Aquarius Man Carries Torch For Aries Woman: Can He Win Her Back?

22 Responses to “Aquarius Man Carries Torch For Aries Woman: Can He Win Her Back?”

1. kashmiri says on 7/23/07 at 9:30 am:
   

   I find this disconcerting. If you have broken up over two years ago…I’d say it’s time to accept reality and surgically remove yourself from this situation.
   I was obsessed with a man for years and years and years, and it was a relief to finally let go of that obsession. That only happened when I realized what I was doing: I was projecting all of my fantasies onto him.
   I could ignore the reality of my own life (I was in a relationship with an addict and it was killing me). Everything was going to work out…eventually…when this person woke up to how much I really loved him and would look after him!
   It wasn’t until I turned that love and respect to MYSELF was I freed from being obsessed.

   A couple of bigger questions: why did you break up and why are you still pining over someone and dating someone else? If my ex was in a relationship and harassing me, you bet your booty I’d be limiting contact.

2. seekingzen says on 7/23/07 at 10:12 am:
   

   I have to agree with kashmiri. If she won’t even see you in person or talk to you on the phone, then you might want to give it up before she files for a restraining order to keep you from contacting her. She’s with someone else anyway, right? How do you know she’s not happy with them? You said yourself that she’s cold to you… Let the woman get on with her life already.

3. Viv says on 7/23/07 at 3:58 pm:
   

   I’m not saying it is the case with this aquarius, but it sure reminds me of a few aquarius I’ve met who only value people that don’t want them. I think deep down they don’t love themselves, and don’t respect people that do. So they chase the ones that don’t. It’s sick.

   Aquarian Man, Kashmiri is right about this, it’s absurd that you realised you are so deeply in love with her and still haven’t quit your present relationship. Huge “WTF?” in my mind about this.
   Peace!

4. ana says on 7/23/07 at 4:07 pm:
   

   I think she is cold to you and limiting contact out of hurt - why did you break up? you said yourself that you were a ‘narcissistic ass’ before, it’s not surprising that she would be afraid to be in contact with you as you could hurt her again. And if she still has feelings for you, just talking to you might dredge those up as well and make her second guess her present relationship. It is just far easier for her to shut out the past and go forward. Why do you want her now? do you really care about her or just want her because you’ve lost her? It took 2 years for you to get to this point so it will probably take her a while to believe in you again. If you really want her back, SHOW her you have changed. Don’t slobber at her doorstep, but don’t retreat and wait for her to make the moves. If you messed things up, it is up to you to make it up now. Be patient, keep in contact and gradually demonstrate how you have really changed. Steady, consistent caring shows that you are serious in a way that words cannot. So don’t just talk and share feelings - why should she believe any of those? Especially if it is just once and you withdraw. Do, show, act. Be willing to make yourself available/unattached, be patient, be consistent over time. And by all means, should she give you any attention, do NOT play any games with her or try and push/pull - she will just see it as more evidence to avoid you and limit contact further. Be serious, and if she still cares about you she just might come back! Good luck!

5. simone says on 9/30/07 at 10:37 pm:
   

   dear mister aquarian man,

   i hope that you find a lot of value in the advice of all four that came before me here. however, as an ARIES woman whose last relationship was with an AQUARIAN “narcissistic ass” of a man, i will tell you that your best bet is to most carefully consider ana’s advice. if your love for her is this strong and your sense of what is meant to be is what you write that it is, you have a lot of work to do. “Do, show, act.” This very important in rebuilding anything for such a tarnished past. As it is, she has no reason to think you are anyone but who you were two years ago.

   you want to follow everyones advice by putting an end to attempting to rekindle things with your aries while simultaneously dating other women. i can understand why you are doing this, but if you love her as much as you say you do, it’ll be worth the sacrifice to celibate yourself. your description of what your relationship with aries woman was and is is a pretty close reflection of mine. he calls every month, wanting information, wanting to know when we can see each other. in response, i ask how his girlfriend is doing. i certainly do not want to allow him to make someone else feel the way he made me feel.

   good luck.

