mistakes? I realize I need to change things for myself, but I never intended to hurt my boyfriend in the time I was with him, and was truly loving of him. I understand what this influence means, but I’m not sure why it has occurred.
Any help you can offer would be greatly, greatly appreciated.
Thankfully,
Heart-broken and Learning
Australia
Dear Learning,
I am very sorry for your loss. Your pain is palpable and I will try to help. First, a Saturn transit to the Moon (your Venus is also involved) is one of the most challenging transits particularly for the young and you are just 23. And I don’t think it’s helpful for you to think in terms of karma and punishment. It is clear you are suffering and at this point, you want to work to feel better not worse. And though this will also be challenging, it can be done.
Essentially what you are doing is grieving, which is a process. And having identified all your shortcomings (ouch), it is now time to shift your focus away from that and try to move towards acceptance. Accept the loss. Accept the price you paid - but instead of going backward and beating yourself up, try to focus on the future and figure out how you are going to incorporate what you’ve learned.
This can take the form (Saturn) of making a commitment (Saturn) to never again perpetrate whatever it was you did. Commit to doing “the right thing” in relationships. Commit to acting as an adult (Saturn) and you can even go as far as being grateful you have learned these lessons now, because you know what?
There are people 10 and even 20 years older than you, still acting the fool.
Much love and good luck.
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Excellent advice, Elsa!
Heart-broken, you’ve taken an amazing step forward with your life, realizing that you did make mistakes, but the fork you’re at now is what you’re going to do with that info. Are you going to wallow in the demise of your last relationship? Or are you going to learn from your mistakes and next time be a great significant other?
Because if there’s nothing else I’ve learned from the years I’ve read/known Elsa, it’s that life is a learning process. You can grow, evolve and most importantly, change the person you are. Not for anyone else but yourself, which, btw, sets you up for amazing relationships in the future.
I’m in awe of your ability to see this at 23. It took me until I was 29-30 to figure it out.
Good luck!