6. Tejas_Bull says on 11/24/07 at 7:21 pm:
   

   this string of emails and answers is nothing short of incredible. I guess many other people have been through the Aries Love issue. Recently have ended??? a relationship with a ‘57 Aries and I am a 1959 Taurus (I did not end it , she did, and via e:mail). there were a lot of very messy things going on in our relationship including my still being married and a very messy divorce which is finally over. My relationship with Ramzila was nothing short of incredible very passionate and I am very depressed about that I cannot even bring myself to do many things, that it seems to be over. I would do anything ANYTHING to get her back she is an incredible person and woman and I think about her every moment of the day. She is a one in a million person. We have been apart for about 4 months with very little contact. Also to complicate matters further she recently had surgery to remove cancer from her body so that was part of what happened as well. It looks like she is going to be okay and recover which is of course great. We dated and saw each other exclusively for about 2 years. We made many trips together including Paris France for her 50th birthday. I am not complaining but I spent 20 to 30,000 on this woman during the course of our relationship including big engagement ring which is now in my safe on ice and now she is gone. I feel like my heart has been smashed into a million pieces. I could go on and on but if you are an Aries and or a Taurean I think I have said enough. Any advice on how to get her back is appreciated. I have no desire to begin anew with anyone else again ever. I would like nothing more in the world to be with her again. Last year the holidays were great.

   I guess I have said enough.

   I could really use some good advice, I am at witts end and have no desire to move on, suck it up or any of that. There is no money issue here, I never see that mentioned in the posts, we are both well off with good incomes and assets in seven figures.

   Please help!

7. mary says on 12/23/07 at 11:07 am:
   

   I am a leo women and my aquarius man was acting differnt towards me, I asked him if someone else was in his life and he told me no. I went to where he hangs and he was with two women I asked him again and he said he never cheated on me, It has been 3 weeks now. He called me last week and said this is hard I think about you we were together a while. That night i called him and he let a women answer the phone and she said he couldnt have called you he was in bed with me and my girlfreien

8. pam says on 1/21/08 at 1:17 am:
   

   I am an aries woman, and I think everything you said was just so sweet, maybe you should tell her exactly how you feel and if you have already and she has moved on then i am sure that you will find a great girl that will love you as much as you love her. I just recently broke up with my boyfriend, yesterday. We had been going out for 2 years and it was the most meaningful relationship i have ever been in ..i have never cared or loved someone so much in my life, feeling like you are so empty without them and every moment you can you want to spend with them, i was totally in love. But things started to go downhill, we spent so much time together, every waking second-literally. We started arguing and that turned into heated battles and eventually we were calling eachother names and being childish.Every time we talked to eachother it would turn into a argument and not just a little tiny ones fights that lasted for days not seeing eachother for a week at a time. So eventually I made my self write down all the things he made me feel. i would write down happy ones and bad ones and the bad ones defiantly outweighed the good ones. But after thinking about it for such a long time and comming up with many conclusions and or options and trying and trying and it feeling like i am trying for nothing and feeling so alone i finally figured out i loved the person he USED to be .not who he is now . and i will always love him but i know relationships arent susposed ot be liek that and if you try and try and it still dosernt work dont waste what little of life you have trying to make something impossible work..so i am basically saying if you are putting all your heart into this girl and she dosent want to be with you anymore then there is some girl out there just looking for a sweet guy liek you . dont worry everything happens for a reason and you will find your soulmate .!

9. sagittarius says on 3/26/08 at 12:35 pm:
   

   >I love her a lot, and she still is cold to me

   I am not at all suprised. I have dated an Aquarian and he let me go for some reason and I know he is going to regret it. Indeed being a narcissistic ass is a trait that natives of this sign tend to share.
   Try to remember that at the time how callous you were and probably hurt her pride deeply and there maybe no forgiveness for you. Try to understand that her taking you back would do more damage to her pride and try to understand that you did this to yourself out of selfishness.
   You probably destroyed the love that she had for you with your indifference, coldness or arrogance even if she had only warmth deep affection and love. I have heard about this many many times with the Aquarian male.
   So now you know better there is no advice but to let go. Let her find love with someone who will appreciate her passionate nature and who won’t stiffle her with petty mind games.

10. sagittarius says on 3/26/08 at 12:41 pm:
    

    <Aquarian Man, Kashmiri is right about this, it’s <absurd that you realised you are so deeply in <love with her and still haven’t quit your <present relationship. Huge WTF

    It is called being an Aquarian…the worst asshole of the zodiac. What can you expect? Air signs hve no substance they impress you with their intellect but they have no depth. pfft Fire and air should not mix. Air can be wicked callous and cruel to people and that is someone you want nothing to do with

11. sagittarius says on 3/26/08 at 12:53 pm:
    

    > I could go on and on but if you are an Aries >and or a Taurean I think I have said enough. Any >advice on how to get her back is appreciated. I >have no desire to begin anew with anyone else >again ever. I would like nothing more in the >world to be with her again. Last year the >holidays were great.

    For the Taurean seeking advice…Aries is a fire sign she would appreciate a man who means what he says and his honest…are you divorced yet? Do you follow up with action? Why did she leave were you too chauvenistic? I’ve dated a Taurean and he was excessively jealous and ended up yelling and being abusive so I just left town.
    Give her lots of space but at some point you might tell her that you miss her and what you miss about her. Fire signs aren’t complicated what you see is what you get.

12. ariesdevilgurl says on 5/14/08 at 7:21 pm:
    

    ok maybe i am not the typical aries girl but i need lots of attention! That is what is bugging me about the aquarius guy i am seeing. is this just me?

13. Libra hurt by Aquarius says on 7/11/08 at 8:47 am:
    

    I just broke up a 2 year relationship with an Auarius. They say that Libra and Aquarius are the perfect match but the truth was that I was miserable in this relationship. No affection, no attention no intimacy. I guess that with Aquariuses it all depends on whether they are ready to commit.

14. Ab says on 10/16/08 at 7:05 am:
    

    Hi Aquarian. I am also an aquarian. its really intresting to read your story. Aquarian is your birth personality. but that gets shaped with your experience and others experience also. try to get shaped.
    understand man, everything (including relationships) are experiences for us. be good to ur present girl.
    you know what, if you get that ex- girl back, then u wont be like how you are now, u will look all -ves of her and will think in an exactly opposite was that u would have never thought.
    just try to think like this. if ur present girl leaves you, then among the two girls you will love the girl who is more experienced, more realistic, and the girl who is more happy with out you. hehehehe. thats the character of us. so try to hold your girl and think that she should not leave u. u will be happy then.
    enjoy the life man, understand every thing is an experience for us. so just experience everything.

15. Aries Goddess says on 10/28/08 at 10:33 pm:
    

    Ok, Aries woman here, still reeling from a two year long distance relationship with an Aquarian man…

    As an Aries, he won me with wit, charm, flattery and passion. In early stages, I could not get into a long distance situation, didn’t see it working, but he showered me with compliment and humor and I melted. I fell madly in love with him. True, honest to god, would’ve married him love, which I had never felt before.

    Now, I’d give anything to have him back. We talk, but he isn’t as attentive as I’d like and I just ache for the attention (which I know would return if I could treat him the way he treats me…f*cker. :P)

    So, my advice…one, don’t be telling her you ache for her if you aren’t prepared to leave your current lady, and if you are willing, then do it. It isn’t fair to her if she thinks you love her.

    It took me a year to see my guy in person, we are timid inside when we know you have power over us. If you’ve hurt us…we will be cautious of you.

    Tell her she is the smartest, most creative, most beautiful creature on the planet. Tell her you can’t find women attractive because they’re not her, but don’t be pushy. If you chase too hard, we’ll recoil and think you’re selling something. You are a very charming sign when you want to be…shower her with flattery, find ways to jab with compliment while talking about the weather.

    But, make sure she is what you want. If you manage to get her back (and believe me, I will always cave for attention and sincere compliment…it’s a fault) and then decide that the chase was all you wanted, then you should be alone before you get your lucky ass hands on another Aries. We are freakin awesome, tomcat, lust bunnies, with sharp wits and strength to spare…don’t make us headbutt you.

16. Pouting Pisces says on 11/25/08 at 12:07 pm:
    

    Hi Elsa,

    I was married to a Taurus for 13 years and we divorced earlier in 2008. I had no intention of meeting anybody new, I wanted to take some time, many months, to deal with it and learn who the “single” me is after having been with this woman for 15 years (since I was 23 yrs old). Yet, I randomly met another woman, by chance, shortly before the divorce was final and INSTANTLY felt a bond and attraction. I didn’t share this with her until she revealed the same to me a month or so later. This woman is a Virgo, which I am told is my “opposite” sign. However, we shared such a strong bond, right away.

    Now many tell me it is just because I was going through the divorce, that she is too young for me (I’m 38 she is 26), that it is a whole number of things. But I know from experience, this one is different, it is like it was meant to be. So things were going very, very well, we didn’t have a lot of time together, and that started wearing on me because I wanted more time. I will admit, I did not deal with the loss of my wife and as such, put the grieving process aside. Well, about three months into this new relationship, I started breaking down a bit mentally as I finally tried to cope with the loss of my marriage. I ended up saying some very harsh things to this new woman, and acted a bit irrationally towards her. She was truly, THE ONE, but I ended up losing her.

    So, after my “breakdown” I sent her a huge batch of flowers at work telling her “even though I know I can’t win you back, I want you to know I am truly sorry….” She immediately called and said “I don’t hate you, I don’t think bad of you….you just need to find your single identity…” The phone call ended with me stating, don’t be a stranger, you can call anytime. And she responded, “likewise.” Now I am so embarassed by the way I acted I have yet to call her, and fear that if I do and she does not respond, I may not be able to deal with. Or fear, that she may not call back because she feels I have not spent enough time dealing with it. Essentially, I have not had enough time, but I am a little hurt she has not even called to see how I am doing, and basically, I just want to keep the lines of communication open. That way, when I get a little better mentally, we may be able to try to start over.

    With all that said, my question to you is, “What would be a typical way for a Virgo to act in a situation such as this?” Would Virgos let it go to work itself out, would they just move on without telling the other person, am I just another lovestruck pisces putting too much hope into this. I know we had a chance at an amazing future, yet it was all too much, too soon. I’d love to win her back, but I am not familiar with Virgo’s and don’t want to “over” or “under” do anything. So any comments about Virgos as it relates to this situation and any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.

    Sincerely,
    Pouting Pisces

17. Loonsounds says on 11/25/08 at 12:53 pm:
    

    Sagittarius, check out that video (side bar, how to make a Satittarius fall in love with you) it is about your sign, it is so so so so so s so funny,

    signed, Loonsounds the (mostly) Atypical Taurus

18. anny says on 11/30/08 at 4:48 pm:
    

    OH NOO ariesgirl run in the other direction. If you need attention Aquarius will never understand that you need attention. He is going to be indifferent and he doesn’t change.If you want attention try Cancer or Pisces. I am happy now because I met a Pisceas and my life is magical again. Aquarians always want what they can’t have.

19. anny says on 11/30/08 at 4:52 pm:
    

    (which I know would return if I could treat him the way he treats me…f*cker. :P)

    LOL that Aqua called me back and I just laughed at him on the phone. Please…you don’t deserve a passionate creature like me. But later on I said no I won’t meet you and I am no longer looking. I thought it was funny that he thought he could just pick up where he left off. He called many times. They have no passion they aren’t nice that was just an act. They are selfish and very manipulative and covertly abusive. I don’t want to generalize but that guy was.

20. Reality says on 11/30/08 at 5:00 pm:
    

    Hey Pouting Pisces..Keep sending the flowers and be her friend..Virgos and I am one are practical…You want her proove it shovel her driveway, take her to the grocery store, check the air in her tires.

    And keep apologizing and make sure you show concrete proof of your changes..

    BUT DO NOT PUSH YOURSELF ON HER PHYSICALLY.

    Right now she is thinking you are a nut bar and too emotional and unsure that you really want her. In her practical mind she is a bridge for your divorce. Do you know what her moon sign is ?

21. anny says on 11/30/08 at 5:02 pm:
    

    Loonsounds the (mostly) Atypical Taurus

    LOL that was very amusing. But Sagittarians are usually smart and love the opera. Do they stray? I am a Scorpio cusp Nov 24 and loyal and secretly possessive.

22. Shannen says on 12/9/08 at 1:48 pm:
    

    I’m also Aries and I probably know quite well how she’s thinking She’s mad, because you didn’t hold her up like a princess and now she wants to make you a bit jealous as a “revenge”. I think she also wants you back, but you must come back and tell her how great, beautiful etc she is, and that she is your #1 woman.
    First she wont go back to you, but when she thought about it for a while, I’m 100 % sure she’ll come back. All you must do is tell her how much you think of her and how much you love her! Trust me

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